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<b>Clean42day</b> - Thu 27 Apr, 2006 12:26 pm<br>
<b>Post subject: </b>Are you a Stress Junkie or Drama addict?<hr class="sep" width="95%">
<span style="color: blue;">AM I REALLY—GASP—A STRESS JUNKIE?
<br>
By Martha Beck
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Like most recovering addicts, I clearly remember the moment I finally hit bottom. I'd been strung out for months: sleepless, poorly nourished and hollow-eyed, but still manically active. No matter how dilapidated my body became, my favorite chemicals could always make me feel fine. Until one day, they couldn't. Hello, my name is Martha, and I'm a stress junkie.
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<br>
Stress Abuse
<br>
Stress junkies are people who, without even knowing it, use their own physiological responses as a mood-altering device. When we perceive ourselves to be in a threatening situation, we have specific reactions designed to help us either run like he!! or battle for our lives: Our blood pressure increases (rushing extra oxygen to the muscles) and our digestive processes slow down (preserving energy).
<br>
<br>
Naturally, there's a catch. Just like heroin or aerosol fumes, stress hormones have side effects that can kill you. Pumped into the bloodstream at high levels for long periods of time, these chemicals contribute to ulcers and heart disease, weaken the immune system, and leave us vulnerable to everything from automobile accidents to depression.
<br>
<br>
Pick Your Poison
<br>
Stress junkies indulge their habit in any number of different ways. My favorite methods include procrastination, perfectionism, obsessing about obligations, and inventing catastrophic fantasies about What Could Go Wrong. If this sounds like you, it may be time to examine your own addictive tendencies. But even if you're as unflappable as a Zen master, you're still dealing with stress junkies every day. There's your office manager who freaks out over every hitch in the workday. There's the friend who broods obsessively about appalling current events: terrorism, child abusers, killer bees—terrorism committed by child abusers using killer bees.
<br>
<br>
The common factor that links these very different personalities is their single-minded devotion to repeatedly creating specific kinds of upsetting situations. Why would anyone do such a thing? There are several very powerful reasons:
<br>
<br>
The emotional geyser effect: Most stress junkies have unhealed emotional wounds. The unresolved pain remains stuck in a sort of holding tank, filling it up until there is little or no space left. An explosion of anger or tears, like a geyser eruption, lessens internal pressure so that the addict can function until the pressure builds up again.
<br>
<br>
The anxiety diversion tactic: Creating stress is an excellent way to avoid dealing with the frightening tasks necessary for personal growth. Safe in the familiar cocoon of these stresses, we become gratifyingly numb to the uncomfortable knowledge that we need to take on deeper, more significant challenges.
<br>
<br>
The love hunt: This is a common syndrome for people who, in their formative years, never received much positive attention unless they were sick or hurt. Associating love with stress, they find a way to feel victimized whenever they want an emotional connection.
<br>
<br>
Stress-Junkie Rehab
<br>
These examples should help you see that, as paradoxical as it seems, stress can be a sanctuary. The problem is that as time goes by, the stress hormones and behaviors that once created fearlessness or euphoria become ineffective, then counterproductive. Take it from me: Even if you're only mildly addicted to stress, it's best to get into rehab now. You'll find the compulsion to fret becomes much less severe if you employ the following strategies:
<br>
<br>
Let yourself go. Indulge your desire to flee by running or walking quickly, and you'll find yourself calmer about everything. If your stress reaction is anger, punching and kicking are wonderfully salubrious, even if you're just shadowboxing.
<br>
<br>
Give in to your stress. Most stress junkies try to break their habit by telling themselves, Stay calm, dammit! This is like trying to put out a fire with gunpowder. A simple acknowledgment like "I'm scared and that's okay" eliminates the escalating response caused by resisting those feelings.
<br>
<br>
Care for the worried one. Try welcoming your worried heart as you would a traumatized guest. Ask yourself, Why are you in pain? How can I help? The attitude of kindness will go a long way toward breaking the addiction.
<br>
<br>
By giving our stress-addicted side permission to act, to feel, and to receive care, we establish what we were after all along: a sanctuary where our wounds can heal and we can hear the voice of our true self. We grow calmer. We become a force for peace, instead of panic, not only for ourselves, but for everyone whose life touches ours. </span> <hr>
<b>Clean42day</b> - Thu 27 Apr, 2006 1:44 pm<br>
<b>Post subject: </b>Are you a STRESS junkie?<hr class="sep" width="95%">
<span style="color: blue;"><div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">Pick Your Poison
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Stress junkies indulge their habit in any number of different ways. My favorite methods include procrastination, perfectionism, obsessing about obligations, and inventing catastrophic fantasies about What Could Go Wrong. </div></div>
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<br>
OMG! Do I really do this? Yep that's me. it never occured to me before I read this!
