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dalin
03-02-2008, 03:37 AM
:195:Just For Today
December 6 Romance and recovery

"Relationships can be a terribly painful area." Basic Text p. 78

Love is like an elixir for some of us. The excitement of a new lover, the intrigue of exploring intimacy, the sense of release we get from allowing ourselves to become vulnerable-these are all powerful emotions. But we can't forget that we have only a daily reprieve from our addiction. Holding onto this daily reprieve must be the top priority in any recovering addict's life.

We can become too involved in our relationship. We can neglect old friends and our sponsor in the process. Then, when things get difficult, we often feel that we can no longer reach out to those who helped us prior to our romantic involvement. This belief can lay the groundwork for a relapse. By consistently working our program and attending meetings, we ensure that we have a network of recovery, even when we're deep in a romance.

Our desire to be romantically involved is natural. But we mustn't forget that, without our program, even the healthiest relationship will not guard us against the strength of our addiction.

Just for today: In my desire for romance, I will not ignore my recovery.

Just For Today Daily Meditation is the property of Narcotics Anonymous ©1991 by World Service Office Inc.

Montauktammy
03-28-2008, 01:58 PM
One of the worst types of emotions in relationships is being torn between love and hate, anger and forgiveness, fear and longing and any combination of feelings you can imagine.
"Being with her is destroying me AND I cannot live without them."
"I want to leave them AND they are the mother/father of our children who need them."
"I love her AND I despise them."
"I want them AND I hate myself for it."
"I want to stand up to them AND there is nothing I can do."
"I am terribly lonely AND I am terrified of being in a relationship."
If you find the "and" connection a little strained, you can say "but" instead; the main thing is that both the conflict partners are together in one sentence to release the feeling of see-sawing from one thing to the other or of feeling like you are tearing apart under the strain.