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dalin
09-01-2007, 01:46 AM
Understanding & Changing Your Beliefs
This is perhaps one of the most important pages on the Self Creation site. If you act on the information on this page, I guarantee your life will never be the same. A bold statement, but true.
Beliefs are any ideas you think are true about yourself, others, and life. Clarity about what you believe, who you are, what you want, and why you want it can be like a beacon on a clear night, guiding you to the fulfillment of your desires. Unfortunately, most of us aren't aware of our beliefs, many of which we acquired as children. You can live your whole life unaware of how you're beliefs are effecting your feelings, thoughts and actions.

Some beliefs are counter-productive to what you say you want. Wouldn't it be nice to identify those beliefs? Examine them for validity? There are so many self-defeating beliefs but here are just a few I've identified in myself and others. Do you believe any of the following?

Self Defeating Beliefs

If I'm happy now, I won't be motivated to change anything.
I can't change. This is just the way I am.
My feelings are natural reactions, not something I can control.
If I control my feelings, I'll be a robot.
I have to have [love, sex, or money] in order to be happy.
If I don't feel guilty, I’ll continue to do "bad" things.
You have to do some things you don't want to do in this life.
No pain, no gain.
If I was happy all the time, I’d be a blithering idiot.
People who are optimistic aren't realistic.
You can’t have your cake and eat it too.
If happiness was my priority, I'd be inconsiderate of others.
It's a dog-eat-dog world out there.
Changing Your Beliefs
So far this site has mainly engaged you at the reading level. Changing the beliefs that are causing you pain is where the rubber really hits the road. If you are serious about wanting to turn your life around, you're going to have to go beyond simply reading. You will not experience change reading about ideas. Oh, I'm all for ideas. I love to read too. But real change doesn't happen until it's personal.
I don't know if you're like me, but I have read a lot of books, attended a lot of programs, listened to umpteen tapes and talked about personal growth a tremendous amount. But none of this really made any huge difference in how I felt, what I did, or helped me get what I wanted, at least not in the long term.

I'm telling you this because I've been where you are. If you're reading this, you're searching for answers. I didn't experience any concrete changes in my life until I was exposed to the Option Method.

Although the Option Method has been compared to many different types of psychotherapies, it is radically different than anything I've ever experienced. It's the only process I've found that not only helped me changed my mind, but where you could visibly see the differences in my life. And isn't that what we all want? I mean it's nice to feel inspired and get high off a new realization, but what I really wanted was to feel better about myself and life on a more consistent basis. I wanted to be able to pursue my desires without all the fears (and they were numerous.) I wanted to make more permanent changes where I didn't keep falling back into old habits that weren't working. The Option Method helped me do all that for myself.

The Option Method
The Option Method is a series of carefully designed questions, that when asked, help you identify, and change (if you wish) those beliefs that are causing you pain.
Although the process was designed as a Self-Help tool, it's my personal opinion that you can't really reap the full benefits of a dialogue by yourself until you've had a few dialogues with an Option Method Practitioner. When I first did the process on my own, I kept getting stuck. After I had had four or five dialogues with a Practitioner I was much better able to do the dialogues by myself.

It certainly doesn't hurt to read about the Option Method, but you won't experience the changes I talked about until you actually have an Option Method dialogue on your own. I make no money if you schedule a dialogue with a Practitioner, but I will have the satisfaction of knowing I helped you. Below are links where you can learn more about the method. The links will open a separate browser window so you'll easily be able to return to this site.

dalin
09-01-2007, 01:49 AM
Option Method Dialogue

When you are unhappy it is because you believe you should be. You feel it is necessary. Whenever you are unhappy (or angry, sad, frightened; use your own words) you can become happy by asking yourself:

“If it were possible, would I like to be happy and suffer less?”

If you answer YES, then ask yourself these questions.

“What am I unhappy about?”
“What about that am I most afraid?” and/or “What am I most afraid will happen?” (try and be more precise)
“If that were to happen, why would I be unhappy about it?”
Continue clarifying by repeating the above question. If you answer, “I always have been,” or “Wouldn’t anyone?” rephrase the question to mean “what is MY reason now for being unhappy about this?” When you repeatedly answer “I don’t know,” ask this...

“What am I afraid it would mean if I was not unhappy about this?”
If you answer something like “It would mean I didn’t care,” or “It would mean I was crazy,” that shows how you are preferring and choosing to be unhappy because you are afraid that happiness would mean you didn’t care about what you see yourself as caring about.

“Why would it have to mean that?”
Even if you were happy now, you are still for whatever you are for and against whatever you are against. Being happy is not contradictory to your values or desires.

by Bruce Di Marsico

If you’d like to have someone help you through the dialogue questions the first few times, consider working with an Option Method Practitioner.

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dalin
09-01-2007, 01:57 AM
This is exclusively for info.
The option can be good,but always talk to
your sponsor first.
I did my work with one of there counselors after having
six years clean,as a diferant aproach to changing some beliefs.
So please work the steps first.
This isnt a quick fix.