Self - Talk

[fibiray]

What is your self talk like? Do you reflect positive self talk in your words, thoughts and actions or do you put yourself down and curse yourself?

I have struggled with positive self talk since birth and I still struggle with it today. I drop something a flurry of verbs, nouns and metaphors come flying out of my mouth. I know a lot of this is stuff that is reflecting back from my childhood. I know I am not dumb and I have proven that to myself through the various courses of study that I have done over the years. And yet in the heat of the moment the first word to fly out of my mouth is you dumb @#@#.
Breaking these habits are easier said than done. Share what you do to change the thought process that are deep seated or how you counteract negative thoughts and words.

Fi
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[Troll]

My sponsor and many others...especially those self help folks on tv...and those who tried to counsel me....used the term, "affirmations". I find that when I start to self talk, it is usually the first part of a "rumination" over something I regret or missed out on...in other words, something that deals with the "I" guy. My ruminations used to completely focus on the fear generating aspects of me that would send me into misery and then...I'd head for the self medication cabinet (our counter with them funny little napkins and those glasses with "happiness" inside). After starting to learn how to live in this world, my Beloved started her own affirmation system on the bathroom mirror. Now, much as I hate to admit it, I look in the mirror these days :lol: and I couldn't help but notice all those post it notes around the mirror. As I normally solve world peace or drift into dealing with all the stuff that page 132 suggests that we stay away from, I interjected a few of her sayings....and things got entirely better (at least between my ears). Interesting, those jerks (at least that's what I thought they were) happened to be right...when I focused on the good rather than the words I used to hear in my head....things got better...and my thoughts turned to solutions rather than the issues...hmmmmmm If I thought about good in myself, there seemed to be more good around me and I was happier......self speak....hmmmmm....yeah, trolls make that sound in their head,too. So, I attempt now to interject the affirmations when I start to self speak about the icky self stuff....like at 3 a.m. when I wake up and the hard drive in my head goes into data save...or into it's high speed download mode of all the "stuff" that could (or might) happen....I pause the application...and do a moment of the "Bob is okay" stuff....seems to work...Thanks, HP....ya did it again!!