praying for help

[analogjack]

I don't know what to pray for. My sponsor tells me to pray to be ok with what is happening. i don't normally ask for anything but god's will in prayer and sometimes strength.

my girlfriend is pregnant and has scheduled an abortion. I desperately don't want her to have the abortion. she won't discuss it because she says it makes it too hard.

I don't know what god's will is in this. I only know my will means nothing. I am in so much pain.

I want god to look after all of us. I want god to want this baby on this earth. and if god doesnt, i want god to protect the two of us.

I am not feeling a lot of faith in the universe.

[yukonm]

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You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[thereishope]

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Of course GOD wants this baby on earth honey. Your girlfriends choice is not GODS fault, she just dosent want to listen to anyone right now and oh how i pray she does because if she cant even talk about it then the way she is gonna feel afterwards will be unimaginable. I am so sorry she wont listen to you and i know this is hurting you as well because this is your baby too. Im gonna be praying really hard over this one. Thankyou for coming and talking about this and not keeping it in. Please keep doing that.

[admin]

Lifting you both up in prayer. :195:

[annalittlebit]

You will both be HUGE in my Thoughts and Prayers!!!!!! I know firsthand that her decision is a hard one but I'm praying she finds another way-----:195:

[francie21805]

I've had to let you post sit for a bit, because of my personal feelings. Another part of my downward spiral into alcoholism, was the pain I felt after having 3 miscarriages and 3 tubule pregnancies. I have worked through a lot of it, but there is still a sting of pain that will hit me from time to time.

I do believe in making personal choices here, but I do believe you have a say too!

Thats as much as I feel I need to share other than I will pray for all of you.:13:

Thanks for sharing!

[analogjack]

Francie21805, I'm sorry for your loss. my sister's history sounds identical to yours. she is currently working with fertility doctors, on pharmaceutical cocktails and spending every cent she has trying to have a baby. it is crazy trying to understand why the world is like this. one person throwing a life away (that we would be perfectly capable of caring for) while another has spent her whole adult life in tragedy trying to have a baby.

I've been trying to separate my anger towards her, so she will feel there is somewhere to turn in the future when it all sinks in. I think she really has no idea how this will affect her, and that she is doing something that will affect her forever. it's not something i can keep trying to tell her, she just feels i am trying to emotionally blackmail her into keeping the baby.

I don't know how to process this loss though. its not like a senseless accident, or an illness. she and I are both very healthy and there is every reason to expect that in the absence of this decision there would have been a beautiful healthy baby.

I pray to God to live in his will. I pray to be ok with what is happening. I pray for God to care for her. I pray for god to fill me with love because right now I am so darkly distorted in how i perceive everything in the world.

thanks, everyone for the support

[admin]

I never had an abortion but I was with my girlfriend from high school and my step sister when they had theirs. I can tell you what each told me afterwards and that is they would never do that again and wish they hadn't done it. I had another friend from school tell me a few years after having her abortion done the same thing. I hope your girlfriend has seriously thought about this because once it is done it's done. No turning back and you have to live with the decision for the rest of your life. You never forget. I know because I saw how it was with these others. I will be keeping you both in my prayers. :42:

[sonia n]

:195::195::195::195::195::195: My prayers are with the both of you...

[analogjack]

she had the abortion. i feel broken. i have tried to offer her positive supportive words and not shame or guilt her, but inside, i hate her and i feel she is a monster. i also feel sad for her, but i am so filled with anger and pain.

i'm going to a meeting. what else is there to do. i have a terrible hunger for oblivion in me that wouldn't help anything. i didn't get clean for rewards in life, i got clean because i couldn't stand being on the drugs and the horrific destructive person I was.

i take no comfort from prayer.

i wish i could talk about it at a meeting or with people in program (everyone i know is in program). but we are both in program and it doesn't seem fair to her.

what am is supposed to pray for?

[francie21805]

Great job in your actions toward her and I believe it's okay to feel what you're feeling. And Great move on the meeting!!! I think this is where my sponsor would ask me to practice acting as if.

I'm so sorry :42:
I will pray and ask God to heal you're heart. :13:

We're with you and love you!!!

[yukonm]

You both are in my prayers.:195::195:

[thereishope]

Oh i am sooooooooo sorry,
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