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bluidkiti:
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PostPosted: 06 May 2005 08:11 am
When a drunk has a terrific hangover because he drank heavily yesterday, he cannot live well today. But there is another kind of hangover which we all experience whether we are drinking or not. That is the emotional hangover, the direct result of yesterday's and sometimes today's excesses of negative emotion--anger, fear, jealousy, and the like. If we would live serenely today and tomorrow, we certainly need to eliminate these hangovers. This doesn't mean we need to wander morbidly around in the past. It requires an admission and correction of errors now. Our inventory enables us to settle with the past. When this is done, we are really able to leave it behind us. When our inventory is carefully taken, and we have made peace with ourselves, the conviction follows that tomorrow's challenges can be met as they come.
Although all inventories are alike in principle, the time factor does distinguish one from another. There's the spot check inventory, taken at any time of the day, whenever we find ourselves getting tangled up. There's the one we take at day's end, when we review the happenings of the hours just past. Here we cast up a balance sheet, crediting ourselves with things well done, and chalking up debits where due. Then there are those occasions when alone, or in the company of our sponsor or spiritual adviser, we make a careful review of our progress since the last time. Many A.A.'s go in for annual or semiannual housecleanings. Many of us also like the experience of an occasional retreat from the outside world where we can quiet down for an undisturbed day or so of self-overhaul and meditation.
Aren't these practices joy-killers as well as time-consumers? Must A.A.'s spend most of their waking hours drearily rehashing their sins of omission or commission? Well, hardly. The emphasis on inventory is heavy only because a great many of us have never really acquired the habit of accurate self-appraisal. Once this healthy practice has become grooved, it will be so interesting and profitable that the time it takes won't be missed. For these minutes and sometimes hours spent in self-examination are bound to make all the other hours of our day better and happier. And at length our inventories become a regular part of everyday living, rather than something unusual or set apart.
It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us.
12 X 12, pp. 88-90
What do you do when you have an emotional hangover?
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PostPosted: 06 May 2005 01:35 pm Post subject: Reply with quote Edit/Delete this post Delete this post View IP address of poster
bluidkiti hi
emotional hang over, or dry drunk,i've had a few ,usualy comes on me when i get lazy with my programe. or some thing some place or some person is not conforming to my expectations, this only lasts as long
as i'm willing to envolve my god. and start accepting instead of expecting
love in recovery BILL ok smile grin hug angel
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PostPosted: 06 May 2005 09:51 pm
I use to have many of these emotional hangovers. As it has been described in the post, this is due an EXCESS OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS. For me negative emotions was a natural as it was to breath in and out. I had to learn in recovery that I had to change these. Being aware of my thought processes and prayer and meditation help me in overcoming these negative emotions.
As an alcoholic, I had unfortunately learnt many negative habits some of which include being lazy and negative emotions. Whenever a situation occurs, I use to react rather than act, and often I would react with negative emotions such as anger, self pity, pride, ego and selfishness. Today things are much different. Once I was able to recognise these habits I was able to do something about them. But the big things was recognising them. I had to get to the core of my emotions and find out why I reacted they way I did, In some cases there were an underlying issue and defect. In other cases it was learnt behviour that I had to change.
chow chow grin
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PostPosted: 07 May 2005 06:59 am
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direct result of yesterday's and sometimes today's excesses of negative emotion--anger, fear, jealousy, and the like. If we would live serenely today and tomorrow, we certainly need to eliminate these hangovers.
I have had many in sobriety and i am just getting over one due to the negative emotion- fear. It was lovingly pointed out to me that i was having an emotional hangover because of the situation with my hubby. Unfortunately, for me personally i dont tend to notice that i am having one until someome points it out. Once i realize it for what it is that is when i can better turn it over to God. My hope is that i can grow in recognizing it in myself and turn it over and use my support system. I thank God for the people in my life that support me in my crisis and can help guide me through it.
