mhull
03-23-2009, 03:43 PM
I found this googling message boards. I hope this will help.
A little about myself, I am a 27 year old proud father of 3 (twins were born on February 7th) located in Ohio. I have been married for 5 years.
I was raised by parents with strong Christian values, whom seldom drank alcohol. However, relatives my maternal side are nearly all alcholics. I was exposed to it since I was born. I didn't drink much alcohol in High School, but college came and it was at that time that I developed a problem with it.
4 years ago, I was drinking 12-18 alcoholic beverages in a setting and doing it 3-4 times per week. When my eldest son was born, I cut back to 2 times per week.
Currently, I am drinking usually one, sometimes 2 times per week. I drink between 8-12 beers per sitting, usually on Friday night.
I am on here, because while I don't drink daily, I still have a problem that is affecting my marriage and my family. I need help and am seeking counseling now. Because of alcholol I lie to my wife, hide things from her and have used money from our savings or set aside to pay bills to buy it. I am two totally different people when I am sober and not thinking about alcohol, and when I have the mindset that I am going to drink or am intoxicated.
It has gotten to the point where my mother, to whom I am very close, refuses to speak with me. My wife is contemplating leaving (hopefully just short term or not at all), and I am completely miserable. I cherish my family, my children, my wife, my parents more than anything. I want to stop because I know how it affects them, but for some reason...no matter how hard I try, I have not been able too.
Do I like to drink? Yes, very much. But I don't want to ruin my life. :162:
Has anyone gone through a similar situation? Is there any tips you can give me? I hope this is the right place for these questions and I hope someone can help.
PS- God bless all of you who are sober and have been for a long time. I envy that. :1:
A little about myself, I am a 27 year old proud father of 3 (twins were born on February 7th) located in Ohio. I have been married for 5 years.
I was raised by parents with strong Christian values, whom seldom drank alcohol. However, relatives my maternal side are nearly all alcholics. I was exposed to it since I was born. I didn't drink much alcohol in High School, but college came and it was at that time that I developed a problem with it.
4 years ago, I was drinking 12-18 alcoholic beverages in a setting and doing it 3-4 times per week. When my eldest son was born, I cut back to 2 times per week.
Currently, I am drinking usually one, sometimes 2 times per week. I drink between 8-12 beers per sitting, usually on Friday night.
I am on here, because while I don't drink daily, I still have a problem that is affecting my marriage and my family. I need help and am seeking counseling now. Because of alcholol I lie to my wife, hide things from her and have used money from our savings or set aside to pay bills to buy it. I am two totally different people when I am sober and not thinking about alcohol, and when I have the mindset that I am going to drink or am intoxicated.
It has gotten to the point where my mother, to whom I am very close, refuses to speak with me. My wife is contemplating leaving (hopefully just short term or not at all), and I am completely miserable. I cherish my family, my children, my wife, my parents more than anything. I want to stop because I know how it affects them, but for some reason...no matter how hard I try, I have not been able too.
Do I like to drink? Yes, very much. But I don't want to ruin my life. :162:
Has anyone gone through a similar situation? Is there any tips you can give me? I hope this is the right place for these questions and I hope someone can help.
PS- God bless all of you who are sober and have been for a long time. I envy that. :1: