Making Commitments

[admin]

How are you at keeping commitments? When you make a commitment, do you honor the commitment you have made? Or do you neglect your commitment by going off and doing everything else but the commitment you have made?

Now I have 3 teenagers who are great at making commitments but not always great at following through with them. If it is a commitment they have at home and they don't follow through then I or their dad (usually me) has to do it.

[admin]

And afterthought I had is maybe sometimes a person makes too many commitments. More than they can handle. I remember my sponsor telling me early in my sobriety that there was a little 2 letter word I had to learn to say and that was No. She also said you can't be everything to everybody.

[dalin]

I hear you there.
Somedays we want to make them.
I have been an overcomitter in the past.
Now I realise that it can be a fear based character defect.
I volunteer to poeple please,wanting to be liked.
Then I avoid the things I made my responsibilities.

[eve3]

its alright to say no,sometimes ill say ill c meaning wait till the day goes on so i dont get any one down if i say no later on...if that makes sence eve

[dalin]

yes it does

[janbear]

I use to run from commitments especially in addiction. Today i am willing to make some commitments, do i ever fail at keeping a commitment? Yes, life happens sometimes, sickness, tragedies. You never know what can happen.

[WendyB]

Awesome post, thank you.
In my addiction I was horrible at making any kind of commitment. Today I keep all of my commitments if possible. Things do come up. And I am not scared today to cancel on someone if I have a good reason.
Thursday evening I was suppose to go to dinner with some of my sisters in sobriety. We made plans Monday night. I have a sponsee that asked me to attend a Dr appt. with her at the same time dinner was on Tuesday. I put AA before my stuff today. I feel that being with my sponsee in her time of need was the more unselfish thing to do. Today doing the things that are unselfish in my eyes is Gods work.
Now when it comes to my daughter, If I make a commitment with her, I do not break it if humanely possible. She was the one I hurt the most in my addiction, and I have made a pact with myself to always be there for her. She is one of my living ammends. And with Gods help everyday, I try to be the best Mom I can be.