STRESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Victoriana]

So............here I am on day 28 of my sobriety.:29: A member of my family that is staying with me decides to get so drunk he can hardly stand. His younger brother comes to talk to me about a problem he is having with his new apartment and just wants to get some advice. Within minutes the drunken brother squares up to him for absolutely no reason and tries to physically fight him. I'm, meanwhile, trying to calm him, realizing that my own sobriety might be at risk and also that I might be as I move to stand between them.:eek: Now, I am 5'4" and generally quite small and although I am physically fit from running etc. I know I can't take a 6' 2" drunk male on.
The younger brother then leaves the house fed up and angry and I manage to get the other one ( who smells like a brewery) into his room where he is hopefully sleeping it off now.
This has stressed me out incredibly.:44::mad::twisted:
Sorry, just needed to vent rather than walk around the corner to the bottle shop. I'd probably end up hitting him with the bottle and wasting the booze anyway!
Thanks for letting me vent.:282:

[Rockin Big Daddy]

:195::42:“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”-Audrey Hepburn

[zoomie]

Wow that is stressful! Glad the one staying with you is sleeping it off. He has some amends to do tomorrow though. Just remember it's his amends not yours.

[Rockin Big Daddy]

When one door closes, another door opens :10:
and God will never give me more in a 24 period than I can handle for that day.171:

[BIG AL]

I know what you are going through.Just relax and be glad it is not you smelling like the brewery.My whole family drinks and show up drunk my step-son wants to fight me anout one time a month.One thing I do is pray for god to help them or remove them.My step-son was sent to prison for 18 months this friday so did god answer maybe.Know I pray for him to be safe.Its sure is alot more peaceful with out a drunk around the house.

[river]

hello victoria
i am glad you have expressed your feelings instead of going out and hurting yourself, it is a tough situation dealing with family and your sobriety. it taken me a long time to get passed the fact that i had to look out for myself first which meant that i had to leave some people i loved behind,
MY daughter who is now 17, had alot of anger towards me, which she is entitled to, well her anger brought up guilt within me. and i used alot over it, i made a decision one day that i would not call her until i was able to handle the feelings , and felt stronger within myself to know i would not crumble and put my recovery in jeopardy. Today 2 years later we have a wonderful relationship, and i am clean. It was the hardest thing for me to do consiously making a decision to abandon my daughter once again. I was powerless to her feelings and weak to my own. In recovery we learn that we are powerless ot many things not just the drink or drug, and we have to learn to let go that in helping ohters we hurt ourselves,
Keep your focus and goal, although that does not always help, but it works if you let it guide you and pray, give things to God that you cannot handle on your own.

River

[Victoriana]

I really want to thank everyone. I am so glad I could come in here and vent/share rather than hit the bottle. Day 29 and still sober.
THANK YOU!

[MichelleW]

(I like your signature quote.) I tried to avoid 'venting' when I first started early in the year. Now I wish that I hadn't bottled it up so much but I have made friends in this time whom I know I can share things with when it's difficult. That is very valuable to me.

[Chewi]

Thanks for sharing Victoriana and everyone! Keep up the good work. Major stress is hard on "normal" people. On addicts it can be disastrous unless we have someone to go to for support. I hope you're getting that support and encouragement and so happy you are sober! Hugs!

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