lifeisgoodx10
03-03-2008, 04:21 PM
Hi all,
I entered into a marriage just over a year ago not long after having left a ten year marriage. I was divorced in October, met new husband in November and married in March. We were practically inseperable after our first meeting. Anyway, he is very jeolous of my family (parents etc.) who live about four hours from us. He does not associated with his family at all and does not understand that I have a very close relationship with mine. I have suggested that I go visit alone if he is not interested and he does not want me to do that either. We did go Christmas Eve and he got drunk. I was very embarrassed and let down. He has no interest in forming relationships with any of my family. His father was very abusive to him growing up and I think he sees my father as a threat. It's almost as if he wants conflict with them to prove that family is only out for themselves and they do not care about me. I cannot believe that I have let myself be alianated like this. I moved four hours away from family and friends, got a new job, we live in the country so we are by nature alienated in a since. I have no friends to speak of except at work. Which I am also having a problem with because I work nights and I am afraid he will cheat on me. Rediculous huh? I hate that I have allowed myself to regress into this total co dependent relationship. I do love him but give me a break!!!
I entered into a marriage just over a year ago not long after having left a ten year marriage. I was divorced in October, met new husband in November and married in March. We were practically inseperable after our first meeting. Anyway, he is very jeolous of my family (parents etc.) who live about four hours from us. He does not associated with his family at all and does not understand that I have a very close relationship with mine. I have suggested that I go visit alone if he is not interested and he does not want me to do that either. We did go Christmas Eve and he got drunk. I was very embarrassed and let down. He has no interest in forming relationships with any of my family. His father was very abusive to him growing up and I think he sees my father as a threat. It's almost as if he wants conflict with them to prove that family is only out for themselves and they do not care about me. I cannot believe that I have let myself be alianated like this. I moved four hours away from family and friends, got a new job, we live in the country so we are by nature alienated in a since. I have no friends to speak of except at work. Which I am also having a problem with because I work nights and I am afraid he will cheat on me. Rediculous huh? I hate that I have allowed myself to regress into this total co dependent relationship. I do love him but give me a break!!!