Love is not Love unless there is a choice

[Montauktammy]

I had a friend with 9 months who was in his head so we where reading the 3rd step together, Love is not Love unless there is a choice, and walking in faith dosen't mean we are fearless courage is having faith that it will be better, but not knowing what the out come will be, but doing what we know is right anyway. So he is in fear of what will happen when he is done with his 3rd step like will he be able to choose to still do the wrong thing( Free Will Self will ) I told him that for me I have to make the choice to love my higher power every day. Walk in faith to know what ever happens good or bad, it is always a better plan than mine. How about you?:42:

[dalin]

That step to me is an action step.
It isnt an overnight thing,its a lifetime decision,
followed by action.
When I worked my first N.A. third step,it was almost a year long
process.
I was told to arrange my life like my decission was important.

[Prescott]

"Once we have placed the key of willingness in the lock and have the door open ever so slightly open, we find that we can always open it some more. Though self-will may slam it shut again, as it frequently does, it will always respond the moment we again pick up the key of willingness." 12x12 pg 35

Step 3 opens the door and the key is willingness. :42:

[kaistevens]

It's not like flipping a switch. Sometimes, I wish it was, that I could just put myself on autopilot, but that's just not how it works.

But when I think about it, I'm glad that is the way things are. I wouldn't want my children just love me and act right because they had been programed that way. Just like they have been programed to get me a card or gift on mother's day, and that is always special. But, nothing touches me more, when one of my kids gets me something just for no reason. When it is just an act of their will, when they just choose to show me they love me, that's more priceless than all the mother's day cards in the world.

The down side to all that is, they can choose to NOT be nice and NOT act right, any time they want. And they do choose that sometimes. The reward is worth the risk. Love means more to all of us because it is a choice. Free will is a magical, powerful thing.

[CciRider]

I had a friend with 9 months who was in his head so we where reading the 3rd step together, Love is not Love unless there is a choice, and walking in faith dosen't mean we are fearless courage is having faith that it will be better, but not knowing what the out come will be, but doing what we know is right anyway. So he is in fear of what will happen when he is done with his 3rd step like will he be able to choose to still do the wrong thing( Free Will Self will ) I told him that for me I have to make the choice to love my higher power every day. Walk in faith to know what ever happens good or bad, it is always a better plan than mine. How about you?:42:

Hi Tammy:

Step 3 Made a decision to turn our will and our lives our to the care of God as we understood Him.

In step 1, I acknowledge my despair: I truly am powerless over my impulses. In step 2, I believe that there is hope: I came to believe that a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity. In step 3, I choose hope over despair. It's really a no brainer, isn't it?

[Montauktammy]

thanks my friend and I are still working on it, I went over my 3rd with my sponsor and then my sponsee. so true we can make it harder than it has to be me any way. 3rd step is an acting and feeling step for me. I at times have to act as if and trust the process other times I will have to just feel like my higher power will not drop me no matter what I am going through. I am not so good with that trust thing but I see what Dalin is saying I am lot better than I was. I was having an issues with turning all my life over. Romance not willing become willing after it beat me up a bit. Finances not willing till they went beyond what I could do. My child not willing till I could see how much I was harming her. A lot of trust for me to turn it over, and I only have a daily reprieve. That means I got to do it on a day to day basis:D

[DaveH]

I have the third step printed and framed over my desk in my home office. I have found it a good practice to repeat the third step every morning. It serves to remind me of two things; First, that I did in fact make this decision. And secondly, that I have a God and it is not me.
Blessings,
DaveH