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in my addiction to drugs....this was a normal day.....I had come to live in High Anxiety and on Danger alert on a daily basis.....this became almost an expected state of being and became a normal way of life. being a cocaine addict and living on the streets....dealing with dangerous people, in dangerous situations, and not having a home,(homeless) how could I not deal with it? every single day I took my life into my own hands and put myself in some really twisted situations, not to mention just walking down the street constantly looking over my shoulder for either the police or the next gang member who would put that "special mental twist" on me to either get my money, my body, or somehow use me to thier advantage. Yep it was a doggie dog world....get them before they get me. or at least see them coming first so I could retreat.
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now I have over 3 years clean and sober....I can see how I still clearly operate in this mind set.....WITHOUT THE DRUGS.........
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Worrying over my grades in school.....doesn't change my grades.....action does.
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but yet what actions do I really take? I procrastinate until 2 days before a test, thriving on the anxiety I am creating. Do I like the feeling of being pressured? Hmmmm......? does my heart race before the test?
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I project my fears into the future of things that could possibly happen in relationships with people, jobs I haven't got yet, what will happen if I am not able to complete my financial amends, my credit report, the wreakage from my past jumping up in my future life? blah blah blah....it goes on and on and is a viscious circle that robs me of my serentiy today......isn't this close the high alert I use to live in....looking for the possible pitfalls if I turned this corner or walked down that street?
<br>
<br>
perfectionism is my favortie way to beat myself up, confirming the old beleife of not being worthy enough.....or is it an old beliefe.....if I am still doing it?
<br>
<br>
I can take a simple conversation with an authority figure and turn it into a percieved threat.....spin on it for days until I am in soooo much anxiety over it that I anticipate our next conversation to be filled with conflict......
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isn't this pretty close to going to the "dope man" with short money?
<br>
<br>
I think I am having an "AHA MOMENT" right here online while writting this!!!!!
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<br>
obsessing about money obligations: obsession doesn't change things.....money is money.....either I have it or I don't....worrying about it doesn't change the balance in my bank account...........
<br>
<br>
planning, preparation, and budgeting does...........
<br>
<br>
but yet I still am caught in the cycle of "what could go wrong"!
<br>
<br>
better to deal with "what is" right here, right now, in this moment.
<br>
<br>
This whole article and my journaling here gives meaning to the statement " I take myself with me where ever I go"
<br>
<br>
no the drugs were not the problem......they were the symptom and solution for a very long time........until they stopped working.
<br>
<br>
now that I am clean......I get to clearly see how I have been setting myself up all along.......... and my diseas just switched lanes with me into the next "fix' of drama.....using stress as mood altering chemical.
<br>
<br>
Wow.......I never looked at it this way before!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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<br>
no wonder I am not sleeping at night.......not eating right......loosing weight....and my asthma is out of control.
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<img src="images/smiles/7.gif" alt="duh" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/icon_question.gif" alt="Question" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/icon_rolleyes.gif" alt="Rolling Eyes" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/18.gif" alt="stars" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/28.gif" alt="yuck" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/40.gif" alt="grumble" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/angry.gif" alt="angry" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/icon_sad.gif" alt="Sad" border="0">
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<img src="images/smiles/icon_idea.gif" alt="Idea" border="0">
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<div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">The emotional geyser effect: Most stress junkies have unhealed emotional wounds. The unresolved pain remains stuck in a sort of holding tank, filling it up until there is little or no space left. An explosion of anger or tears, like a geyser eruption, lessens internal pressure so that the addict can function until the pressure builds up again. </div></div>
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yep I do this too........when I hold it all in, every fear, every projection, pretend like it isn't there, it builds and builds and about once every 3 months I have a complete breakdown crying buckets of tears.....I can feel the stress leaving my body in liquid form and draining out of me. then what do I do> store up some more stress to "fix" on.
