clean42day
08-22-2008, 12:20 PM
Even though this is an AA daily reflection - I think it has valid codependent points
in the shortest description possible - codependents are "people addicts" = becasue we are constantly trying to play god in peoples lives.
*~*~*~*~*^Daily Reflections^*~*~*~*~*
SEEKING EMOTIONAL STABILITY
When we developed still more, we discovered the best possible source
of emotional stability to be God Himself. We found that dependence
upon His perfect justice, forgiveness, and love was healthy, and that
it would work where nothing else would. If we really depended upon
God, we couldn't very well play God to our fellows nor would we feel
the urge wholly to rely on human protection and care.
TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 116
All my life I depended on people for my emotional needs and security,
but today I cannot live that way anymore. By the grace of God, I
have admitted my powerlessness over people, places and things. I had
been a real "people addict"; wherever I went there had to be someone
who would pay some kind of attention to me. It was the kind of
attitude that could only get worse, because the more I depended on
others and demanded attention, the less I received.
I have given up believing that any human power can relieve me of
that empty feeling. Although I remain a fragile human being who
needs to work A. A. Steps to keep this particular principle before
my personality, it is only a loving God who can give me inner peace
and emotional stability.
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ +++++++++++++++++++++++
and here in the simple language of AA it tells me the solution to my dilemma - stop trying to use people to fill that empty hole to make myself feel complete and allow God's love to fill me up and be "enough" and on the other hand - stop tyring to create learned helplessness in others so they will be dependent on me - so I can feel "important and needed" and instead; give them also to God and let go of the percieved sick "need" to fix other people's problems.
When I started placing God FIRST in my life - many of my "people" problems started to take care of themselves.
light and love
Gail
http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j224/gail_ve/spiritual/codependentprayer.jpg
in the shortest description possible - codependents are "people addicts" = becasue we are constantly trying to play god in peoples lives.
*~*~*~*~*^Daily Reflections^*~*~*~*~*
SEEKING EMOTIONAL STABILITY
When we developed still more, we discovered the best possible source
of emotional stability to be God Himself. We found that dependence
upon His perfect justice, forgiveness, and love was healthy, and that
it would work where nothing else would. If we really depended upon
God, we couldn't very well play God to our fellows nor would we feel
the urge wholly to rely on human protection and care.
TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 116
All my life I depended on people for my emotional needs and security,
but today I cannot live that way anymore. By the grace of God, I
have admitted my powerlessness over people, places and things. I had
been a real "people addict"; wherever I went there had to be someone
who would pay some kind of attention to me. It was the kind of
attitude that could only get worse, because the more I depended on
others and demanded attention, the less I received.
I have given up believing that any human power can relieve me of
that empty feeling. Although I remain a fragile human being who
needs to work A. A. Steps to keep this particular principle before
my personality, it is only a loving God who can give me inner peace
and emotional stability.
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ +++++++++++++++++++++++
and here in the simple language of AA it tells me the solution to my dilemma - stop trying to use people to fill that empty hole to make myself feel complete and allow God's love to fill me up and be "enough" and on the other hand - stop tyring to create learned helplessness in others so they will be dependent on me - so I can feel "important and needed" and instead; give them also to God and let go of the percieved sick "need" to fix other people's problems.
When I started placing God FIRST in my life - many of my "people" problems started to take care of themselves.
light and love
Gail
http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j224/gail_ve/spiritual/codependentprayer.jpg