Feel so bad

[Chiperdean]

Maannn. About ten minutes ago I made a coworker cry. I feel like the stuff you peel off the bottom of your shoe after visiting a movie theater. She is a great woman on travel from another state and will be here for three weeks. Her and I get along great and she and I always tease about missing her animals and she is always strong and makes jokes as to they wouldn't miss her and they are just animals.

So her cat got out, declawed and neurted (sp) and her husband called and told her. We were having a conversation about it and I, used to the country, was like, yeah dead cat. She lost it and started crying. I didn't mean it bad, I didn't know the animal meant so much to her. I feel so bad, I am not looking for sympathy. Just another day. I tried to talk to her, but maybe she needs time. I don't know.

Wow man, just the littlest thing.

Shane

[Chewi]

We all make mistakes. All you can do is apologize (once she will speak to you again) and tell her you didn't mean it and you really hope her husband finds the cat. You could buy her a card or a flower or a candy bar or some small gift and say you're really sorry.

[zoomie]

You did not mean to make her cry,so don't feel so bad. Chewi is right,send her a small gift to show that you care.

[MichMorgan]

I have to agree with them. Don't feel so sad about what since you didn't mean to say those words. I guess we all experienced the same thing. Say sorry and make her smile again.

[Chiperdean]

Thanks for the kind words. I know I am new and not trying to be a drama person, just figure that I can put my feelings down here. Please let me know if I am being too feely or needy. I think I am going to call the local AA number this morning as I really feel bad about this, she is not talking to me and last night / this morning is the first time in a long time that I wanted to drink to just forget this happened. I know I won't, but **** it hits hard when it hit.

Shane

[yukonm]

Please stop beating yourself up over this. What you did was not done intentionally and you will have the opportunity to apologize and explain this to her when the time is right. If you truly want her to forgive you then you must be able to forgive yourself. Focus on doing something positive and give this to God.

[zoomie]

Sounds like the woman is the one being the drama queen. You did not mean anything by the comment.

[Chiperdean]

I wanted to post to close this matter. I spoke to my friend, one whom I went through detox/rehab with and she said all of the same things you all are saying, THANK YOU by the way. I went out and bought a stuffed animal and left it on the ladies desk with a card. This is all I can do and I had to move past this, as you said. Hopefully she will talk to me, but I have done all I could do.

Thanks again for your support.

Shane