complacency and how it differs from Procrastination

[Montauktammy]

I would like to know some of your view on complacency and how it differs from Procrastination I have worked the steps a few times and I find when ever I get ready to start my 4th step I get this thing where my life all of the sudden get really full. Meeting friends always wanting to hang out. I also have a few friends that are a little to needy and I feel a lot of guilt when I try to get them to back off me and give me space?? :confused:

[recoverycoach]

This is interesting, I keep landing on posts you have written:-)
Anyway, I keep seeing this word "guilt" in your writing. It brings a few questions up that were asked of me some time ago. Why am I taking responsibility for other's feelings? What am I avoiding by doing so? How does it serve me? oh and the real ****ty painful question of, Am I being me, or am I trying to get them to think something about me...am I trying to control their thoughts about me? (this one always got me right in the gut! For me this was a control issue, where I wasn't liking myself enough so I would look out to others and try to make sure others liked me.)
I was taught long time ago that chaos has to arrive prior to any big change that is about to occur. It is normal:-) I know I am laughing here as I think how weird it is to realize some of my life is actually considered "normal" today! I notice all the time all sorts of things show up to distract me and get in my way of what I think I am suppose to be doing or have planned on doing...my higher power, sometimes just steps in and seems to have quite different plans in mind for me.
I guess for me, I repeatedly learn ( it seems I just can't retain it for very long) that I am not in control...all I need to do is suite up and show up...either it will happen or it won't.
Much light and love!~Cheryl

[Montauktammy]

suite up show up do the next right thing and let go of the results? thank you. you hit the nail on the head as now i am moving along in my 4th step this is all the things i am seeing. let go of the results is the part i am having issues with.