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Joined: 15 Mar 2005
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PostPosted: 06 May 2005 08:11 am
When a drunk has a terrific hangover because he drank heavily yesterday, he cannot live well today. But there is another kind of hangover which we all experience whether we are drinking or not. That is the emotional hangover, the direct result of yesterday's and sometimes today's excesses of negative emotion--anger, fear, jealousy, and the like. If we would live serenely today and tomorrow, we certainly need to eliminate these hangovers. This doesn't mean we need to wander morbidly around in the past. It requires an admission and correction of errors now. Our inventory enables us to settle with the past. When this is done, we are really able to leave it behind us. When our inventory is carefully taken, and we have made peace with ourselves, the conviction follows that tomorrow's challenges can be met as they come.
Although all inventories are alike in principle, the time factor does distinguish one from another. There's the spot check inventory, taken at any time of the day, whenever we find ourselves getting tangled up. There's the one we take at day's end, when we review the happenings of the hours just past. Here we cast up a balance sheet, crediting ourselves with things well done, and chalking up debits where due. Then there are those occasions when alone, or in the company of our sponsor or spiritual adviser, we make a careful review of our progress since the last time. Many A.A.'s go in for annual or semiannual housecleanings. Many of us also like the experience of an occasional retreat from the outside world where we can quiet down for an undisturbed day or so of self-overhaul and meditation.
Aren't these practices joy-killers as well as time-consumers? Must A.A.'s spend most of their waking hours drearily rehashing their sins of omission or commission? Well, hardly. The emphasis on inventory is heavy only because a great many of us have never really acquired the habit of accurate self-appraisal. Once this healthy practice has become grooved, it will be so interesting and profitable that the time it takes won't be missed. For these minutes and sometimes hours spent in self-examination are bound to make all the other hours of our day better and happier. And at length our inventories become a regular part of everyday living, rather than something unusual or set apart.
It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us.
12 X 12, pp. 88-90
What do you do when you have an emotional hangover?
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scots bill:
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PostPosted: 06 May 2005 01:35 pm Post subject: Reply with quote Edit/Delete this post Delete this post View IP address of poster
bluidkiti hi
emotional hang over, or dry drunk,i've had a few ,usualy comes on me when i get lazy with my programe. or some thing some place or some person is not conforming to my expectations, this only lasts as long
as i'm willing to envolve my god. and start accepting instead of expecting
love in recovery BILL ok smile grin hug angel
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fibiray:
Joined: 16 Mar 2005
Posts: 515
Location: Australia Central Coast NSW
PostPosted: 06 May 2005 09:51 pm
I use to have many of these emotional hangovers. As it has been described in the post, this is due an EXCESS OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS. For me negative emotions was a natural as it was to breath in and out. I had to learn in recovery that I had to change these. Being aware of my thought processes and prayer and meditation help me in overcoming these negative emotions.
As an alcoholic, I had unfortunately learnt many negative habits some of which include being lazy and negative emotions. Whenever a situation occurs, I use to react rather than act, and often I would react with negative emotions such as anger, self pity, pride, ego and selfishness. Today things are much different. Once I was able to recognise these habits I was able to do something about them. But the big things was recognising them. I had to get to the core of my emotions and find out why I reacted they way I did, In some cases there were an underlying issue and defect. In other cases it was learnt behviour that I had to change.
chow chow grin
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Janbear:
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PostPosted: 07 May 2005 06:59 am
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direct result of yesterday's and sometimes today's excesses of negative emotion--anger, fear, jealousy, and the like. If we would live serenely today and tomorrow, we certainly need to eliminate these hangovers.
I have had many in sobriety and i am just getting over one due to the negative emotion- fear. It was lovingly pointed out to me that i was having an emotional hangover because of the situation with my hubby. Unfortunately, for me personally i dont tend to notice that i am having one until someome points it out. Once i realize it for what it is that is when i can better turn it over to God. My hope is that i can grow in recognizing it in myself and turn it over and use my support system. I thank God for the people in my life that support me in my crisis and can help guide me through it.