relationships

[rachel4real]

I have 58 days today. I am glad for this site. How do I go through a breakup and keep my sanity at this point? I keep telling my x that I need to be single and focus on my recovery. He likes to jump in to rescue me whenever he sees me weak. I'm struggling because I care deeply him. What should I do?

[letgo]

Hi Rachel,
Well done on 58 days and Welcome to CFR. I am fairly new here too. Really hope you enjoy this place as much as I am. No relationship expert here, but are you going to AA or NA for support? What about CODA? I don't know much about your circumstances but all I can suggest is that your recovery remains your number one priority. Please keep posting, in Fellowship.
http://www.codependents.org/

[Rich75]

Hello rachel4real and Welcome :74: Congradulations on your 58 days :150: you are a miracle and a winner today. It was suggested to me if I was in a relationship stay in it and if you wasn't then don't. Let me start by asking if you have a sponser? They help a lot in these types of situations. There are sites here that help with Co-dependant issues as well maybe he would like to take a look at that. I'll keep you in my prayers. Thanks.:42:

[francie21805]

:17:Hello and Welcome rachel4real—We’re so glad you’re here!! And congratulations on 58 day!!! :85: That huge!!

I could be wrong, but it sounds like you already know you have/need to put your sobriety first. My Sponsor, friends in the A.A. program and all the literature stress this fact. “If I put anything before my recovery, I stand a very good chance of getting drunk again” They also help me to see when I start to putting things before my sobriety. :wink: What helped me when I was first getting sober was going to a meeting everyday and getting a sponsor pretty quickly.

It's a "we" Program!!

Thank you very for sharing with us and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep coming back and let us know how you’re doing. :42:

[gettinfree]

Hey Rachel...Glad you found your way into our fellowship...Welcome...and congratulations on you recovery time...Yea, for me my recovery must come first. This isn't my first time around the block. I'm no expert in relationships, I do know that if I had placed recovery 1st in the past, I would have stood a better chance of Letting Go and Letting God, and not trying to retain control...That's All I know about relationships. There is loads of experience and support in these rooms...Again...Welcome...Keep Coming Back...Your Friend in Recovery...Mike :D

[Faith92208]

Yay for 58 (now 59) days! :29: :12: :171:

Whatever you decide to do regarding your boyfriend, I pray that you have strength and courage in the journey ahead.

[yukonm]

:89: on your 58 days. Glad you found us.
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[CD BUCKBERRY]

:89::88:Good work on 58 days.It is good you found us at Cyber Recovery Fellowship,we are here for you 24/7.Keep up good work.Most of all stay clean and sober.

[admin]

:67: Rachel! :17: Glad to have you join us. Congrats on 58 days! :85: Do you have a sponsor? If not then I suggest getting one. If you do have a sponsor then I suggest talking to them about this. For myself, I would pray on the matter and then I would be direct and firm about what I have to say and repeat it if necessary. If it came down to it and it was possible then I would also avoid places where I knew the x would be. Now I don't know all about your situation but in the end you are the one who has to decide what to do. Keep coming and sharing with us here. We are here for you. :42: