i need help please

[cattiecathy]

I have been going to a group for 1yr and 3 mo. My ex of 10 yrs worked his 12 step on me .We are not togeater he is dating someone else in the program .Fine, They come to the grandbabies birthday parties and I show them respect.But his girlfriend gets in my face and threatings me at meetings and I walk away.Then she makes amends to me .I don;t talk to her or him.I am disable and live on a budget.can't afford to go far.Will I went to a meeting monday and he was at the meeting house but dosen;t go to that meeting. I was sitting outside with the chairman of the meeting and she comes up ,jumps out of her car and comes up to me and starts screeming .You thought you was going to get to talk to him but I f that up didn;t I?I was like WHAT I told her I had came to the six aclock meeting.and she flipped her cigg in my face burning me. My ex says its my fault for coming to meetings.So I go talk to the manager about it .He says my ex is his friend and mircule child.So I can only come there on tues and sundays.The traditions say recovery is based on aa unity I have no aa unity.I have been as involved in this program as I can and instead of her being accoutable I'm being accountable for her action. I can not stay sobber sitting home 5 days a week. I makes me and others in the program feel like it's only about who's who. it says you never have to be alone again will I more alone than ever help

[snugsnug]

hey cattiecathy, welcome.
all i can suggest is to call your sponsor, and if you can maybe go to another meeting. there is supposed to be unity, but like most everything in life there are some who just do not get it. you do not need to let them run you off, you have the same right to recovery as them, but you need to feel safe. there is "supposed" to be an atmosphere of recovery so that we can hear the simple, unconfusion message. they say "some are sicker than others" and they also say "some recover quicker than others". for her to get so mad, there just might be something that she needs to look at. Above all else, just don't pick up.

[admin]

Along with what snugsnug suggested I might would talk to a lawyer and/or the police and see what they say could be done about her actions. A restraining order for her may be in the future. Maybe get yourself a can of mace to have in case she gets dangerous. You have to protect yourself. I would also pray for her which I will do for all of you. Please feel free to continue to come and share with us. :42:

[dalin]

Take care of you...but pray for her.

[marysson]

can you invite over one or two friends from the aa meeting to come and play some cards or scrabble or watch a movie on tv...not a meeting per se but something helpful to be around people who want to be strong and want to keep you strong...go ahead...telephone someone and invite them over..you will have a nice day and feel better...we need to step forward in the right direction the direction is a circle...360 places to step out..if one place is blocked by something there are 359 other forward steps to take..:wink: