First Coda Meeting tonight.....nervous please help

[dakotamom]

Can I just sit there and listen......do I have to talk in front of everyone? Do I have to introduce myself? I am kinda of scared......I don't know if I am ready for this. I am depressed and have high anxiety right now. I really want to go but just not knowing how it will go or what they do....is making me nervous.

[Victoriana]

Hi,
well done for taking this step. I'm sure you will be glad you did.
Now, it is natural to be nervous so just go for it. Remember, nobody can or would want to make you do anything you are uncomfortable with as the meetings would soon be empty wouldn't they? You have free will, you can leave at any time if you aren't happy with it. It is your time and your free will.
This might help: http://www.codependents.org/meeting-about.php

Be well and be strong.

[dakotamom]

Thanks for the support :smile:

I went......I am so glad I did. I actually talked alittle. There was a girl I kind of know and we ended up talking afterward for about an hour. She is really nice and supportive and understanding. I really like her. I will be going back next tuesday.

I am still not feeling all that good....but taking it one day at a time.

Sometimes my head just feels like it is a mess and I don't know what to think right now.....it is just so confusing right now.......I think I am very very scared.....but at the same time I know that will change in time.

I really really just basically want to be happy and healthy .....and enjoy life.

I shouldn't feel this miserable.