Feeling better

[Wisha]

I had sobered up for 9 months, that was the longest time for me. I then relapsed for a little over one year. I have now been sober for about 13 days for alcohol and 20 days for drugs. it’s the longest in a while, I usually couldn’t make it past 3. I feel like I did the time when I quit for the nine months. I think I can make it this time with some help and support and a changed lifestyle. I know I need this to continue living. I really don’t know what happened to give me the strength to go the 13 days that I have, I have to thank God for answering my prayers, it’s as though a switch has been flicked. I don’t want to get ahead of myself because I know it’s only been about two weeks, but that gives me the motivation to try.

I have just gotten a job also.. Not having worked in over one year. I really never could hold a job down while drinking and drugging. That too will help I know.

I moved to another state over a year ago and have met a few people. Partiers. I have now, in the last month been separating myself from them, they really haven’t even bothered to call. Once the drugs are gone the phone stops ringing. I don’t have an attachment to the because I know that they are not good for me, not that they are bad people, but just not good for me and my life. So I do not really have any friends. It’s hard for me to find any sober ones.

I just met a new employee at my job and she said that we should hang out sometime like go out to the bar after work. I know it’s not a good idea. I really didn’t say anything, knowing that I do not want to be in a bar. She seems very nice and I would like someone to hang out with sometimes… but to me it does not seem like a good idea. I don’t want to be rude to her and ignore her invitation. On the other hand, I don’t want to tell her I’m a recovery alcoholic. I wouldn’t want any of my co-workers to know.. Does that mean I’m not fully excepting my disease? I guess I feel ashamed of it. Possible we could do something else besides drink. But that seems to have disaster written all over it. Do you agree? Should I totally separate myself from everyone who drinks? I don’t want to be so picky, but this is my life.


Thank you for taking the time to listen, sorry it’s so long… :195::17:

[janbear]

Hi Wisha, Congratulations on 13 days clean and sober. :85: For me, i found clean and sober friends in the rooms of N.A and A.A. and you can too and you can make extra clean and sober friends here too. If someone asked me if i wanted to hang out at a bar with them, i personally would decline and think of something else to do that doesnt involve alcohol or drugs. For a recovering person i suggest meetings, finding a sponsor and doing what they suggest. Hang with recovering people. I personally would tell them, I dont drink anymore and leave it at that. I am not willing to risk my own recovery to gain a friend who wants to hang out at bars. Its not worth it to me.
Thats me. I hope i said something that helps. Hang in there and keep coming back.

[Humblepie]

Glad you are feeling better and congratulations not only on the 13 days but on getting a new job.

I'm going to get right to the point on this one. Don't go to the bar Wisha. That's the best advice I can give you.

There are plenty of great people in AA and NA. I also have the advantage of having an excepting church to go to. I know not all us alcoholics and addicts are real big on going to church but I thought I would mention it as another source of sober caring people.

It is a wonderful thing to have people in my life who except me for who I am and I'm sure there are plenty out there just waiting to meet you.

Like Janbear said we will be your friends here. I'll hang out with you. :1:

[admin]

Hey Wisha, Congratulations on 13 days! :29: It's been said if you hang aorund the barber shop long enough you will get a haircut. It's also been said we should change our playmates and playpens. If you don't wish to go to the bar then you just simply say No or you can say No thank you. You don't have to say anything else. For myself, I don't desire to go to a bar. They just aren't my thing these days. Today I have many friends in recovery. Give yourself time and you can have the same starting with all of us hre. We also have an Online Journal forum where some have journals that they use in their everyday life. If you haven't yet, feel free to start a journal their for yourself. We are here for you. Keep coming and sharing with us. :42: