Bored

[BIG AL]

I was sitting in a meeting yesterday and we were doing big book study on the family afterwards.I have been discontent with my home life,job and kinda life i general.Well it occured to me that I am bored.Bored with my job,with my social life,with it all.I need to do something different.I am thinkking of going back to school .Anyone here ever just get bored becouse you have gotting into a routine over the yrs.Going to work coming home checking e-mails going to bed gettting up doing same thing all over.What do you all do besides meeting to keep life excit:idea:ing.

[sioux]

Bored can be dangerous territory if I sit in it too long, or it can be a useful tool to prompt me into aciton to change the things I can. The process for me begins with a gratitude list. Whatever I do, wherever I go, whatever changes are within my ability to evoke, it starts with gratitude for the opportunity.

[zoomie]

Al I just got done with school and I was never bored except on my days off LOL. I'm so use to being busy that I do not know what to do with my time now that I do not have my face in a book. If you can swing school, I say go for it!

[flick]

Hiya Al, I've been sat contemplating your question for a little while....in reality I don't have time to be bored either, there is always something to do be it inside or out of the home, along with being a full time mum and partner.

I know I went through a period of 'discontent' a couple of months ago and kept thinking "how bored I felt"......this period for me I can now see with hindsight was an "emotional drunk" period. Which of course may not be where you are at...just thought I'd share my experience.

Yes, Sioux, lack of gratitude for "what is" and I always find that getting out of me and back into serving others really helps. Agreed with Zoomie too, if you have an opportunity to further educate yourself then I too say "go for it".

You're obviously feeling "something" is missing in your life at this point in time. I hope that whatever that something is you are able to find it. :D

[JDSOBER]

Sometimes just going out for a drive helps well when I had a car
I even used to check out meetings else where like an hour or two away
Parks are nice all though I realize sometimes that can make for trouble
a normie wouldnt think so...but it can

Once in a while I treat myself to dinner alone out somewhere nice--- again I realize that can make for trouble LOL
ok the meeting idea was a great one ...go to a movie

Start a hobby one of my friends does model cars --- yeah I suppose even that could make for trouble but so can doing laundry and sniffing too much bleach! LOL

[skyhook]

Hey Al,

I spent the last 2 years, studying for and finishing a bunch of exams I needed for professional licensure. Been in the field for over 25 years, but never finished the license thing. It was hard, over 9 different exams, 3 - 6 hours each, but I got them done. I have a final interview with the State in September and hope to recieve the licesne at that point. Getting it done had been on my heart for over 15 years, so it a nag I just had to answer.

I'm 48, so for me it was a challenge, but also very rewarding to re-apply myself to apart of my life that got left behind, because of my drug use, in earlier days.

I remember when I first started this, I was beotching to my bro-in-law about the studying and some of the new concepts. He says" Have you ever studied this stuff before?" (answer no)...then H e says " Well why would you think you would understand something you are just now starting to study".

So simple yet so helpful to me.

I say go for it Al. Pick something you were always interested in have at it. I was amazed, even at my age, how versatile our brains are, and how the process of applying oursleves and can be so rewarding.

Nice to set goals again that are the fruit of recovery.

I think you got the right idea about the boredom thing. Everyone gets their season of boredom. Usually it is just the brains way of kick starting some new throught processes to get us off the dime.

Good Luck.

[Tom1]

I agree with skyhook, GO FOR IT! Left a lucrative business in my late 30's to pursue childhood dream. It required extensive schooling. In my 20's i was terrified to follow, went to 1 course and saw the top students in the area there and never went for it. 10-15 years later I asked myself if I would have any regrets if I were on my deathbed, that is when I decided to go back. I am now about to turn 42,and am done with all of this next June.It cost me alot of time and money but I have to say I will now have fewer regrets later. Interestingly enough, I turned out to be a much better student as an adult. Now I really appreciate learning and what a blessing it is that I even had a chance to finish my dream, Tom

[johnclmt]

I was once told that there is a fine line between serenity and boredom. Get out there and have some fun AL you deserve it. Plan a camping trip, learn to sail, catch some movies, find a new passion(or obsession). I must learn to entertain myself and I am such a creature of habit that I have to force myself to get out there and just do it. I wasted so many days in a dark room with a vodka bottle and a meth pipe that I vowed never to waste another day. Life is for the living - happy, joyous and free.

john - san diego

[janbear]

Hi Al, Good topic. Like Sioux said, that can be dangerous, at least it has been for me in the past. I rarely get bored anymore. But the occasions that i do, i usually call someone to go out to coffee or, in the summertime which is coming up ,go to the lake and swim. Playing does break up same daily routinues for me. Our NA group is having a campout at the end of June and thinking of things like that gives me something to look forward to while i am doing daily rountines now. Everyone needs some kind of break sometimes. Give yourself one when you can doing something you know you enjoy but havent got to do in a while. My sponsor, last year, insisted i get out of my own comfort zone and do something fun, because i never gave myself permission to do that. I stepped out a little, and now i am grateful and my life stays full. Have a great day, AL :D Jan

[Victoriana]

When I went through a bored patch I got a puppy. Wow! Did that ever break the boredom. I was suddenly a mum to this little creature. She needed so much from me that I couldn't sit around and be bored anymore.
Now she is probably my best friend. She gets me out and about in all weathers, listens when I want a shoulder, plays when I look sad or lonely, joins in when I am happy.
I am also going back to study. This is a great way to get the brain working and get out of a slump.

[Chewi]

Boredom--that is definitely a serenity issue. I am a very busy person, but that doesn't mean I don't get that stuck in a rut feeling. But if I run off here and there doing things on my own without talking AND LISTENING to God first, I get myself into trouble. When I am feeling the need to do something, I really need to spend time in prayer and meditation to make sure what I am stepping out to do is God's will for me. Sometimes it moves me to take a different action, and sometimes it results in counting my blessings and realizing that the things I am already doing DO matter and are important to God and the people in my life.
If you really feel God is moving you to go to school, then that would be a great thing. Hope you work it out and whatever you do, it is all better being sober!

[Rockin Big Daddy]

This is God. Today I will be handling All of your problems for you. I do Not need your help. So, have a nice day.
I love you.

P.S. And, remember...
If life happens to deliver a situation to you that you cannot handle, do Not attempt to resolve it yourself! Kindly put it in the SFGTD (something for God to do) box. I will get to it in MY TIME. All situations will be resolved, but in My time, not yours.

Once the matter is placed into the box, do not hold onto it by worrying about it. Instead, focus on all the wonderful things that are present in your life now.

If you find yourself stuck in traffic, don't despair. There are people in this world for whom driving is an unheard of privilege.

Should you have a bad day at work; think of the man who has been out of work for years.

Should you despair over a relationship gone bad; think of the person who has never known what it's like to love and be loved in return.

Should you grieve the passing of another weekend; think of the woman in dire straits, working twelve hours a day, seven days a week to feed her children.

Should your car break down, leaving you miles away from assistance; think of the paraplegic who would love the opportunity to take that walk.

Should you notice a new gray hair in the mirror; think of the cancer patient in chemo who wishes she had hair to examine.

Should you find yourself at a loss and pondering what is life all about, asking what is my purpose? Be thankful. There are those who didn't live long enough to get the opportunity.

Should you find yourself the victim of other people's bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities; remember, things could be worse. You could be one of them!

Should you decide to send this to a friend; Thank you. You may have touched their life in ways you will never know!

Now, you have a nice day.

God