Help for a wife - how do I support him?

[nisijoey]

My husband gets high and has been getting drunk as well. I just found out this weekend that he gets high more often than I thought (every 2 hours, every day). It was easier to accept before because I was sure he never did it when with our son. He told me in a conversation we were having that he does get high when he is with our son (ie - going to the park). I have found a meeting for families, but would like some advice from the other side as well. He doesn't see the problem and thinks it is ok to drive as long as he doesn't drink. He doesn't think smoking pot impairs his driving.....is that true? How do I make him see that he has a problem? I am at the end of my rope and there isn't much help out there for the families as there is for the alcoholic/addict.:sad::195::confused:

[thereishope]

Hello nisijoey,
Welcome to CRF, its nice to meet you and my heart goes out to you and your situation.I am really glad to hear that you have found a meeting for families of addicts and yes smoking pot does impair your driving,it impares your driving when your on any mind altering substances.Thats the truth and a fact. as for advice and a an addict/alcholic myself, i dont like to give advice all i can do is speak of my exprence.The only way i personally got help is when i seen for myself that i had a mojor problem, my family tried to help and were also hurt because of my addictive behavior but i had to WANT help before i could get HELP. Keep going to your meetings and there are also forums here that help with families of addicts that might help you also. My heart goes out to you my friend and i will keep your family lifted up in prayer too k.:195::195::195:

[kaistevens]

It is great to meet you and excellent that you are seeking help for yourself. This is a good place, with a lot of good people, and many of us have actually lived on 'both sides'.

As for you husband, always always pray for him, but he has to decide he wants help, and he has to decide he has a problem. And hopefully, what you will learn as you start helping yourself, is that while you cannot controll another person, you are in charge of your own boundaries, and it is okay to stand behind them.