dalin
01-27-2009, 12:08 PM
>73 musts in It Works How & Why
>
> 1. "However, we can learn to be honest, and we must begin to try."
STEP ONE
>
> 2. "No matter how our disease displays itself, we must take its deadly
nature into account." STEP ONE
>
> 3. "To get started on this journey, we must become willing to
surrender to this program." STEP ONE
>
> 4. "Three of these that are indispensable are honesty,
open-mindedness, and willingness. " This doesn't mean we must be
unfailingly honest, open-minded, and willing. STEP TWO
>
> 5. "we must remember that our understanding of a Power greater than
ourselves is up to each individual." STEP TWO
>
> 6. This takes humility, for we must let go of our fears about how we
may appear to others. STEP TWO
>
> 7. As painful as it seems, we must change. STEP TWO
>
> 8. We must now go on to Step Three to develop a relationship with the
God of our understanding. STEP TWO
>
> 9. We gather as much knowledge, insight, and experience as we can from
these sources, and then we make our own decision. No one can do it for
us; we must consciously decide to do this for ourselves. STEP THREE
>
> 10. Our years of living a lie must end. If we sit down and become very
quiet with ourselves, we will find it easier to get in touch with the
truth. STEP FOUR
>
> 11. Most of us don't have much experience with the type of
self-appraisal we are about to do, and we must have the guidance and
support of our sponsor in order to understand what we're doing. STEP
FOUR
>
> 12. we must begin to alter the self-defeating patterns that have
prevailed in our lives. STEP FOUR
>
> 13. We must overcome our fear and work the Fifth Step if we are to
make any significant changes in the way we live. STEP FIVE
>
> 14. Working this step with the support of our sponsor and a loving God
is a way of putting into practice our decision to allow God to care for
our will and our lives. That decision, like most decisions we make, must
be followed with action. STEP FIVE
>
> 15. The first thing we must realize is that the Fifth Step is not a
quick fix for a painful situation. If we work this step expecting our
feelings to go away, we are expecting the steps to numb us the way drugs
did. STEP FIVE
>
> 16. Although there is no requirement that the listener must be our
sponsor, most of us choose to share our inventory with him or her. STEP
FIVE
>
> 17. We must talk with other recovering addicts about our fears and
feelings so we can hear the experience they have to share. STEP FIVE
>
> 18. Although some of us have not understood the critical importance of
the Sixth and Seventh Steps, they are essential actions that must be
taken if we expect to make any significant and lasting changes in our
lives. STEP SIX
>
> 19. We've already had experience in the Third Step with what we must
do now in the Sixth Step. STEP SIX
>
> 20. What we must do, rather than try to exert power and control over
our defects, is step out of the way and allow a loving God to work in
our lives. STEP SIX
>
> 21. Despite our lack of familiarity with the realm of the spirit, we
must remember that, in Steps One through Three, we were given the basic
tools we need to negotiate the path of recovery. STEP SIX
>
> 22. No matter how difficult our progress, we must persevere. STEP SIX
>
> 23. Our fears of what we will be like without relying on the
destructive behavior of our past must be overcome. STEP SIX
>
> 24. We must be willing to take a chance that what lies beyond the
Sixth Step is going to be better than our current stock of fears,
resentments, and spiritual anguish. STEP SIX
>
> 25. We've taken a giant step forward in the process of recovery, but
it must be followed with another to be truly lasting. With the readiness
we have at hand today, we go on to Step Seven. STEP SIX
>
> 26. To work the Seventh Step, we must get out of the way so that God
can do God's work. STEP SEVEN
>
> 27. Because our view of what we can hope for may be limited, many of
us can't even begin to imagine what our Higher Power has in store for
us. If this is the case for us, we must rely on faith. STEP SEVEN
>
> 28. We must avoid projections, either negative or positive, about
actually making our amends. STEP EIGHT
>
> 29. Most of us owe amends to at least one person who has also harmed
us. Perhaps we haven't truly forgiven that person yet and find we are
very reluctant to put her or his name on our list. However, we must. We
are responsible for our actions. STEP EIGHT
>
> 30. We must let go of resentments and focus on our part in the
conflicts in our lives. STEP EIGHT
>
> 31. Our idea that we have been a victim must go. STEP EIGHT
>
> 32. Our recovery is at stake. If we want to continue with our
recovery, we must make amends. STEP EIGHT
>
> 33. Our commitment to recovery includes becoming ready to go as far as
we must. STEP EIGHT
>
> 34. Now we must do everything we can to repair the harm we've caused
STEP NINE
>
> 35. We must be willing to follow through, regardless of the potential
outcome. STEP NINE
>
> 36. We must be courageous when we work this step. STEP NINE
>
> 37. But whether they are willing to accept us or not, we must go on
with making our amends to them. STEP NINE
>
> 38. We must let go of any expectations we have on how our amends will
turn out and leave the results to the God of our understanding. It is
very important that we do our absolute best to make amends. STEP NINE
>
> 39. Even though we are sure to have amends to make to people who have
also harmed us, we must set our hurt feelings aside STEP NINE
>
> 40. In the meantime, we must remain willing to make those amends. STEP
NINE
>
> 41. We must somehow learn to live with such things. We live with
indescribable remorse over such acts and wonder what we could possibly
do to make amends. STEP NINE
>
> 42. We must become more considerate, sensitive, and attentive to the
needs of others. STEP NINE
>
> 43. Though this may seem to be an abstract concept, we must make
concrete amends by changing our behavior. STEP NINE
>
> 44. But we must continue to grow, and that's exactly what the Tenth
Step helps us do. STEP TEN
>
> 45. Although forming a habit of working this step may be difficult at
first, we must persist. STEP TEN
>
> 46. While our sponsor will provide us with guidance, we must apply the
principles of the program for ourselves and arrive at our own decision.
STEP TEN
>
> 47. In the end, we are the ones who must live with our conscience.
STEP TEN
>
> 48. In order to do so comfortably, we must decide what is, and what is
not, morally acceptable in our lives. STEP TEN
>
> 49. In order to do so comfortably, we must decide what is, and what is
not, morally acceptable in our lives. STEP TEN
>
> 50. Of course, we must be just as careful when amending our current
behavior as we were when we made amends in the Ninth Step. STEP TEN
>
> 51. We must remember that the Tenth Step isn't a one-sided endeavor,
an exercise in noting what we have done wrong. STEP TEN
>
> 52. We must resist any urge to become obsessive with this step,
ruthlessly searching out every flaw in our character. STEP TEN
>
> 53. Although all of us need the love and attention of others, that
doesn't mean we must depend on people to provide what we can only find
within ourselves. STEP TEN
>
> 54. We must build on our surrender by taking action, just as we have
in the previous steps. STEP ELEVEN
>
> 55. we must also increase the courage we've developed in the previous
steps. STEP ELEVEN
>
> 56. We may wonder if our sponsor is now going to inform us that we
must pray or meditate in a particular way. STEP ELEVEN
>
> 57. Though the temptation to pray for a particular result may be
great, we must resist the urge to do so if we want to experience the
rewards of the Eleventh Step. STEP ELEVEN
>
> 58. We must make use of what we've learned in the previous eleven as
we carry the message and practice the principles of recovery in all our
affairs. STEP TWELVE
>
> 59. Now we must ask ourselves, just what is "the message" we are
trying to carry? Is it that we never have to use drugs again? Is it
that, through recovery, we cease being likely candidates for jails,
institutions, and an early death? Is it the hope that an addict, any
addict, can recover from the disease of addiction? Well, it's all of
this and more. STEP TWELVE
>
> 60. Developing a personal style for carrying the message rests on a
simple requirement: We must be ourselves. STEP TWELVE
>
> 61. By striving to see beyond our individual ideas and the interests
of our own group, we come to understand that the common welfare of all
NA must come first. TRADITION ONE
>
> 62. We can look to our individual conscience as well as the collective
conscience for guidance in all we must do in fulfilling our
responsibilities. TRADITION TWO
>
> 63. We must exist in the world. It's not possible to be entirely
separate, evading all contact with outside agencies TRADITION SIX
>
> 64. We must exercise prudence in employing professional assistance for
our services. TRADITION EIGHT
>
> 65. Okay, so we may create service boards or committees. Now we must
ask ourselves, why would we want to create such things? What are the
needs these boards and committees would fulfill? To answer this
question, let's look at how an NA group evolves, as we did when
considering the Seventh Tradition. TRADITION NINE
>
> 66. But what about speaking in a recovery gathering? Does the Tenth
Tradition tell us that, as individual recovering addicts, we must not
talk in NA meetings about the challenges we face? No, it does not. While
a particular problem may be an outside issue, its effect on our recovery
is not; everything affecting a recovering addict's life is material for
sharing. If a problem we are having impacts our ability to stay clean
and grow spiritually, it's not an outside issue. TRADITION TEN
>
> 67. To do these things effectively, we must stay as free of the
distractions of public controversy as possible. TRADITION TEN
>
> 68. To fulfill Tradition Ten, our groups, service boards, and
committees must exercise prudence in their public contacts. TRADITION
TEN
>
> 69. In all our contacts with society, we must take care not to express
any opinions on issues outside the scope of our program. TRADITION TEN
>
> 70. we must never do this—not with celebrity members, not with any
member. If our fellowship used a celebrity member in a public
announcement about NA and the celebrity later relapsed or otherwise
suffered a loss of prestige, what good would that do our fellowship's
credibility? The same could apply to any individual member put in the
public spotlight on NA's behalf. TRADITION ELEVEN
>
> 71. By the same token, we must remember that, wherever we go, we
always represent NA to some degree. TRADITION ELEVEN
>
> 72. To be of maximum service to the still-suffering addict, we must
energetically seek to carry our message throughout our cities, towns,
and villages. TRADITION ELEVEN
>
> 73. But to attract the still-suffering addict to our program, we must
take vigorous steps to make our program widely known TRADITION ELEVEN
>
> 1. "However, we can learn to be honest, and we must begin to try."
STEP ONE
>
> 2. "No matter how our disease displays itself, we must take its deadly
nature into account." STEP ONE
>
> 3. "To get started on this journey, we must become willing to
surrender to this program." STEP ONE
>
> 4. "Three of these that are indispensable are honesty,
open-mindedness, and willingness. " This doesn't mean we must be
unfailingly honest, open-minded, and willing. STEP TWO
>
> 5. "we must remember that our understanding of a Power greater than
ourselves is up to each individual." STEP TWO
>
> 6. This takes humility, for we must let go of our fears about how we
may appear to others. STEP TWO
>
> 7. As painful as it seems, we must change. STEP TWO
>
> 8. We must now go on to Step Three to develop a relationship with the
God of our understanding. STEP TWO
>
> 9. We gather as much knowledge, insight, and experience as we can from
these sources, and then we make our own decision. No one can do it for
us; we must consciously decide to do this for ourselves. STEP THREE
>
> 10. Our years of living a lie must end. If we sit down and become very
quiet with ourselves, we will find it easier to get in touch with the
truth. STEP FOUR
>
> 11. Most of us don't have much experience with the type of
self-appraisal we are about to do, and we must have the guidance and
support of our sponsor in order to understand what we're doing. STEP
FOUR
>
> 12. we must begin to alter the self-defeating patterns that have
prevailed in our lives. STEP FOUR
>
> 13. We must overcome our fear and work the Fifth Step if we are to
make any significant changes in the way we live. STEP FIVE
>
> 14. Working this step with the support of our sponsor and a loving God
is a way of putting into practice our decision to allow God to care for
our will and our lives. That decision, like most decisions we make, must
be followed with action. STEP FIVE
>
> 15. The first thing we must realize is that the Fifth Step is not a
quick fix for a painful situation. If we work this step expecting our
feelings to go away, we are expecting the steps to numb us the way drugs
did. STEP FIVE
>
> 16. Although there is no requirement that the listener must be our
sponsor, most of us choose to share our inventory with him or her. STEP
FIVE
>
> 17. We must talk with other recovering addicts about our fears and
feelings so we can hear the experience they have to share. STEP FIVE
>
> 18. Although some of us have not understood the critical importance of
the Sixth and Seventh Steps, they are essential actions that must be
taken if we expect to make any significant and lasting changes in our
lives. STEP SIX
>
> 19. We've already had experience in the Third Step with what we must
do now in the Sixth Step. STEP SIX
>
> 20. What we must do, rather than try to exert power and control over
our defects, is step out of the way and allow a loving God to work in
our lives. STEP SIX
>
> 21. Despite our lack of familiarity with the realm of the spirit, we
must remember that, in Steps One through Three, we were given the basic
tools we need to negotiate the path of recovery. STEP SIX
>
> 22. No matter how difficult our progress, we must persevere. STEP SIX
>
> 23. Our fears of what we will be like without relying on the
destructive behavior of our past must be overcome. STEP SIX
>
> 24. We must be willing to take a chance that what lies beyond the
Sixth Step is going to be better than our current stock of fears,
resentments, and spiritual anguish. STEP SIX
>
> 25. We've taken a giant step forward in the process of recovery, but
it must be followed with another to be truly lasting. With the readiness
we have at hand today, we go on to Step Seven. STEP SIX
>
> 26. To work the Seventh Step, we must get out of the way so that God
can do God's work. STEP SEVEN
>
> 27. Because our view of what we can hope for may be limited, many of
us can't even begin to imagine what our Higher Power has in store for
us. If this is the case for us, we must rely on faith. STEP SEVEN
>
> 28. We must avoid projections, either negative or positive, about
actually making our amends. STEP EIGHT
>
> 29. Most of us owe amends to at least one person who has also harmed
us. Perhaps we haven't truly forgiven that person yet and find we are
very reluctant to put her or his name on our list. However, we must. We
are responsible for our actions. STEP EIGHT
>
> 30. We must let go of resentments and focus on our part in the
conflicts in our lives. STEP EIGHT
>
> 31. Our idea that we have been a victim must go. STEP EIGHT
>
> 32. Our recovery is at stake. If we want to continue with our
recovery, we must make amends. STEP EIGHT
>
> 33. Our commitment to recovery includes becoming ready to go as far as
we must. STEP EIGHT
>
> 34. Now we must do everything we can to repair the harm we've caused
STEP NINE
>
> 35. We must be willing to follow through, regardless of the potential
outcome. STEP NINE
>
> 36. We must be courageous when we work this step. STEP NINE
>
> 37. But whether they are willing to accept us or not, we must go on
with making our amends to them. STEP NINE
>
> 38. We must let go of any expectations we have on how our amends will
turn out and leave the results to the God of our understanding. It is
very important that we do our absolute best to make amends. STEP NINE
>
> 39. Even though we are sure to have amends to make to people who have
also harmed us, we must set our hurt feelings aside STEP NINE
>
> 40. In the meantime, we must remain willing to make those amends. STEP
NINE
>
> 41. We must somehow learn to live with such things. We live with
indescribable remorse over such acts and wonder what we could possibly
do to make amends. STEP NINE
>
> 42. We must become more considerate, sensitive, and attentive to the
needs of others. STEP NINE
>
> 43. Though this may seem to be an abstract concept, we must make
concrete amends by changing our behavior. STEP NINE
>
> 44. But we must continue to grow, and that's exactly what the Tenth
Step helps us do. STEP TEN
>
> 45. Although forming a habit of working this step may be difficult at
first, we must persist. STEP TEN
>
> 46. While our sponsor will provide us with guidance, we must apply the
principles of the program for ourselves and arrive at our own decision.
STEP TEN
>
> 47. In the end, we are the ones who must live with our conscience.
STEP TEN
>
> 48. In order to do so comfortably, we must decide what is, and what is
not, morally acceptable in our lives. STEP TEN
>
> 49. In order to do so comfortably, we must decide what is, and what is
not, morally acceptable in our lives. STEP TEN
>
> 50. Of course, we must be just as careful when amending our current
behavior as we were when we made amends in the Ninth Step. STEP TEN
>
> 51. We must remember that the Tenth Step isn't a one-sided endeavor,
an exercise in noting what we have done wrong. STEP TEN
>
> 52. We must resist any urge to become obsessive with this step,
ruthlessly searching out every flaw in our character. STEP TEN
>
> 53. Although all of us need the love and attention of others, that
doesn't mean we must depend on people to provide what we can only find
within ourselves. STEP TEN
>
> 54. We must build on our surrender by taking action, just as we have
in the previous steps. STEP ELEVEN
>
> 55. we must also increase the courage we've developed in the previous
steps. STEP ELEVEN
>
> 56. We may wonder if our sponsor is now going to inform us that we
must pray or meditate in a particular way. STEP ELEVEN
>
> 57. Though the temptation to pray for a particular result may be
great, we must resist the urge to do so if we want to experience the
rewards of the Eleventh Step. STEP ELEVEN
>
> 58. We must make use of what we've learned in the previous eleven as
we carry the message and practice the principles of recovery in all our
affairs. STEP TWELVE
>
> 59. Now we must ask ourselves, just what is "the message" we are
trying to carry? Is it that we never have to use drugs again? Is it
that, through recovery, we cease being likely candidates for jails,
institutions, and an early death? Is it the hope that an addict, any
addict, can recover from the disease of addiction? Well, it's all of
this and more. STEP TWELVE
>
> 60. Developing a personal style for carrying the message rests on a
simple requirement: We must be ourselves. STEP TWELVE
>
> 61. By striving to see beyond our individual ideas and the interests
of our own group, we come to understand that the common welfare of all
NA must come first. TRADITION ONE
>
> 62. We can look to our individual conscience as well as the collective
conscience for guidance in all we must do in fulfilling our
responsibilities. TRADITION TWO
>
> 63. We must exist in the world. It's not possible to be entirely
separate, evading all contact with outside agencies TRADITION SIX
>
> 64. We must exercise prudence in employing professional assistance for
our services. TRADITION EIGHT
>
> 65. Okay, so we may create service boards or committees. Now we must
ask ourselves, why would we want to create such things? What are the
needs these boards and committees would fulfill? To answer this
question, let's look at how an NA group evolves, as we did when
considering the Seventh Tradition. TRADITION NINE
>
> 66. But what about speaking in a recovery gathering? Does the Tenth
Tradition tell us that, as individual recovering addicts, we must not
talk in NA meetings about the challenges we face? No, it does not. While
a particular problem may be an outside issue, its effect on our recovery
is not; everything affecting a recovering addict's life is material for
sharing. If a problem we are having impacts our ability to stay clean
and grow spiritually, it's not an outside issue. TRADITION TEN
>
> 67. To do these things effectively, we must stay as free of the
distractions of public controversy as possible. TRADITION TEN
>
> 68. To fulfill Tradition Ten, our groups, service boards, and
committees must exercise prudence in their public contacts. TRADITION
TEN
>
> 69. In all our contacts with society, we must take care not to express
any opinions on issues outside the scope of our program. TRADITION TEN
>
> 70. we must never do this—not with celebrity members, not with any
member. If our fellowship used a celebrity member in a public
announcement about NA and the celebrity later relapsed or otherwise
suffered a loss of prestige, what good would that do our fellowship's
credibility? The same could apply to any individual member put in the
public spotlight on NA's behalf. TRADITION ELEVEN
>
> 71. By the same token, we must remember that, wherever we go, we
always represent NA to some degree. TRADITION ELEVEN
>
> 72. To be of maximum service to the still-suffering addict, we must
energetically seek to carry our message throughout our cities, towns,
and villages. TRADITION ELEVEN
>
> 73. But to attract the still-suffering addict to our program, we must
take vigorous steps to make our program widely known TRADITION ELEVEN