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06-19-2006, 06:48 AM
bluidkiti:
1. What is the importance of the first 90 days in recovery?
2. Why is "90 meetings in 90 days" said to the newcomer?
3.Do you remember your first 90 days?
4. What did you learn during that time?
5. For the relapser, what did you not do? What are you working on? What are you having difficulty with?
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david:
Hi
that first 90 days was spent getting taken to meetings every night , phone ringing non stop each day, a man who felt nothing but selfpity and self loathing was loved and caried till i began to feel the urge for that first drink ease and a feeling that i wanted what you in aa had began to slip into my thinking, the thought in the morning that i only had to last till the meeting that night made it so much easier to survive the feeling of wanting to drink. thank god that you were there to see me through,
yours in soberiety david
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Baritone:
The first time i heard "90 meetings in 90 days", I laughed at the thought. One meeting a week ought to be enough for me! is what i was thinking when i picked up my white chip. But the very next evening i found myself in such a state that i knew i either was going to go to a meeting or i was going to drink. And i quickly came to appreciate how for one hour a night i could be at peace, feeling the joy of sobriety all around me and the love of one alcoholic for another. In the end, i probably made about 130 meetings my first 90 days.
I've also seen a newcomer write their own version of 90 meetings in 90 days, like adding up 40 AA meetings, 15 outpatient meetings, 15 therapy group meetings, and 20 counseling sessions and calling it "90 in 90" (true story!) stars . Not surprisingly this person didn't stay sober. 90 in 90 is not about punching a time clock for hours spent on recovery ... it's about getting oneself plugged into AA, the meetings, and the people there.
- Jim
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zoomie:
I never thought that I could do 90/90. I tried my hardest and came here too. I then also made more meetings after the 90 days where done to make up for some i missed due to my family. 90/90 for me is getting yourself to learn how to swim in sobriety. You can't learn to truly swim unless you get wet,just as you cannot learn the true program unless you make as many meetings as possible in early recovery. The first time around I only learned how to tread AA,not swim with it. I managed to stay afloat for 6 years,but now I know it takes more to live the program that to just tread AA. I love AA so much now and am truly greatful that I put so much time into the 90/90. LOL, I use to double up or triple up if I missed a meeting on one day so i could say I made 90/90. I miss my meetings,but now I have to work,but I'm trying to get a job that will enable me to fit more in. Anyway that's the importance of 90/90 for me is...
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Misselle:
Well, my schedule makes it impossible to ever do 90 in 90. I went once a week before I relapsed - made it about 9 months. Now I try for 2-3 a week. I think having the other sources of support too, like a sponsor and this board helps me pick up the slack. I definitely have to keep my recovery in mind each and every day so that I don't become complacent (again). For me, as long as I make an effort to do something for my recovery (whether it be coming here, talking to my sponsor, or attending a meeting) I feel like I can resist a drink.
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Hello:
I am new in sobriety and my sponsor never told me I had to go to 90/90. I'm a "sensative" Alcoholic Geez! I probably would have told him to "Go To Lunch" or something along those lines anyway. Going to meetings and rehab I heard the term "90 meetings in 90 days" alot and decided to look in the Big Book to find out what it says about it. I encourage everyone to do the same, and then make up your own mind.
Meetings, Sponsors, Psychiatrists and treatment are all luxories. The Big Book is the only thing people had when AA was in it's infancy. A person was forced to read and study the text. The reason AA became so popular is because it worked. That book explained things in a way people had never heard before. With the 12 steps of AA the alcoholic finally had a way to battle their disease and in most cases they were able to stay sober if they were capable of rigorous honesty.
My opinion of 90/90 is this. If a person needs 90 meetings in 90 days then they should by all means do that. If they need 1000/1000 then they should do that. Bottom line is do whatever it takes to stay sober. When a person begins force feeding their program down your throat, be cautious. My sponsor says, "I'll teach you my program until you figure out your own program. My program won't keep you sober". He always follows that up with, "Meetings won't keep you sober. The Big Book and your higher power will keep you sober".
Love Dolbey
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blueeyes1967:
I didn't go to rehab so I went to something ridiculous amount of meetings at least three a day, sometimes more. I am lucky that I live somewhere that has a lot of meetings, before work, during lunch, and at night. My first sponsor told me that If I wasn't working, I should be in a meeting. I've also heard it said that you should be going to meetings when you would have been drinking. For me, that was constantly, so I just went and held on to my chair for the first few months.
I will say this about 90/90....when you first get here, there's all these cliche's and topics that you have never heard of. Going to a lot of meetings gets you familiar with the lingo and the community. It was important for me to feel a part of early on and going to a lot of meetings, I soon saw people from the program everywhere I go (still do).
I learned that I can sleep without alcohol. I learned that alcoholics are the funniest and warmest people I have ever known. (I know this because I'm quite sure I said some really silly stuff my first few months of sobriety) I learned what that fear feeling was and how if I was really scared, I needed to get to a meeting and fast. And most importantly for me, I learned that I can't think sobriety I have to feel it and do the footwork.
Dang, I do go on. I think it's invaluable and I "suggest" it to anyone who is new to the program, even if they've been in rehab.
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bry:
Yeah 90 meetings in 90 days who were these people kidding. Like I never spent an hour a day with my voldka bottle.
It was still a struggle because even though I would do more than 90/90 I would still relapse. My problem was after working the program for 7 years I still thought I new it all. What I forgot was i didn't know sh!+ and if I didn't remember that only a power greater than myself could restore me I'd never stay sober again
Today my higher power is working in my life as well as making meetings and it's easier realizing I'm as smart as a bag of rocks.
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Misselle:
I have to agree with Blue - I joke around that I became an alcoholic for the people but seriously, most (recovering) alcoholics and addicts that I know (including you all!) are the warmest, funniest, most genuine people I have ever had the pleasure to know.
Hey, with gas prices the way they are, who they he!! can afford 90 in 90?! (Seriously, I couldn't!!) goofy
-Nicole
1. What is the importance of the first 90 days in recovery?
2. Why is "90 meetings in 90 days" said to the newcomer?
3.Do you remember your first 90 days?
4. What did you learn during that time?
5. For the relapser, what did you not do? What are you working on? What are you having difficulty with?
_________________
david:
Hi
that first 90 days was spent getting taken to meetings every night , phone ringing non stop each day, a man who felt nothing but selfpity and self loathing was loved and caried till i began to feel the urge for that first drink ease and a feeling that i wanted what you in aa had began to slip into my thinking, the thought in the morning that i only had to last till the meeting that night made it so much easier to survive the feeling of wanting to drink. thank god that you were there to see me through,
yours in soberiety david
_________________
Baritone:
The first time i heard "90 meetings in 90 days", I laughed at the thought. One meeting a week ought to be enough for me! is what i was thinking when i picked up my white chip. But the very next evening i found myself in such a state that i knew i either was going to go to a meeting or i was going to drink. And i quickly came to appreciate how for one hour a night i could be at peace, feeling the joy of sobriety all around me and the love of one alcoholic for another. In the end, i probably made about 130 meetings my first 90 days.
I've also seen a newcomer write their own version of 90 meetings in 90 days, like adding up 40 AA meetings, 15 outpatient meetings, 15 therapy group meetings, and 20 counseling sessions and calling it "90 in 90" (true story!) stars . Not surprisingly this person didn't stay sober. 90 in 90 is not about punching a time clock for hours spent on recovery ... it's about getting oneself plugged into AA, the meetings, and the people there.
- Jim
_________________
l
zoomie:
I never thought that I could do 90/90. I tried my hardest and came here too. I then also made more meetings after the 90 days where done to make up for some i missed due to my family. 90/90 for me is getting yourself to learn how to swim in sobriety. You can't learn to truly swim unless you get wet,just as you cannot learn the true program unless you make as many meetings as possible in early recovery. The first time around I only learned how to tread AA,not swim with it. I managed to stay afloat for 6 years,but now I know it takes more to live the program that to just tread AA. I love AA so much now and am truly greatful that I put so much time into the 90/90. LOL, I use to double up or triple up if I missed a meeting on one day so i could say I made 90/90. I miss my meetings,but now I have to work,but I'm trying to get a job that will enable me to fit more in. Anyway that's the importance of 90/90 for me is...
_________________
Misselle:
Well, my schedule makes it impossible to ever do 90 in 90. I went once a week before I relapsed - made it about 9 months. Now I try for 2-3 a week. I think having the other sources of support too, like a sponsor and this board helps me pick up the slack. I definitely have to keep my recovery in mind each and every day so that I don't become complacent (again). For me, as long as I make an effort to do something for my recovery (whether it be coming here, talking to my sponsor, or attending a meeting) I feel like I can resist a drink.
_________________
Hello:
I am new in sobriety and my sponsor never told me I had to go to 90/90. I'm a "sensative" Alcoholic Geez! I probably would have told him to "Go To Lunch" or something along those lines anyway. Going to meetings and rehab I heard the term "90 meetings in 90 days" alot and decided to look in the Big Book to find out what it says about it. I encourage everyone to do the same, and then make up your own mind.
Meetings, Sponsors, Psychiatrists and treatment are all luxories. The Big Book is the only thing people had when AA was in it's infancy. A person was forced to read and study the text. The reason AA became so popular is because it worked. That book explained things in a way people had never heard before. With the 12 steps of AA the alcoholic finally had a way to battle their disease and in most cases they were able to stay sober if they were capable of rigorous honesty.
My opinion of 90/90 is this. If a person needs 90 meetings in 90 days then they should by all means do that. If they need 1000/1000 then they should do that. Bottom line is do whatever it takes to stay sober. When a person begins force feeding their program down your throat, be cautious. My sponsor says, "I'll teach you my program until you figure out your own program. My program won't keep you sober". He always follows that up with, "Meetings won't keep you sober. The Big Book and your higher power will keep you sober".
Love Dolbey
_________________
blueeyes1967:
I didn't go to rehab so I went to something ridiculous amount of meetings at least three a day, sometimes more. I am lucky that I live somewhere that has a lot of meetings, before work, during lunch, and at night. My first sponsor told me that If I wasn't working, I should be in a meeting. I've also heard it said that you should be going to meetings when you would have been drinking. For me, that was constantly, so I just went and held on to my chair for the first few months.
I will say this about 90/90....when you first get here, there's all these cliche's and topics that you have never heard of. Going to a lot of meetings gets you familiar with the lingo and the community. It was important for me to feel a part of early on and going to a lot of meetings, I soon saw people from the program everywhere I go (still do).
I learned that I can sleep without alcohol. I learned that alcoholics are the funniest and warmest people I have ever known. (I know this because I'm quite sure I said some really silly stuff my first few months of sobriety) I learned what that fear feeling was and how if I was really scared, I needed to get to a meeting and fast. And most importantly for me, I learned that I can't think sobriety I have to feel it and do the footwork.
Dang, I do go on. I think it's invaluable and I "suggest" it to anyone who is new to the program, even if they've been in rehab.
_________________
bry:
Yeah 90 meetings in 90 days who were these people kidding. Like I never spent an hour a day with my voldka bottle.
It was still a struggle because even though I would do more than 90/90 I would still relapse. My problem was after working the program for 7 years I still thought I new it all. What I forgot was i didn't know sh!+ and if I didn't remember that only a power greater than myself could restore me I'd never stay sober again
Today my higher power is working in my life as well as making meetings and it's easier realizing I'm as smart as a bag of rocks.
_________________
Misselle:
I have to agree with Blue - I joke around that I became an alcoholic for the people but seriously, most (recovering) alcoholics and addicts that I know (including you all!) are the warmest, funniest, most genuine people I have ever had the pleasure to know.
Hey, with gas prices the way they are, who they he!! can afford 90 in 90?! (Seriously, I couldn't!!) goofy
-Nicole