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06-19-2006, 07:51 AM
flickchic - Fri 24 Mar, 2006 8:19 pm
Post subject: letting go
I have just realised how freeing allowing others to make choices can be, the end results far more pleasant. Instead of forcing someone because "that's what I want", if I allow someone to choose they can do it willing and it feels so much better. If they choose not to do what was asked then I can let it go and feel better for not "being pushy/controlling".
Yesterday i text my M as I often do in the morning when he's away at work. I waited....no response.........I sent another asking if all was ok.....he rang then and I said you didn't have to ring, just text me back, he responded with some irritation..."you text me twice", he was running late and still trying to get ready for work, I felt a little flat after we'd hung up as I could hear that slight irritation. I let it go and realised I'd been a bit pushy.."I wanted". Well I text him this a.m. and said goodmorning, do you want me to call?, if not it's ok....I got a goodmorning sweetheart, ok, in return. He was still trying to get ready for work again, however I heard a man happy to be sharing some time with me!!!! I'd allowed myself to give him the choice and that was good. It's amazing how much the little things can account for isn't it!!!! I also know that if he hadn't the time I would have accepted that without a problem. I'm grateful to be able to be "letting go" of the need to control. Such freedom within!!! clap
bluidkiti - Sat 25 Mar, 2006 3:20 am
Post subject: Hey felicity, This also reminds me of we are powerless over others and also to keep my expectations low. I agree, it is freedom in letting go of the need to control. hug
Love,
Tammy
Post subject: letting go
I have just realised how freeing allowing others to make choices can be, the end results far more pleasant. Instead of forcing someone because "that's what I want", if I allow someone to choose they can do it willing and it feels so much better. If they choose not to do what was asked then I can let it go and feel better for not "being pushy/controlling".
Yesterday i text my M as I often do in the morning when he's away at work. I waited....no response.........I sent another asking if all was ok.....he rang then and I said you didn't have to ring, just text me back, he responded with some irritation..."you text me twice", he was running late and still trying to get ready for work, I felt a little flat after we'd hung up as I could hear that slight irritation. I let it go and realised I'd been a bit pushy.."I wanted". Well I text him this a.m. and said goodmorning, do you want me to call?, if not it's ok....I got a goodmorning sweetheart, ok, in return. He was still trying to get ready for work again, however I heard a man happy to be sharing some time with me!!!! I'd allowed myself to give him the choice and that was good. It's amazing how much the little things can account for isn't it!!!! I also know that if he hadn't the time I would have accepted that without a problem. I'm grateful to be able to be "letting go" of the need to control. Such freedom within!!! clap
bluidkiti - Sat 25 Mar, 2006 3:20 am
Post subject: Hey felicity, This also reminds me of we are powerless over others and also to keep my expectations low. I agree, it is freedom in letting go of the need to control. hug
Love,
Tammy