I'm new and pray I'm not in the wrong place!

[darryl1960]

My name is Darryl and I am entirely out of my element in doing this! Let me begin by saying that I am a "relationship addict." Quite honestly, I have never been prone to alcohol, so I cannot relate to that aspect of what many/most/all of you may be experiencing. However, I do know the despair and emptiness that comes with addiction, and I'm trying desparately to find a place where I can get some consistent online support. Would it be innapropriate for me to ask that I may be a part of your fellowship here? I cannot find anything comparable in the area of which I struggle. I suffer from the same abadonment issues that many of you struggle with and I need honest and the "in your face" support I feel that I may find here. I have struggled all of my life to find my way through emotuional morrass. Most who know me see me as incredibly adept in everything I do, and tremendously successful. They have no idea!!! I'm just tired of lying to others and to myself. Let me know what you guys think. Thanks, Darryl

[dalin]

Welcome home!

[dalin]

Whatever changes how I feel,I am addicted to it.
Hang out and read,get involved.
Glad you are here!!

[admin]

:67: darryl! :17: Glad to have you join us. The 12 steps for AA have been modified to use for help with other addictions as well. The first step in AA is "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable." Just remove the word alcohol and fill in the blank. "We admitted we were powerless over _______--that our lives had become unmanageable." I feel one way we all relate regardless of what we are addicted to is our underlying problems and reasons. An oldtimer use to share in AA meetings I went to that we are obsessive and compulsive people. I feel we can relate also as being that. Please make yourself at home here. I look forward to hearing more from you. Keep coming and sharing. :42:

[kaistevens]

I'm Kai, and I'm an alcoholic.

You may be surprised to find that you fit right in here. Many of us have been addicted to relationships and/or sex as well as drugs or alcohol.

I didn't have an alcohol problem, I had a living problem. I had an alcohol solution. It was my 'solutions' that were my problem.

Keep coming back. I think you'll like it here. :171:

Kai
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[janbear]

Hi Darryl, Glad you are here. Keep coming back and let us get to know you better.

[celticgrey]

Hi Darryl! Like has already been mentioned this is a good place to bring yourself and your problems, to look for solutions. Alcohol for me was just a symptom of my inability to build good relationships and function in life. I think you'll find you have a lot in common with many of us. Keep coming back!
Terry

[darryl1960]

I wanted to thank you so much for all of the kind replies. Now, if someone can just give me a little guidance as to how I may best utilize this site. Where do I begin?!!!!!! Thanks again, Darryl

[celticgrey]

Darryl, I have found there is a little something here for everyone! I myself, usually start with the new posts button at the top of the menu and read and/or reply sometmes. I also will go to the reading button and depending upon the mood I'm in, will pick something from that menu and so on. There is enough here to be overwhelming I'm thinking, but just pick a piece or two each day and pretty soon you will be navigating with the best of us. Personally I'm a little slow getting around and don't always get on site everyday but am trying to change that. It all comes with time! :1:
Terry

[Prescott]

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[Humblepie]

Hi darryl. You fit in here just fine. As has already been said alcohol is but a symptom.

Your description of your struggles sound very familiar. Feel free to share whatever is on your mind.:smile: