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[mousey]

Hello All.
I'm Mousey. I've just recently realized (with the help of some friends) that i have problems with co-dependence. I didn't grow up with anyone that had an addiction. But my mother was always sick, and my dad worked alot. And still now they aren't a very good model of a healthy relationship. I've been in a relationship for about 3 years, most of it being a long distance relationship. I've realized that it is an unhealthy relationship, and that both of us are very codependent. We are currently taking a break from each other and that is when we have both realized this problem in ourselves. I'm glad that i've found this out. And i hope i can work on this, thats why I tried to find a forum for help with this. A friend of mine is also sending me a book. And I dont know if anyone else knows about this but I'm also and HSP (highly sensitive person). This dosen't help. We take things very hard and personally even when others didn't mean it that way. We also analyze things deeply.

I guess thats all for now. Thank you for listening.

~Mousey

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[MichMorgan]

Hi mousey, I'm a new member here and I'm here to help members like you. I guess all the staff here are very much friendly and willing to listen to anyone's problem. nice meeting you and hope to hear more from you.

[Chewi]

Welcome! Thanks for sharing! Stay, look around and do some reading and you will find support!

[hummingbird]

Hi Mousey,

I know a bit about HSP, and have a fair number of the traits myself. I didn't realize how true the "condition" is until I was asked to take part in a human anatomy/biology experiment at college:

Using the nearest fellow students as "guinea pigs" we were asked to measure the sensitivity of each others' skin (!) by taking an instrument shaped like tweezers or a drafting compass.

This lab tool could be fixed at measurable intervals, so we were asked to begin lightly touching each other on the back of the arm--where we couldn't see--with the two arms of the tool first spread at a small interval, gradually increasing. We were to record the point at which the subject was able to distinguish the fact that she was being touched in *two* separate places simultaneously (although the points of contact were close together.)

The women in my group were possibly up to 10 yrs. older than I, in addition to being different in other "visible" ways. (I mention this because, often, people only believe objectively measurable or visible evidence...And sometimes their denial of human diversity persists even in the face of abundant and objective evidence to the contrary...) Their threshold for perceiving two distinct points of contact on that area of skin was was considerably higher than mine, by perhaps as much as 75-100% or more (in other words, while I could detect--say, two contact points at an interval of perhaps 2 cm, for example, they might only have been able to sense the distinction at the 3-4 cm or higher marks.

I remember that the measurable difference was dramatic--they put it down to spending lots of time outdoors, LOL. But this proved to me that HSP/human differences are not figment of anyone's "imagination" and so on. Therefore our range of experience may be measurably greater--greater joys and pain, perhaps: All the more reason to learn and practice various forms of healthy self-defense in the form of boundaries, etc. :cool: :15:

Just wanted to mention that unfortunately we probably need to be careful who we entrust with this information about ourselves--and/or concurrently develop the skill to impose consequences when our boundaries are disregarded. Beware of throwing one's "pearls before swine," etc.! :wink:

Anyway, welcome!