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<div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">The anxiety diversion tactic: Creating stress is an excellent way to avoid dealing with the frightening tasks necessary for personal growth. Safe in the familiar cocoon of these stresses, we become gratifyingly numb to the uncomfortable knowledge that we need to take on deeper, more significant challenges. </div></div>
<br>
<br>
Aha.....so I do the stress thing over school, relationships with others, and financial obligations as a way to avoid what is really simmering underneath....which is unresolved issues.....which is exaclty what fuels my avoidance tactic. But But But I thought I did work through those things.....evidently not if they are still driving this cycle of using stress as an avoidance tactic.
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<div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">Stress-Junkie Rehab
<br>
These examples should help you see that, as paradoxical as it seems, stress can be a sanctuary. The problem is that as time goes by, the stress hormones and behaviors that once created fearlessness or euphoria become ineffective, then counterproductive. </div></div>
<br>
<br>
Same thing with the drugs......they use to numb me, help me to avoid reality, create an emotional diversion of looking deeper into me and addressing what really needs to change in me.
<br>
<br>
so what she is saying is that eventually my need to "fix" on stress will eventually stop working too and I will hit bottom and find a new level of surrender?
<br>
<br>
Well that's comforting.....Maybe at 3 years clean I am right where i am suppose to be? is this a stage that addicts go through? I got over the love hunt thing....that no longer works. so am I actually in the process of moving towards a new level of spiritual, mental and physical health or away from it?
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<div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">Give in to your stress. Most stress junkies try to break their habit by telling themselves, Stay calm, dammit! This is like trying to put out a fire with gunpowder. A simple acknowledgment like "I'm scared and that's okay" eliminates the escalating response caused by resisting those feelings. </div></div>
<br>
<br>
yep I do this.....is a matter of fact I really didn't realize how much I pretend it is not there.....or maybe I don't really notice it because it was a way of life for 25 years. but as the old saying goes....what we resist will persist.
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<br>
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<div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">Care for the worried one. Try welcoming your worried heart as you would a traumatized guest. Ask yourself, Why are you in pain? How can I help? The attitude of kindness will go a long way toward breaking the addiction. </div></div>
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<br>
I do alot of work with my inner child....but I also think that sometimes I paint the illusion for her that I am the "adult in control" at all times.....when in fact I would sometimes like to get down on her level and just cry with her....and be afraid with her.....give in to the fear and let go of the illusion of control.
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<div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">By giving our stress-addicted side permission to act, to feel, and to receive care, we establish what we were after all along: a sanctuary where our wounds can heal and we can hear the voice of our true self. We grow calmer. We become a force for peace, instead of panic, not only for ourselves, but for everyone whose life touches ours. </div></div>
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I must find a way to create a santuary where my wounds can heal and I can hear the voice of my true self.
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Well this article certianly showed me how I climb the rungs of the ladder stress to walk the High wire in high anxeity.........
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I always use to think that strees was something that happened to me....now i can see it is something "I chose" to do.
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first step: to the sanctuary.....I am addicted to stress and my life is unmanageable.
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second step: came to believe that god could restore my thinking, to clarity.
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third step......I think I'll let him.
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All I have to do is co-operate.
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ok so this turned into a journaling session once again......I am so glad I took the time to respond to this article I posted.
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next step......do something about it gail. let god and let go. give in and surrender, admit how I do these things to myself and create the reality I live in, walk in faith and live in the now.
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light and love
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Gail</span> <hr>
<b>flickchic</b> - Thu 27 Apr, 2006 2:10 pm<br>
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"Superb post and Superb response Gail, I am going to hold this page open and re-read it in the morning, I am so impressed hey!!! You write so well, you bring things out in the light so clearly, thankyou and I'm glad you journalled you with it, that's neat hey!!!
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love and peace <hr>
<b>peajaye</b> - Thu 27 Apr, 2006 2:16 pm<br>
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I think I deal with things in layers. I asked once, "how many times do I have to work through this stuff?" The answer was that this one piece I've worked through right now, I'll never have to work through again. But then at some point the next layer is ready to peel.
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I used to say that I operate best under pressure. Then I saw it this morning in the post titled, how many lies have you told today? So perhaps I don't really. <hr>
<b>Clean42day</b> - Thu 27 Apr, 2006 3:01 pm<br>
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What section was that post in Peajay? I want to read it. <hr>
<b>peajaye</b> - Thu 27 Apr, 2006 3:06 pm<br>
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under recovery inspirations...how many lies have you told is the heading and it was posted by free2bunme. Good read.
<b>Post subject: </b>Are you a Stress Junkie or Drama addict?<hr class="sep" width="95%">
<span style="color: blue;">AM I REALLY—GASP—A STRESS JUNKIE?
<br>
By Martha Beck
<br>
<br>
Like most recovering addicts, I clearly remember the moment I finally hit bottom. I'd been strung out for months: sleepless, poorly nourished and hollow-eyed, but still manically active. No matter how dilapidated my body became, my favorite chemicals could always make me feel fine. Until one day, they couldn't. Hello, my name is Martha, and I'm a stress junkie.
<br>
<br>
Stress Abuse
<br>
Stress junkies are people who, without even knowing it, use their own physiological responses as a mood-altering device. When we perceive ourselves to be in a threatening situation, we have specific reactions designed to help us either run like he!! or battle for our lives: Our blood pressure increases (rushing extra oxygen to the muscles) and our digestive processes slow down (preserving energy).
<br>
<br>
Naturally, there's a catch. Just like heroin or aerosol fumes, stress hormones have side effects that can kill you. Pumped into the bloodstream at high levels for long periods of time, these chemicals contribute to ulcers and heart disease, weaken the immune system, and leave us vulnerable to everything from automobile accidents to depression.
<br>
<br>
Pick Your Poison
<br>
Stress junkies indulge their habit in any number of different ways. My favorite methods include procrastination, perfectionism, obsessing about obligations, and inventing catastrophic fantasies about What Could Go Wrong. If this sounds like you, it may be time to examine your own addictive tendencies. But even if you're as unflappable as a Zen master, you're still dealing with stress junkies every day. There's your office manager who freaks out over every hitch in the workday. There's the friend who broods obsessively about appalling current events: terrorism, child abusers, killer bees—terrorism committed by child abusers using killer bees.
<br>
<br>
The common factor that links these very different personalities is their single-minded devotion to repeatedly creating specific kinds of upsetting situations. Why would anyone do such a thing? There are several very powerful reasons:
<br>
<br>
The emotional geyser effect: Most stress junkies have unhealed emotional wounds. The unresolved pain remains stuck in a sort of holding tank, filling it up until there is little or no space left. An explosion of anger or tears, like a geyser eruption, lessens internal pressure so that the addict can function until the pressure builds up again.
<br>
<br>
The anxiety diversion tactic: Creating stress is an excellent way to avoid dealing with the frightening tasks necessary for personal growth. Safe in the familiar cocoon of these stresses, we become gratifyingly numb to the uncomfortable knowledge that we need to take on deeper, more significant challenges.
<br>
<br>
The love hunt: This is a common syndrome for people who, in their formative years, never received much positive attention unless they were sick or hurt. Associating love with stress, they find a way to feel victimized whenever they want an emotional connection.
<br>
<br>
Stress-Junkie Rehab
<br>
These examples should help you see that, as paradoxical as it seems, stress can be a sanctuary. The problem is that as time goes by, the stress hormones and behaviors that once created fearlessness or euphoria become ineffective, then counterproductive. Take it from me: Even if you're only mildly addicted to stress, it's best to get into rehab now. You'll find the compulsion to fret becomes much less severe if you employ the following strategies:
<br>
<br>
Let yourself go. Indulge your desire to flee by running or walking quickly, and you'll find yourself calmer about everything. If your stress reaction is anger, punching and kicking are wonderfully salubrious, even if you're just shadowboxing.
<br>
<br>
Give in to your stress. Most stress junkies try to break their habit by telling themselves, Stay calm, dammit! This is like trying to put out a fire with gunpowder. A simple acknowledgment like "I'm scared and that's okay" eliminates the escalating response caused by resisting those feelings.
<br>
<br>
Care for the worried one. Try welcoming your worried heart as you would a traumatized guest. Ask yourself, Why are you in pain? How can I help? The attitude of kindness will go a long way toward breaking the addiction.
<br>
<br>
By giving our stress-addicted side permission to act, to feel, and to receive care, we establish what we were after all along: a sanctuary where our wounds can heal and we can hear the voice of our true self. We grow calmer. We become a force for peace, instead of panic, not only for ourselves, but for everyone whose life touches ours. </span> <hr>
<b>Clean42day</b> - Thu 27 Apr, 2006 1:44 pm<br>
<b>Post subject: </b>Are you a STRESS junkie?<hr class="sep" width="95%">
<span style="color: blue;"><div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">Pick Your Poison
<br>
Stress junkies indulge their habit in any number of different ways. My favorite methods include procrastination, perfectionism, obsessing about obligations, and inventing catastrophic fantasies about What Could Go Wrong. </div></div>
<br>
<br>
OMG! Do I really do this? Yep that's me. it never occured to me before I read this!
<br>
<br>
in my addiction to drugs....this was a normal day.....I had come to live in High Anxiety and on Danger alert on a daily basis.....this became almost an expected state of being and became a normal way of life. being a cocaine addict and living on the streets....dealing with dangerous people, in dangerous situations, and not having a home,(homeless) how could I not deal with it? every single day I took my life into my own hands and put myself in some really twisted situations, not to mention just walking down the street constantly looking over my shoulder for either the police or the next gang member who would put that "special mental twist" on me to either get my money, my body, or somehow use me to thier advantage. Yep it was a doggie dog world....get them before they get me. or at least see them coming first so I could retreat.
<br>
<br>
now I have over 3 years clean and sober....I can see how I still clearly operate in this mind set.....WITHOUT THE DRUGS.........
<br>
<br>
Worrying over my grades in school.....doesn't change my grades.....action does.
<br>
but yet what actions do I really take? I procrastinate until 2 days before a test, thriving on the anxiety I am creating. Do I like the feeling of being pressured? Hmmmm......? does my heart race before the test?
<br>
<br>
I project my fears into the future of things that could possibly happen in relationships with people, jobs I haven't got yet, what will happen if I am not able to complete my financial amends, my credit report, the wreakage from my past jumping up in my future life? blah blah blah....it goes on and on and is a viscious circle that robs me of my serentiy today......isn't this close the high alert I use to live in....looking for the possible pitfalls if I turned this corner or walked down that street?
<br>
<br>
perfectionism is my favortie way to beat myself up, confirming the old beleife of not being worthy enough.....or is it an old beliefe.....if I am still doing it?
<br>
<br>
I can take a simple conversation with an authority figure and turn it into a percieved threat.....spin on it for days until I am in soooo much anxiety over it that I anticipate our next conversation to be filled with conflict......
<br>
isn't this pretty close to going to the "dope man" with short money?
<br>
<br>
I think I am having an "AHA MOMENT" right here online while writting this!!!!!
<br>
<br>
obsessing about money obligations: obsession doesn't change things.....money is money.....either I have it or I don't....worrying about it doesn't change the balance in my bank account...........
<br>
<br>
planning, preparation, and budgeting does...........
<br>
<br>
but yet I still am caught in the cycle of "what could go wrong"!
<br>
<br>
better to deal with "what is" right here, right now, in this moment.
<br>
<br>
This whole article and my journaling here gives meaning to the statement " I take myself with me where ever I go"
<br>
<br>
no the drugs were not the problem......they were the symptom and solution for a very long time........until they stopped working.
<br>
<br>
now that I am clean......I get to clearly see how I have been setting myself up all along.......... and my diseas just switched lanes with me into the next "fix' of drama.....using stress as mood altering chemical.
<br>
<br>
Wow.......I never looked at it this way before!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
<br>
<br>
no wonder I am not sleeping at night.......not eating right......loosing weight....and my asthma is out of control.
<br>
<br>
<img src="images/smiles/7.gif" alt="duh" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/icon_question.gif" alt="Question" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/icon_rolleyes.gif" alt="Rolling Eyes" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/18.gif" alt="stars" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/28.gif" alt="yuck" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/40.gif" alt="grumble" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/angry.gif" alt="angry" border="0"> <img src="images/smiles/icon_sad.gif" alt="Sad" border="0">
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<img src="images/smiles/icon_idea.gif" alt="Idea" border="0">
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<div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">The emotional geyser effect: Most stress junkies have unhealed emotional wounds. The unresolved pain remains stuck in a sort of holding tank, filling it up until there is little or no space left. An explosion of anger or tears, like a geyser eruption, lessens internal pressure so that the addict can function until the pressure builds up again. </div></div>
<br>
<br>
yep I do this too........when I hold it all in, every fear, every projection, pretend like it isn't there, it builds and builds and about once every 3 months I have a complete breakdown crying buckets of tears.....I can feel the stress leaving my body in liquid form and draining out of me. then what do I do> store up some more stress to "fix" on.
<br>
<br>
<div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">The anxiety diversion tactic: Creating stress is an excellent way to avoid dealing with the frightening tasks necessary for personal growth. Safe in the familiar cocoon of these stresses, we become gratifyingly numb to the uncomfortable knowledge that we need to take on deeper, more significant challenges. </div></div>
<br>
<br>
Aha.....so I do the stress thing over school, relationships with others, and financial obligations as a way to avoid what is really simmering underneath....which is unresolved issues.....which is exaclty what fuels my avoidance tactic. But But But I thought I did work through those things.....evidently not if they are still driving this cycle of using stress as an avoidance tactic.
<br>
<br>
<div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">Stress-Junkie Rehab
<br>
These examples should help you see that, as paradoxical as it seems, stress can be a sanctuary. The problem is that as time goes by, the stress hormones and behaviors that once created fearlessness or euphoria become ineffective, then counterproductive. </div></div>
<br>
<br>
Same thing with the drugs......they use to numb me, help me to avoid reality, create an emotional diversion of looking deeper into me and addressing what really needs to change in me.
<br>
<br>
so what she is saying is that eventually my need to "fix" on stress will eventually stop working too and I will hit bottom and find a new level of surrender?
<br>
<br>
Well that's comforting.....Maybe at 3 years clean I am right where i am suppose to be? is this a stage that addicts go through? I got over the love hunt thing....that no longer works. so am I actually in the process of moving towards a new level of spiritual, mental and physical health or away from it?
<br>
<br>
<div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">Give in to your stress. Most stress junkies try to break their habit by telling themselves, Stay calm, dammit! This is like trying to put out a fire with gunpowder. A simple acknowledgment like "I'm scared and that's okay" eliminates the escalating response caused by resisting those feelings. </div></div>
<br>
<br>
yep I do this.....is a matter of fact I really didn't realize how much I pretend it is not there.....or maybe I don't really notice it because it was a way of life for 25 years. but as the old saying goes....what we resist will persist.
<br>
<br>
<br>
<div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">Care for the worried one. Try welcoming your worried heart as you would a traumatized guest. Ask yourself, Why are you in pain? How can I help? The attitude of kindness will go a long way toward breaking the addiction. </div></div>
<br>
<br>
I do alot of work with my inner child....but I also think that sometimes I paint the illusion for her that I am the "adult in control" at all times.....when in fact I would sometimes like to get down on her level and just cry with her....and be afraid with her.....give in to the fear and let go of the illusion of control.
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<div align="center"><div class="codetitle">Quote:</div><div class="quotediv">By giving our stress-addicted side permission to act, to feel, and to receive care, we establish what we were after all along: a sanctuary where our wounds can heal and we can hear the voice of our true self. We grow calmer. We become a force for peace, instead of panic, not only for ourselves, but for everyone whose life touches ours. </div></div>
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I must find a way to create a santuary where my wounds can heal and I can hear the voice of my true self.
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Well this article certianly showed me how I climb the rungs of the ladder stress to walk the High wire in high anxeity.........
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I always use to think that strees was something that happened to me....now i can see it is something "I chose" to do.
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first step: to the sanctuary.....I am addicted to stress and my life is unmanageable.
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second step: came to believe that god could restore my thinking, to clarity.
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third step......I think I'll let him.
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All I have to do is co-operate.
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ok so this turned into a journaling session once again......I am so glad I took the time to respond to this article I posted.
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next step......do something about it gail. let god and let go. give in and surrender, admit how I do these things to myself and create the reality I live in, walk in faith and live in the now.
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light and love
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Gail</span> <hr>
<b>flickchic</b> - Thu 27 Apr, 2006 2:10 pm<br>
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"Superb post and Superb response Gail, I am going to hold this page open and re-read it in the morning, I am so impressed hey!!! You write so well, you bring things out in the light so clearly, thankyou and I'm glad you journalled you with it, that's neat hey!!!
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love and peace <hr>
<b>peajaye</b> - Thu 27 Apr, 2006 2:16 pm<br>
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I think I deal with things in layers. I asked once, "how many times do I have to work through this stuff?" The answer was that this one piece I've worked through right now, I'll never have to work through again. But then at some point the next layer is ready to peel.
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I used to say that I operate best under pressure. Then I saw it this morning in the post titled, how many lies have you told today? So perhaps I don't really. <hr>
<b>Clean42day</b> - Thu 27 Apr, 2006 3:01 pm<br>
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What section was that post in Peajay? I want to read it. <hr>
<b>peajaye</b> - Thu 27 Apr, 2006 3:06 pm<br>
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under recovery inspirations...how many lies have you told is the heading and it was posted by free2bunme. Good read.