Honesty?

[johnclmt]

One of my best friends in recovery is acting very strange lately. He has a million excuses for his behavior that all sound real shaky. I have a feeling that he may no longer be sober. Today I asked him if there was anything that he needed to tell me and he didn't respond much to my question.


I am worried and sad


john m :frown: - san diego

[BIG AL]

All you can do is a be a place for him to come to when he wants to know what works.Stay sober and pray. he my not stay sober and that does hurt,but the most important thing is for you to stay sober.Not just for yourself but for others becouse whe he has had enough if he is drinking you can help.My nephew and I were partners in crime.We drank drugged and pulled all kind of stuff together.But I went to treatment and he stayed home.I ended up gettin out and he joined me in sobbriety for a few months and I lost him for about 4 yrs.He just celebrated his 1yr birthday.We dont give up,we dont enable,but we do stay sober becouse others are watching and when ready you will hopefully be able to say hey this is what I did and this is what I got now if you do this you get this.Hold your head.Pray for him.Prayer works I beleive I was covered by god while using becouse someone stood for me and prayed.If I can help let me know.Sometimes staying sober for the next guy is some of the living amends we make for so many we hurt,and fot the guy who needs help.You have one of the greatest gift a man or women could have the experience of life to give life to a suffering person from a horrible disease that will kill if giving the chance.BE BLESSED

[zoomie]

No advice really, just remember to keep yourself sober. We all have our own paths to take, maybe his is to drink right now because he has not had enough. Who knows, just keep safe.

[Victoriana]

If he has relapsed then all you can do is wait and pray. Show him what sober looks like and be there when he comes back with welcoming arms.
Be well and strong and put your sobriety first.

[Rockin Big Daddy]

LETTING GO TAKES LOVE


To let go does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can't do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off,
it's the realization I can't control another.
To let go is not to enable,
but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means
the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
it's to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.
To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective,
it's to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.


To let go is to fear less and love more

Remember: The time to love is short