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<b>Clean42day</b> - Sat 04 Mar, 2006 11:54 am<br>
<b>Post subject: </b>relapse inventory worksheet<hr class="sep" width="95%">
<span style="color: blue;">Recovery/Relapse Inventory Worksheet
<br>
<br>
The whole point of this worksheet is to look back and identify and discover in what areas you failed to work your program of recovery. If we don’t learn from our relapses.....and become aware of what not to do again…..we are destined to repeat those same mistakes.
<br>
<br>
If you are willing to at least look at your thinking, feelings, and behavior that led up to the relapse…..you are moving towards recovery, not away from it.
<br>
<br>
It is just as important to look at assets, as well as liabilities. We look at what was working as opposed to what didn’t work and identify problem areas. These are the areas we want to bring into our awareness this time….so they won’t slip below the radar again.
<br>
<br>
In what ways was I actively working my program? (explain/describe)
<br>
Meetings?
<br>
Sponsor?
<br>
Steps?
<br>
Higher power?
<br>
Service?
<br>
<br>
In what areas did I let my program slide or become complacent? (explain/describe)
<br>
Meetings?
<br>
Sponsor?
<br>
Steps?
<br>
Higher power?
<br>
Service?
<br>
<br>
In what ways was my life manageable?(explain/describe)
<br>
Mentally?
<br>
Emotionally?
<br>
Physically?
<br>
Spiritually?
<br>
<br>
In what ways was my life unmanageable? (explain/describe – be specific)
<br>
Mentally?
<br>
Emotionally?
<br>
Physically?
<br>
Spiritually?
<br>
<br>
What events/situations affected my life negatively? (people, places, things, relationships, work)
<br>
How did I handle those events? (positive/negative)
<br>
What choices (self-will) do I think led me back into unmanageability?
<br>
Were these choices well thought out or impulsive reactions?
<br>
In what ways was I in denial of the direction I was heading?
<br>
What circumstances could I have handled differently? In what way?
<br>
<br>
How was my emotional life unmanageable without the use of drugs? (in what ways – describe feelings and over what).
<br>
<br>
What were my thinking processes? (describe) Was I lying to myself?
<br>
<br>
How did my behavior change? In what ways?
<br>
<br>
In what areas did I lack faith or not use my Higher Powers Guidance?
<br>
<br>
In what ways did my character defects come into play? (explain/describe all areas)
<br>
Denial?
<br>
Dishonesty?
<br>
Selfishness?
<br>
Stealing? Emotional stealing others trust?
<br>
Emotional, physical, sexual, financial manipulation of others?
<br>
Distrust of self and others?
<br>
Resentments? How they affected me and what actions did I take / or not take?
<br>
Self reliance/isolation?
<br>
Blame? Who did I blame for my feelings and why?
<br>
<br>
In what ways did I depend on others to meet my needs?
<br>
Where did I not take responsibility for myself and my program?
<br>
In what ways did I give my power to others?
<br>
<br>
Now looking at the answers to all these questions – Identify the problem areas?
<br>
<br>
List them:
<br>
<br>
What do I need to work on?
<br>
What do I need to watch for? Warning signs? Triggers?
<br>
<br>
In my best thinking…..How could I actively stay aware and work my program differently this time? (explain/describe).
<br>
<br>
What active actions can I take to promote my recovery?
<br>
<br>
How does my behavior need to change?
<br>
<br>
How will I rely on my Higher power to help me make these changes?
<br>
<br>
How can I align my will with my Higher powers guidance?
<br>
<br>
What can I do this time that I did not do last time to ensure a stronger program.</span> <hr>
<b>Clean42day</b> - Sat 04 Mar, 2006 12:11 pm<br>
<b>Post subject: </b>A Day at a time<hr class="sep" width="95%">
<span style="color: blue;"> Recieved in E-mail ADAAT Group (a day at a time group)
<br>
<br>
OVERCOMING SELF-WILL
<br>
<br>
<br>
<br>
So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us!
<br>
<br>
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p 62
<br>
<br>
<br>
<br>
For so many years my life revolved solely around myself. I was consumed with self in all forms--self-centeredness, self-pity, self-seeking, all of which stemmed from pride. Today I have been given the gift, through the Fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous, of practicing the Steps and Traditions in my daily life, of my group and sponsor, and the capacity--if I so choose--to put my pride aside in all situations which arise in my life.
<br>
Until I could honestly look at myself and see that I was the problem in many situations and react appropriately inside and out; until I could discard my expectations and understand that my serenity was directly proportional to them, I could not experience serenity and sound sobriety. </span> <hr>
<b>Clean42day</b> - Sat 04 Mar, 2006 1:03 pm<br>
<b>Post subject: </b><hr class="sep" width="95%">
<span style="color: blue;">I had to do one of these relapse worksheets when i entered treatment the last time and it revealed so much about me and my self will that I finally became convinced that I had to surrender EVERYTHING!
<br>
<br>
Men, sex, and money were my biggest problem areas. I let them become my higher power.
<br>
<br>
my self will would drive the desire for instant gratification, and I would forget all about God's will in these areas.
