Drinking again and kids on drugs and drinking

[donnell]

It's been a while sinced i visited the site, but felt complied to revisit. I have been drinking and know I am scared that I won't be able to stop this time. I got out of one relationship and got in to a new relationship that is worst than the last one. I also found out that my 18 year old son is popping pills and drinking heavy. I found him passed out in the parking lot at 4 am drunk and full of pills. I don't how to help him, because I am still trying to figure out how to help myself. My daughter also put zanax in juice and stay high. They both now fight each other and don't get along at all. The new relationship is out of control because he also smoke weed, pills and drink. I feel very lost right now and don't what to do. All I know I am drinking out of stress. He is very controlling and verbal abusive. My kids moved out and I worry about them all the time. My friend moved out because he says I put everything before him and don't have time because of my kids problems. I love my kids and want us all to get help. Lost and confused!!!

[sioux]

Get professional help. Immediately. Start with yourself. Go to doctor, hospital, AA, detox, rehab....whatever, and do what's asked of you and don't think twice about it.

[zoomie]

I worry about my older kids too. Thats what mom's do. I got myself sober over 5 years ago and met a wonderful man in recovery. Don't lose hope. Help is out there if you want it. Try calling an AA hot line or NA and start talking. Tell them the truth on how much you are drinking. I found that my kids respect me more that I'm helping myself. Maybe one day when they are ready to quit, I can be there for them and you can too.

[Chewi]

So glad you came back and shared with us. Please get help and do what you need to do to get sober. You can't help anyone else until you are sober and thinking straight again. Let us know how you are doing.

[BIG AL]

God I know exacty what you are going through.I say you can unravell all this if you lead they way and get help yourself.Alcohol creates such a **** storm in our lives.The worse it gets the more we drink and it is a horrible cycle.Save yourself and thern you can help your kids.If you dont start to do something NOW AND I MEAN NOW you will lose them kids and maybe your life to the drink and drugs.You will remember this the rest of your life as the chances you had to get it all together and you blew I know from experience.Even being sober for few yrs I still regret all the chances I had to sober up.They were wasted yrs.And I have 22 yr old son who is in prison(whom I smoked dope and drank with)what a dad.I pray for him everyday and ask god forgiveness(even though I know he has) becouse I helped create this being the model that I was.Please we have already done the research for you.You dont have to do anymore.It is not going to work.I can tell you what to do.When you get up in the morning hit your knees and pray immediatley after that call your local aa clubhouse and tell them you are in bad shape and want help.If they dont help call another.keep calling till you get someone to help.I can tell you how many drug dealers I called in one day trying to find something.So I can and you do the same for recovery.I will be praying for you.And when I get up in the morning I will spend a little extra time on my knees praying for you.

[Doraine]

You've gotten some good advice. I hope you take it. The 1st step is for you to get sober. I didn't go to a detox even though I needed it. I went to outpatient treatment. I've been sober since 1987. You can do it too.

[Rockin Big Daddy]

Listen to Big Al as he is spot on. Anything that you place before yourself in your recovery be prepared to lose and you can't help others until "your house is in order". Clean house, trust God and help others is the order of your thinking.

It takes emotional courage to write what you have in your plea for help and it sound as if you are willing. Read page 449 in the 4th addition and get to a meeting. Better yet, admit yourself to a detox center in a professional environment, and, whatever you decide to do, remember, you are not alone. We understand!!!

Prayers are with you and may God hold your hand and bless you with a daily reprieve.

[donnell]

Thank you-it's hard, but I am trying

[MichMorgan]

I know its hard but glad that you are trying. Be a good example to your kids donnell and as what Big Al says save yourself and then you can help your kids. All the best Donnell...

[CD BUCKBERRY]

donnell,get help for yourself,you are most important to be sober and clean to have the strength to help your kids later.

[Chewi]

As the Big Book says, "There is no easier softer way." It is hard, but once you get to feeling better and get out of the viscious cycle of obsessing and craving and drinking and being sick and starting over again, you will realize that it really is much easier being and staying sober. You will be free of that bondage to the drink. You will get there!!! A lot of experience before you shows it is true. Get to those meetings, rehab if you need it. Hang in there, one day at a time. Let us know how you are doing. We care!

[Rockin Big Daddy]

http://groups.google.com/group/12-step-recovery/attach/82a4e5c8dc7af596/THE+PHASES+AND+SYMPTOMS+OF+RELAPSE.doc?hl=en&part=4

[Stagger Lee]

Donelle, Just drink at home man. Buy the booze on the way home from work and stay there and drink. No need to add a DWI or worse a crash to your problems. I did that successively (if you can call it that) for 10 plus years until I started going to AA meetings over a year ago. If I can do it you can too. You can get rehab or detox without missing work. Hang in there!