serenity3
09-28-2009, 07:30 PM
Looking outside of ourselves for self-definition and self-worth means that we have to judge people in order to feel good about ourselves. There is no other way to do it when you look outside.
We were taught to have ego-strength through judgment - better than, prettier than, smarter than, richer than, stronger than, etc., etc.
In a Codependent society everyone has to have someone to look down on in order to feel positive about him/herself. This is the root of all bigotry, racism, sexism, and prejudice in the world.
True self-worth does not come from looking down on anyone or anything. True self-worth comes from awakening to our connection to everyone and everything.
I have started saying a little prayer for that person when i catch myself doing it, (judging) not every time though. i does breed division within the community. i still feel seperate from the majority of the human race because our age,sex,sexual identity,race,religion etc....im working on it though x it does make for a sad life if all you do is walk around judging people negatively.
We were taught to have ego-strength through judgment - better than, prettier than, smarter than, richer than, stronger than, etc., etc.
In a Codependent society everyone has to have someone to look down on in order to feel positive about him/herself. This is the root of all bigotry, racism, sexism, and prejudice in the world.
True self-worth does not come from looking down on anyone or anything. True self-worth comes from awakening to our connection to everyone and everything.
I have started saying a little prayer for that person when i catch myself doing it, (judging) not every time though. i does breed division within the community. i still feel seperate from the majority of the human race because our age,sex,sexual identity,race,religion etc....im working on it though x it does make for a sad life if all you do is walk around judging people negatively.