is is normal????

[hetiheti]

hi, today is my sixth day of not drinking - i am doing ok - more than ok - but !!!!!!! is it normal to feel sad - sad that i can never sit down with a nice meal (i am a dedicated foodie) and a good wine to match the food ??? is this normal - am i just rationalising a need to drink ??? or is it ok to feel like i have lost a good friend - ok, my good friend turned toxic because i could not find a stop button - but i still feel like that. tomorrow will be a week and on thursday i go to my first a.a. meeting - that will be interesting - i think?? if anyone can tell me they felt like this too, i would be interested to hear from you - i suppose this feeling will fade eventually.
but i am enjoying feeling great - and i will hold onto that feeling.
it has been so great to read everyone's comments - i particular appreciated "a look at relapse" - two comments read true to me - cockiness and complacency - they will be my downfall if i am not very careful.
thank you all so much for sharing - aroha, hetiheti:17:

[zoomie]

Hi and good morning! Yes it is very normal to feel the way you do! And your doing the right thing by talking about it. I still miss when I use to be able to enjoy my drink of choice,but I was no longer able to chose at the end. I have to keep reminding myself that when I feel sad,but your right it is like losing a friend when it was a friend at one time. I'm sure others have felt the same way with their drink or drug of choice. O yes most important, Congrats on your almost week!!!

[Paully]

Good Mroning
I have these feelings even after almost 5 years of being sober.
They only last a few seconds and they seem farther and farther apart.
But i need to work this program of AA.
Which to me means going to F2F meetings,working the steps , meeting with my sponsor and keeping in touch daily with the people of AA.
Then this hardly ever comes up. And when it does i know what i need to do.
When i had these thoughts early on i learned that 1 day at a time i can stay sober.
For some, it can be broken down one hour or even minutes of being sober.
BUt i needed to realize that i don't need to worry about tomorrow or , what will happen at Thanksgiving or Christmas or the next birhtday party. Only about today and staying sober today. Sorry for rambling.
So yes i come up with these ideas in my head that maybe i can have just one drink this time, but now i realize that this will never happen. It is always the same. I would never stop.

Congratulations on 6 days.
Get to that meeting Thursday or sooner.
Maybe find a sponsor too. Thats what kept me sober early on, my sponsor.

Thanks for letting me share.

Have a great day

[patrickst78]

Thanks for sharing I needed to hear that

[janbear]

Congrats on 6 days :85: Like others said it is normal, but i do find for me it doesnt happen so much anymore, like Paully. You sharing that about that reminded me of when i was hitting my bottom and my boss had to bring me home from work because i was to drunk to drive, we fought over a bottle of lliqour and i ended up getting it and ran into my apartment and i still remember his words to me that day, "you are making a poor choice of friends".That was over 20 years ago and i still can hearing him saying that. It was my only friend but it turned on me. I am glad you are going to an AA meeting. There you will find new friends and we are here too. Keep coming back.