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[scouseuk]

I'm not really sure what I'm after. I certainly don't know if I will find it here. I DON'T want religion. I would appreciate it if somebody could tell me straight off if that is what this site is about. Thanks but no thanks.

I'm struggling badly with binge drinking and cocaine abuse. One leads to the other, the circle begins. I know I'm letting down my partner, my kids and I know people who surround me don't really care about them. I get the old "you need to cut back, behave" but then I realise the people who are giving me this "advice" are the people sharing my binges.

I really don't know what to do about it.

Sorry if this seems a curt and a bit off as an introduction. I just need a bit of help.

Thanks for listening

[yukonm]

I hope you can find something here that will help you. Sometimes what we don't want is what we need the most. Please keep an open mind. This is not a religious site but one for people who need support and encouragement from the disease of addiction. Take time and look around the different forums offered here. I wish you success in your search for help.
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[CleverCelt]

Reading your post reminds me of where I was stuck for years. You sound unsure of whether you want to recover or not. You made not have hit your bottom. "Every bottom has a trap door". Only you can decide which bottom is low enough.

This is not a religious site but one for people who need support and encouragement from the disease of addiction.

Just by looking for and finding the forum you know you have a concern about your Binges.I find a lot of inspiration and encouragement on this forum.

Best of luck to you.

[Faith92208]

Part of the 12 steps in AA is admitting that you are powerless over alcohol, that there is a Higher Power who can restore you to sanity, and then turning your life over to that Higher Power. While my HP is Jesus, other people have a different God of their understanding. This is not an exclusive group by any means; rather the focus is on stopping drinking and figuring out who/what your HP is is up to you, an entirely personal matter. No one is going to try to convert you.

Hope this helps!

[Rockin Big Daddy]

Think of something that is truly a priority for you. And know, without a doubt, that you can find the time to get it done.

Of course you're busy, and your time is valuable. That's why it is so important to make sure you use your time to achieve the outcomes you desire.

Simply being busy won't really get you anywhere. Being effective, in a way that's meaningful, is what will take you places.

Achievement takes time and you have the time. As each moment passes, grab the immense value that's in it by using it to move your world forward.

There is plenty of time in this day to take action. Choose right now to stop making excuses and to start making progress.

[ryrym]

Hi and welcome

This not a religious site but it does deal with spirituality just as the steps for recovery are spiritually based. When you hear someone talk about God it is just their interpretation of their Higher Power. You are free to form your own concept of that and nobody can tell you that its wrong. As they say in the opening to most NA meetings it is suggested that it just be kind, loving and greater than yourself. You can fill in any other details you like.

Me personally, I use a Guardian Angel concept because something had to be watching over me and keeping me alive.

There are alot of good people to encourage and help the struggling addict/alcoholic. Find where you feel comfortable. Sit back relax and read. Just keep an open mind.
And keep coming back

[BIG AL]

actually in the beginin u dont have to use god as higher power.the point of this place is to find a common ground we can all come together and find out whats workin to better our lives without the drugs and alchol.we beleive that u need to find a power greater than yourself.wich could be the gruop.together we are a power greater than u.and get a sponsor ans try workin the steps and your life will change and get better.i know exactly what u mean when u say one leads to another.i use to drink 2 or 3 beers and wamo i was gettin some dope come hell or high water.nothin got into the way(NOTHIN).Religion is not for me its for someone else.but instead of tellin us what u dont want from us and settin terms on what u are willin to do to get away from the drugs and alchol.start focussin on what u are willin to do to get yourself together.when i sobered this last time i was so beat up if you told me to eat dog poop and you will stay clean and sober i would of done it.its all about what u are willin to do.in the big book it talks about contempt prior to investigation.wich means u akready made a judgment without lookin into whats really gong on.keep and open mind and get to a meetin be blessed

[francie21805]

:17:Welcome scouseuk, I’m glad you’re here! :42:

If you have a desire to stop drinking and using you are in one of the right places. There is also the fellowships of NA and AA. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to or believe as others do. We share our experience, strength and hope with each other on how we stay sober “one day at time”. If you haven’t been to one of these meetings yet, I would suggest you try one. When I got my first sponsor she told me if I wanted to get sober all I needed to be was to be honest, open and willing.

Please let us know how you’re doing.

[gettinfree]

Hey scouseuk...Before I get started, were gonna pass the basket. Don't worry were not religion or church...I could use a few bucks...nevermind that. What 12 step recovery is about, and not always inthe beginning for many of us, is finding a strength through sprituality in what ever direction you find yourself being lead to during your recovery. I was told to start with an open mind reguarding matters of spirtuallity. I couldn't know where I was going to be lead. I just knew that my addictions, no matter how many times, or how hard I tried, would budge with MY will. These addictions included binge drinking and crack. along with anything else I could shoot, smoke, snort...You've taken the most important step we all take. Recognizing a problem, then looking for help...Come back here...talk about it. Open your phone book, look for NA or AA. Make a call. Your life depends on it...Your Friend in Recovery...Mike