<br>
<br>
back then i couldn't see how manipulating men, using outside validation, using relationships to get my needs met sexually, or being in constant fear of financial insecurity would lead me right back into old behavior, unmanageability and ultimatley relapse. Because I would take the wrong action in these areas and feel like sh!+ about myself afterwards.
<br>
<br>
if we always do what we've always done. we alwasy get what we've always got.
<br>
<br>
I became willing to surrender these areas of my life into practicing new behavior, doing the footwork to create a new level of integrity with myself and rebuild my character, delay my gratification and work on a relationship with myself and my higher power.
<br>
<br>
The closer I felt to being connected to God the less power all of these other areas had over me and eventaully I hit a bottom with them, and broke through the patterns that had ruled my life for so long.
<br>
<br>
staying out of relationships was the biggest gift I could give myself....
<br>
being sexually celebate forced me to validate myself as a whole human and spiritual being instead of just a sexual being.
<br>
and by choosing to be a student and not work....forced me to be broke and learn that I can not only live through it, but to manage the money I do have and learn some trust that I can indeed live with the least and still be happy.
<br>
<br>
<br>
staying in right action and doing gods will today has become more important and more fulfilling than getting laid, being in love relationship, and having the most money.
<br>
<br>
those use to be huge obsticles for me and today I have freedoms from them.
<br>
<br>
The result.....well before in my past 3 recoveries....i could never manage to put together more than 4-6 months clean time.
<br>
<br>
This time I have 3 years 3 months. so something must be working!
<br>
A lot of my recovery has been learning what not to do and what doesn't work.
<br>
<br>
and the greatest gift is that I do believe, have faith, and trust that when God thinks I am ready he will eventaully restore these areas of my life to his divine right order and
<br>
I wil be able to have balance and keep my priorities in order. all I have to do is keep God first in my life.
<br>
<br>
in the meantime all I have to do is stay in right action, choose healthy behaviors, be safe, be strong and many times just be still.....and the gifts of recovery will come.
<br>
<br>
Self reliance can be a way of keeping God out of my life and I learned some very painful lessons behind that and self-will.
<br>
<br>
just thought some self disclosure might help others....I know self-disclosre sure does help me.
<br>
<br>
"Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty. Their chances are less than average.
<br>
<br>
<br>
A-mend :(uh mend')
<br>
<br>
2. To change for the better; improve.
<br>
<br>
3. To remove or correct faults in; rectify.
<br>
<br>
4. To grow or become better by reforming oneself</span>
<br>
<br>
<br>
<img src="images/smiles/29.gif" alt="bye" border="0">
<br>
<br>
<br>
light and love,
<br>
<br>
Gail
<b>Post subject: </b>relapse inventory worksheet<hr class="sep" width="95%">
<span style="color: blue;">Recovery/Relapse Inventory Worksheet
<br>
<br>
The whole point of this worksheet is to look back and identify and discover in what areas you failed to work your program of recovery. If we don’t learn from our relapses.....and become aware of what not to do again…..we are destined to repeat those same mistakes.
<br>
<br>
If you are willing to at least look at your thinking, feelings, and behavior that led up to the relapse…..you are moving towards recovery, not away from it.
<br>
<br>
It is just as important to look at assets, as well as liabilities. We look at what was working as opposed to what didn’t work and identify problem areas. These are the areas we want to bring into our awareness this time….so they won’t slip below the radar again.
<br>
<br>
In what ways was I actively working my program? (explain/describe)
<br>
Meetings?
<br>
Sponsor?
<br>
Steps?
<br>
Higher power?
<br>
Service?
<br>
<br>
In what areas did I let my program slide or become complacent? (explain/describe)
<br>
Meetings?
<br>
Sponsor?
<br>
Steps?
<br>
Higher power?
<br>
Service?
<br>
<br>
In what ways was my life manageable?(explain/describe)
<br>
Mentally?
<br>
Emotionally?
<br>
Physically?
<br>
Spiritually?
<br>
<br>
In what ways was my life unmanageable? (explain/describe – be specific)
<br>
Mentally?
<br>
Emotionally?
<br>
Physically?
<br>
Spiritually?
<br>
<br>
What events/situations affected my life negatively? (people, places, things, relationships, work)
<br>
How did I handle those events? (positive/negative)
<br>
What choices (self-will) do I think led me back into unmanageability?
<br>
Were these choices well thought out or impulsive reactions?
<br>
In what ways was I in denial of the direction I was heading?
<br>
What circumstances could I have handled differently? In what way?
<br>
<br>
How was my emotional life unmanageable without the use of drugs? (in what ways – describe feelings and over what).
<br>
<br>
What were my thinking processes? (describe) Was I lying to myself?
<br>
<br>
How did my behavior change? In what ways?
<br>
<br>
In what areas did I lack faith or not use my Higher Powers Guidance?
<br>
<br>
In what ways did my character defects come into play? (explain/describe all areas)
<br>
Denial?
<br>
Dishonesty?
<br>
Selfishness?
<br>
Stealing? Emotional stealing others trust?
<br>
Emotional, physical, sexual, financial manipulation of others?
<br>
Distrust of self and others?
<br>
Resentments? How they affected me and what actions did I take / or not take?
<br>
Self reliance/isolation?
<br>
Blame? Who did I blame for my feelings and why?
<br>
<br>
In what ways did I depend on others to meet my needs?
<br>
Where did I not take responsibility for myself and my program?
<br>
In what ways did I give my power to others?
<br>
<br>
Now looking at the answers to all these questions – Identify the problem areas?
<br>
<br>
List them:
<br>
<br>
What do I need to work on?
<br>
What do I need to watch for? Warning signs? Triggers?
<br>
<br>
In my best thinking…..How could I actively stay aware and work my program differently this time? (explain/describe).
<br>
<br>
What active actions can I take to promote my recovery?
<br>
<br>
How does my behavior need to change?
<br>
<br>
How will I rely on my Higher power to help me make these changes?
<br>
<br>
How can I align my will with my Higher powers guidance?
<br>
<br>
What can I do this time that I did not do last time to ensure a stronger program.</span> <hr>
<b>Clean42day</b> - Sat 04 Mar, 2006 12:11 pm<br>
<b>Post subject: </b>A Day at a time<hr class="sep" width="95%">
<span style="color: blue;"> Recieved in E-mail ADAAT Group (a day at a time group)
<br>
<br>
OVERCOMING SELF-WILL
<br>
<br>
<br>
<br>
So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us!
<br>
<br>
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p 62
<br>
<br>
<br>
<br>
For so many years my life revolved solely around myself. I was consumed with self in all forms--self-centeredness, self-pity, self-seeking, all of which stemmed from pride. Today I have been given the gift, through the Fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous, of practicing the Steps and Traditions in my daily life, of my group and sponsor, and the capacity--if I so choose--to put my pride aside in all situations which arise in my life.
<br>
Until I could honestly look at myself and see that I was the problem in many situations and react appropriately inside and out; until I could discard my expectations and understand that my serenity was directly proportional to them, I could not experience serenity and sound sobriety. </span> <hr>
<b>Clean42day</b> - Sat 04 Mar, 2006 1:03 pm<br>
<b>Post subject: </b><hr class="sep" width="95%">
<span style="color: blue;">I had to do one of these relapse worksheets when i entered treatment the last time and it revealed so much about me and my self will that I finally became convinced that I had to surrender EVERYTHING!
<br>
<br>
Men, sex, and money were my biggest problem areas. I let them become my higher power.
<br>
<br>
my self will would drive the desire for instant gratification, and I would forget all about God's will in these areas.
<br>
<br>
back then i couldn't see how manipulating men, using outside validation, using relationships to get my needs met sexually, or being in constant fear of financial insecurity would lead me right back into old behavior, unmanageability and ultimatley relapse. Because I would take the wrong action in these areas and feel like sh!+ about myself afterwards.
<br>
<br>
if we always do what we've always done. we alwasy get what we've always got.
<br>
<br>
I became willing to surrender these areas of my life into practicing new behavior, doing the footwork to create a new level of integrity with myself and rebuild my character, delay my gratification and work on a relationship with myself and my higher power.
<br>
<br>
The closer I felt to being connected to God the less power all of these other areas had over me and eventaully I hit a bottom with them, and broke through the patterns that had ruled my life for so long.
<br>
<br>
staying out of relationships was the biggest gift I could give myself....
<br>
being sexually celebate forced me to validate myself as a whole human and spiritual being instead of just a sexual being.
<br>
and by choosing to be a student and not work....forced me to be broke and learn that I can not only live through it, but to manage the money I do have and learn some trust that I can indeed live with the least and still be happy.
<br>
<br>
<br>
staying in right action and doing gods will today has become more important and more fulfilling than getting laid, being in love relationship, and having the most money.
<br>
<br>
those use to be huge obsticles for me and today I have freedoms from them.
<br>
<br>
The result.....well before in my past 3 recoveries....i could never manage to put together more than 4-6 months clean time.
<br>
<br>
This time I have 3 years 3 months. so something must be working!
<br>
A lot of my recovery has been learning what not to do and what doesn't work.
<br>
<br>
and the greatest gift is that I do believe, have faith, and trust that when God thinks I am ready he will eventaully restore these areas of my life to his divine right order and
<br>
I wil be able to have balance and keep my priorities in order. all I have to do is keep God first in my life.
<br>
<br>
in the meantime all I have to do is stay in right action, choose healthy behaviors, be safe, be strong and many times just be still.....and the gifts of recovery will come.
<br>
<br>
Self reliance can be a way of keeping God out of my life and I learned some very painful lessons behind that and self-will.
<br>
<br>
just thought some self disclosure might help others....I know self-disclosre sure does help me.
<br>
<br>
"Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty. Their chances are less than average.
<br>
<br>
<br>
A-mend :(uh mend')
<br>
<br>
2. To change for the better; improve.
<br>
<br>
3. To remove or correct faults in; rectify.
<br>
<br>
4. To grow or become better by reforming oneself</span>
<br>
<br>
<br>
<img src="images/smiles/29.gif" alt="bye" border="0">
<br>
<br>
<br>
light and love,
<br>
<br>
Gail