The ACOA laundry list

[janbear]

The ACOA laundry list
Take this test. You may be an ACOA if you have any of these traits.


1. Guess at what normal is.

2. Have difficulty in following a project through from beginning to end.

3. Lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.

4. Judge themselves without mercy.

5. Have difficulty having fun.

6. Take themselves very seriously.

7. Have difficulty with intimate relationships.

8. Overreact to changes over which they have no control.

9. Constantly seek approval and affirmation.

10. Feel that they are different from other people.

11. Are either super responsible or super irresponsible.

12. Are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that loyalty is undeserved

[keithmh]

I don't know if that is an official list or not, but there a couple missing

13. are able to read/misinterpret the slightest change in anothers words or actions.

14. are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop

15. believe that since they can't be loved, pity is a great substitute

16. wonder what a good night's sleep is

17. are willing to be abused for the sake of harmony

Pax

Keith

[flickchic]

"caretaking" appears to be a common denominator amongst ACOAs' also.

[Peggyannvt]

There is an offical problem and solution in ACOA

Our group which did last 10 years before it died, added, that we do not know what normal is. I could post them if there is a wish.

LOVE
Peggyann

[keithmh]

please post them. that would be great. thank you for your kind offer.

[dalin]

well good things for dalin to look at