dreamer07
04-17-2009, 07:43 PM
I feel blessed to have found this website. I live in the mountains and sometimes its difficult to physically get to a meeting.
Accepting life on life's terms (or on God's terms)
is currently a constant struggle for me.
My husband and I have stopped drinking
and I am active in the program.
Although I'm happly that we both stopped drinking,
I still obsess on my husband's secret life with other women.
He owns his own business and can come and go as he pleases.
He's got a work phone that he can utilize to hide his calls.
I found out about his "secret life" 4 months ago and have confronted him
but he denys it, just like an alcoholc denying his drinking.
I love my husband, I hate his behavior.
If it was a one time thing or even repeated but over
and in the past---I would forgive and forget.
But it's not.
He leaves the house at 7am and doesn't get home till 6:30 pm.
The phone numbers still keep showing up on his bill,
he still keeps saying, "I don't know, I didn't make those calls.
A few months again he went to Atlanta supposedly for a business trip.
His visa from work said he spent over $1000 on meals, drinks, and who knows what.
He claims he went alone.
Unfortunately, I am currently unemployed,
have a mortgage and 3 teenage sons to look after.
I can't afford the luxery of perpetually being angry at him
(because of the consequences it may bring).
I can't afford to leave and he knows it.
Also, if I obsess on the constant betrayal
I start losing my mind and say things I wish I hadn't.
I got myself into this mess but its going to take God to get me out.
I take it one day at a time.
I faithfully attend my meetings,
I try to focus on what I'm still grateful for and I go to church each Sunday.
This prison is only temporary and I'm sure God's got something better for me planned.
Never give up, and never give in
just accept life on life's terms--even when you don't want to. Peace - :neutral:
Accepting life on life's terms (or on God's terms)
is currently a constant struggle for me.
My husband and I have stopped drinking
and I am active in the program.
Although I'm happly that we both stopped drinking,
I still obsess on my husband's secret life with other women.
He owns his own business and can come and go as he pleases.
He's got a work phone that he can utilize to hide his calls.
I found out about his "secret life" 4 months ago and have confronted him
but he denys it, just like an alcoholc denying his drinking.
I love my husband, I hate his behavior.
If it was a one time thing or even repeated but over
and in the past---I would forgive and forget.
But it's not.
He leaves the house at 7am and doesn't get home till 6:30 pm.
The phone numbers still keep showing up on his bill,
he still keeps saying, "I don't know, I didn't make those calls.
A few months again he went to Atlanta supposedly for a business trip.
His visa from work said he spent over $1000 on meals, drinks, and who knows what.
He claims he went alone.
Unfortunately, I am currently unemployed,
have a mortgage and 3 teenage sons to look after.
I can't afford the luxery of perpetually being angry at him
(because of the consequences it may bring).
I can't afford to leave and he knows it.
Also, if I obsess on the constant betrayal
I start losing my mind and say things I wish I hadn't.
I got myself into this mess but its going to take God to get me out.
I take it one day at a time.
I faithfully attend my meetings,
I try to focus on what I'm still grateful for and I go to church each Sunday.
This prison is only temporary and I'm sure God's got something better for me planned.
Never give up, and never give in
just accept life on life's terms--even when you don't want to. Peace - :neutral: