Toxic Love

[Montauktammy]

"If we can start seeing relationships not as the goal but as opportunities for growth then we can start having more functional relationships. A relationship that ends is not a failure or a punishment - it is a lesson."

as I have told most of you I have a old sponsee that relapsed and came back who is living with me, she has this man in the rooms who is trying to get back into a relationship with her, I am trying to be gentle with him and let him know that his behavior is unwonted any suggestion she has told him to stop calling and he keeps calling. now he is mad at her cause he feels rejected. I was the crazy rejected person not to long ago, but how do I help her to be more loving kind and understanding? I:195: told her to pray for him

[barbie25]

I guess I have to ask why are you telling him to stay away. Should that not be something she should do? I have had male attention from some guys at meetings. I say all the time I am not here for a relationship or to get "any" I am here for me and my recovery. Most of the time they back off. but there are those that still don't understand and then i just tell them iam not intrested in them and they need to leave me alone. I say it in a manner as to not hurt them. If they do get hurt is it really my fault? I don't know. I think telling her to pray for him is a good idea. also to pray for herself.:smile:

[Montauktammy]

he was dating her while she was using and has just goten out of another relationship
she has under 90 days i could go on but that is enough