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Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 9:48 am Post subject: Paradoxes in Life
Paradoxes in Life
1. What you resist persists.
Exactly what you are trying to avoid, is exactly what you are
attracting to yourself. You know that things you don't want to happen,
they happen just because you put so much energy into trying not to let
them happen.
2. Your complaint about others is really a fear you have about
yourself.
When you are always putting someone, or some group, down, it
means there is something that person or group represents about
yourself that you can't accept. Fear of being stupid, ugly, devalued
by society, ostracized, worthless, self-centered, penniless, etc.
3. Opposites attract.
The more I learn about how men and women are wired differently,
the more amazed I am that any of us ever get together and stay
together happily. It really is a miracle how that works!
4. The core belief that you're not good enough.
We ALL walk around thinking some version of "I'm not good
enough, I don't matter, I'm worthless, I'm bad, I'm unlovable." How
can all of us be unacceptable? Ha! The joke is on us!
5. Out with the old, in with the new.
To allow something new into your life, you need to let
something go. Often we are holding onto the old (relationships, jobs,
etc.) until the new shows up ... but more often it isn't until you
simply let go of the old that the new has space to come into your
life.
6. Look inside for what you seek outside.
Whatever you are seeking outside yourself, you are certain
never to find. If you are seeking love, approval, security, or
validation from external circumstances, such as educational degrees,
intimate partners, social status, and all the "trappings" of the good
life, you are likely to end up empty. Only when you learn to give
these things to yourself first can you experience them consistently
since they are under your control. You can give yourself love at any
moment, but how many of us do?
7. AND
We are seemingly opposing forces in the same entity. We are
both male and female energy, light and dark, happy and sad, angry and
peaceful. We embody all these things, yet we often try to be only one
or the other. We are both ends of the spectrum and the in between. I
took on a word of the year--AND. Every time there seems to be a black
and white choice in my life, I say the word AND, then look for how to
create integration.
8. The Answer.
We are all searching for the answer. I believe this is just
part of being human and having these highly intelligent minds. But
answers are relative. Relative to the context, the people involved,
the timing, the decade, etc. Watch out for the trap: even if you say
you aren't searching for the answer, that is your answer...not to
search. Get it? You can't escape.
9. What you repress, comes out anyway.
Our society supports an unemotional human existence. We are
taught that being emotional is weak, and that logic and rationality
rule. However, emotions are one part of our 4-part beings: spiritual,
mental, physical, and emotional. And all four parts provide
intelligence. Cutting off or repressing any one part, cuts off
additional information and intelligence for you. When you repress your
emotions, they don't just go away, no matter how much you wish or
believe that. They get stuck inside you energetically and can make you
ill, keep you from achieving success in other areas of your life,
and/or burst out in extreme ways. You can only bury emotions for so
long, they always get out somehow. And often in destructive ways for
you and those you love around you. Don't kid yourself. Learn to feel
and express your emotions, regardless of what society or your peer
group says.
10. The Attraction Principle
Intention + Surrender = Attraction. The more you can be
intentional about what you want AND surrender the outcome, the more
attractive you become, and the more likely you are to receive what you
want.
Author Unknown
_________________
AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K.
"No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy
God says that each of us is worth loving.
We stay sober together - one day at a time!
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Age: 44
Joined: 01 Dec 2005
Posts: 7079
Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 9:48 am Post subject: Paradoxes in Life
Paradoxes in Life
1. What you resist persists.
Exactly what you are trying to avoid, is exactly what you are
attracting to yourself. You know that things you don't want to happen,
they happen just because you put so much energy into trying not to let
them happen.
2. Your complaint about others is really a fear you have about
yourself.
When you are always putting someone, or some group, down, it
means there is something that person or group represents about
yourself that you can't accept. Fear of being stupid, ugly, devalued
by society, ostracized, worthless, self-centered, penniless, etc.
3. Opposites attract.
The more I learn about how men and women are wired differently,
the more amazed I am that any of us ever get together and stay
together happily. It really is a miracle how that works!
4. The core belief that you're not good enough.
We ALL walk around thinking some version of "I'm not good
enough, I don't matter, I'm worthless, I'm bad, I'm unlovable." How
can all of us be unacceptable? Ha! The joke is on us!
5. Out with the old, in with the new.
To allow something new into your life, you need to let
something go. Often we are holding onto the old (relationships, jobs,
etc.) until the new shows up ... but more often it isn't until you
simply let go of the old that the new has space to come into your
life.
6. Look inside for what you seek outside.
Whatever you are seeking outside yourself, you are certain
never to find. If you are seeking love, approval, security, or
validation from external circumstances, such as educational degrees,
intimate partners, social status, and all the "trappings" of the good
life, you are likely to end up empty. Only when you learn to give
these things to yourself first can you experience them consistently
since they are under your control. You can give yourself love at any
moment, but how many of us do?
7. AND
We are seemingly opposing forces in the same entity. We are
both male and female energy, light and dark, happy and sad, angry and
peaceful. We embody all these things, yet we often try to be only one
or the other. We are both ends of the spectrum and the in between. I
took on a word of the year--AND. Every time there seems to be a black
and white choice in my life, I say the word AND, then look for how to
create integration.
8. The Answer.
We are all searching for the answer. I believe this is just
part of being human and having these highly intelligent minds. But
answers are relative. Relative to the context, the people involved,
the timing, the decade, etc. Watch out for the trap: even if you say
you aren't searching for the answer, that is your answer...not to
search. Get it? You can't escape.
9. What you repress, comes out anyway.
Our society supports an unemotional human existence. We are
taught that being emotional is weak, and that logic and rationality
rule. However, emotions are one part of our 4-part beings: spiritual,
mental, physical, and emotional. And all four parts provide
intelligence. Cutting off or repressing any one part, cuts off
additional information and intelligence for you. When you repress your
emotions, they don't just go away, no matter how much you wish or
believe that. They get stuck inside you energetically and can make you
ill, keep you from achieving success in other areas of your life,
and/or burst out in extreme ways. You can only bury emotions for so
long, they always get out somehow. And often in destructive ways for
you and those you love around you. Don't kid yourself. Learn to feel
and express your emotions, regardless of what society or your peer
group says.
10. The Attraction Principle
Intention + Surrender = Attraction. The more you can be
intentional about what you want AND surrender the outcome, the more
attractive you become, and the more likely you are to receive what you
want.
Author Unknown
_________________
AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K.
"No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy
God says that each of us is worth loving.
We stay sober together - one day at a time!