Help! joining 4 1st time - need support!

[acitta]

I don't know where to start. I am married to an ex-addict, for 2 and a half years. We have 8 children together! 4 mine & 4 his. Sometimes I feel like I am going crazy or about to loose my mind because I mention certain things/situations to him and he does not listen to me. When what I have spoke of comes to light I feel like I can not get mad at no one but myself because I mentioned it. He is a good man but to me it seems as if he still has some addictive thinking/behavior. I may not be explaining this right but anyway I need to know of some locations and times of groups/meetings of family members who live with ex-addicts (by the way he is 4 years clean) in the Raleigh NC area or any where not too far from there say maybe 15-20 miles from there. PLEASE HELP!

[yukonm]

Hi acitta,
:67: I am so glad that you found us. Here are a couple of meetings in the area you metioned. You might also try calling the numbers or going to the website for more information.

Al-Anon - www.al-anon.alateen.org
3125 Poplarwood Ct, Raleigh - (919) 713-1516

Al-Anon & Al-Ateen - www.al-anon.alateen.org
3509 Haworth Dr # 107, Raleigh - (919) 787-1653

Nar-Anon Meeting Schedule Charlotte area. Rest of North Carolina All of South Carolina Regional organization's e-mail. Charlotte region Nar-Anon Meetings (including Charlotte, Belmont, & Matthews ... Raleigh Monday 7:00 PM ATC Treatment Center 3000 Falstaff Road ...
www.supportworks.org/info/nar-anon.htm

Keep coming here and posting.

[BIG AL]

He does stil have some addictive behavior.But let me tell you he also has 4 yrs sober thats says alot about him.It takes someone with a dedication and commitmit to do that.he shows that he is a man who is willing to change.A man who willl admit when he is wrong.A man who honertly trying to do the right thing.Good traits in any person.I feel for you my wife is a ex-addict and we have been through some battles and are still alive.Great you are seeking help freedom for you.

[Stagger Lee]

He does stil have some addictive behavior.But let me tell you he also has 4 yrs sober that's says alot about him.
Right on. People don't realize how insane it is staying sober, working, paying bills, dealing with kids.. A demanding complaining partner doesnt help matters. Alon-on is the best answer for partners of AA's and NA's.

[Honey Barbara]

Hi
Perhaps you are looking for a different sort of meeting. From what you have said some good old fashioned relationship counselling could be just the trick. It sounds like you really have your hands full. 8 children and a partner, goodness, that would bring up issues for anybody.
Is it possible that his behaviour - taciturn, despondant is little to do with addiction behaviour and more to do with general Mars Vs Venus problems that arise in any relationship, let alone one with so many dependants.
One thing is for sure, 4 years sober is an amazing accomplishment, but your needs are vaild too. Find someone to babysit and talk - Give each other turns with no interuptions and just let your heart open - Mention the meetings, that may be the outcome - but do talk with compassion and love - Never anger or bitterness.
Good luck - You are NOT a nagging partner - that was unfair - nobody knows your situation and nobody knows what you are dealing with.
Take a deep breath - find love in your heart - get help - and talk
Good luck
Honey Barbaraxxxxxxxxx

[Stagger Lee]

I shouldn't have said demanding complaining partner cause I don't know your situation. Sorry.

[bluidkiti]

Also check http://www.alanonalateen6nc.org/

On the left on that site listed above is a link for Meetings.

[IndianG]

Save your self first and then you can help others...........AA / NA meetings, sponsor, phone numbers.
You need the support of the fellowships......someone who knows what your going through. Believe me your not alone and the fellowship can love and help you

[MrSoul1970]

I shouldn't have said demanding complaining partner cause I don't know your situation. Sorry.

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