Tough realization

[Chaz]

I realized today that I was behaving in a way that I found very hurtful when someone else behaves that same way toward me.

Someone in my life continues to avoid dealing with some important issues because they are not comfortable dealing with the issues yet. In spite of strong evidence to the contrary.... that they should deal with the issues.... they continue to avoid as they have for years. I am affected dramatically by this avoidance and have been hurt by it for years.

Today, I realized that I have been avoiding a situation that I know I should address. There is, in fact, no reason for me to avoid it other than I just don't feel comfortable. The time is short for me to deal with it because it is to do with an ailing relative who may not be around much longer.

I have had plenty of input on this matter and still have no good reason to continue to avoid, yet I have been. I know deep in my heart that I need to buck up and deal with it. Maybe I am hurting this person as much as I feel hurt by the other person avoiding me. I guess this is what growth, maturity, and honesty are all about eh?

Chaz

[FOOLINTHERAIN]

Chaz,thanks for sharing.
All i can say is i was faced with a similiar situation and waited to long.
My mother passed before i got around to dealing with the issue.
Perhaps through your strength and honesty this other person will find the courage
to deal with the issue at hand.
I have found my greatest growth often comes from the greatest pain or faer that i have
dealt with openly and honestly.
hope it helps.
kirk

[Chaz]

Yah Fool.... it does help... thanks. I am no longer affraid of pain in the way I once was. I have a deeper understanding that pain leads to good results.... as you have stated. When we get through a painful situation... we almost always come out so much stronger, wiser, more mature. Therefore, there is no good reason to continue avoiding whatever perceived pain may come with dealing with the issues I mentioned. So ya.

Thanks.

Chaz

[mellotripp]

I too have a mother who has put me in a situation. She is still alive and the best I can do is care for her the best way I can. We both depend on each other. My sick emotions sometimes have me disagreeing with her, although I know that most of the time she is right. We do argue at times, she doesn't deserve it. God helps to see where I am wrong in these situations and I apologize to her accordingly. My tough realization is that I ended up caring for her because I had no other place to go after my divorce, my sisters dished out the money to care for her eventually, but when I took care of her on my own, they still saw me as a burden to her. No matter what I do I may never be seen in the position of a responsible son by my siblings and that I will have to accept, and try to be the best son I can.