thereishope
09-22-2008, 11:24 AM
Hello everyone & Good morning,
I feel blessed to be able to do the weekly meeting this week, so i have been praying on what to talk about and it came to me to talk about one of the valuable lessons i have learned and am learning how to deal with.
Its on being defensive because in my active addiction that was a big downfall for me. Someone would say something to me and i would retaliate with my reasonings and pleading my case my way without reguard of anyones feelings:twisted:. I would get so defensive that i would want to either rip your head off or mow you down like a line backer:lol:
Either i didnt want to hear it cause it was true or i got really defensive to cover my lies:sad:
Well after i began my road of recovery and not quite willing to accept the hard truth of the pain and heartache i caused it got even worse and i just wouldn't want to listen to anyone period and still plead my case MY WAY:16:
Well through recovery and steps i learned the reasons i was that way and one of the best things i have learned is to listen with love and really hear my loved ones when they are trying to talk to me....i mean REALLY LISTEN and i didn't have to automatically plead my case for rebuttal. When this begin to happen i began to realize that i was really changing from deep inside and i was beginning to WANT to dig deeper and i wasn't afraid anymore.
Now here it is a little over 5yrs later and im still learning things in that one particular area. Reguardless of the awesome progress i have made and made amends there are still those others that will just want to rip all over you just because they can and now i can actually hold my tounge and not fly off the handle and just accept that thats the way they are gonna feel no matter what you say or do and thats ok with me today:12:
It has also helped me to recoginize it in my sponcees and others without judgement but to understand because i was there also and it helps to be able to be a better listener. If they are on the defensive with me i have learned how to have much more patience with them and my attitude. If they are not ready to hear what i have to say and they are on the defensive thats ok cause one day they will be and ill be right here for them just the same and with a loving and caring heart.:42:
These are a few of the things i have learned on just this one thing alone and i am so very thankful for them and the awesome changes that recovery has given me and i am also very thankful for others that have been very patient with me as i grow. I am extremly grateful for all of you and the beautiful spirits that GOD has bestowed upon my life.:195:
Thankyou for letting me share and i wish everyone a very blessed happy 24:1:
I feel blessed to be able to do the weekly meeting this week, so i have been praying on what to talk about and it came to me to talk about one of the valuable lessons i have learned and am learning how to deal with.
Its on being defensive because in my active addiction that was a big downfall for me. Someone would say something to me and i would retaliate with my reasonings and pleading my case my way without reguard of anyones feelings:twisted:. I would get so defensive that i would want to either rip your head off or mow you down like a line backer:lol:
Either i didnt want to hear it cause it was true or i got really defensive to cover my lies:sad:
Well after i began my road of recovery and not quite willing to accept the hard truth of the pain and heartache i caused it got even worse and i just wouldn't want to listen to anyone period and still plead my case MY WAY:16:
Well through recovery and steps i learned the reasons i was that way and one of the best things i have learned is to listen with love and really hear my loved ones when they are trying to talk to me....i mean REALLY LISTEN and i didn't have to automatically plead my case for rebuttal. When this begin to happen i began to realize that i was really changing from deep inside and i was beginning to WANT to dig deeper and i wasn't afraid anymore.
Now here it is a little over 5yrs later and im still learning things in that one particular area. Reguardless of the awesome progress i have made and made amends there are still those others that will just want to rip all over you just because they can and now i can actually hold my tounge and not fly off the handle and just accept that thats the way they are gonna feel no matter what you say or do and thats ok with me today:12:
It has also helped me to recoginize it in my sponcees and others without judgement but to understand because i was there also and it helps to be able to be a better listener. If they are on the defensive with me i have learned how to have much more patience with them and my attitude. If they are not ready to hear what i have to say and they are on the defensive thats ok cause one day they will be and ill be right here for them just the same and with a loving and caring heart.:42:
These are a few of the things i have learned on just this one thing alone and i am so very thankful for them and the awesome changes that recovery has given me and i am also very thankful for others that have been very patient with me as i grow. I am extremly grateful for all of you and the beautiful spirits that GOD has bestowed upon my life.:195:
Thankyou for letting me share and i wish everyone a very blessed happy 24:1: