New and Need Advise

[Florida Girl]

My significant other has had a drinking problem for some time. He admitted it a couple of weeks ago and vowed he was going to stop drinking however I found out through the grape vine that last night he got a DUI. He hasn't said anything to me about it yet and I'm really not sure how to react. I told him months ago that if he ever got a DUI not to call me, if he couldn't call to keep from getting into trouble don't call me to get out of it.

Has anyone ever been in this situation?

Thanks!

Florida Girl

[snugsnug]

Hey florida girl,
I do not have any experience or strength in your situation, however what I do know is this, we have to make a decision on our own to stop drinking, and we have to ask for help. Nothing anyone said or did made me quit using dope, I had to make that decision on my own.

There is plenty of hope here, keep coming and browse around in the different forums, there is help here.

[free2bunme]

Hey Florida Girl-
Snug is right, there is nothing that you can do to stop him from drinking -- he is going to have to seek help of his own volition in order for it to work. Maybe this will be a wake up call.
In the meantime, your local Al-anon chapter will have a lot of good information for you to help you determine what to do in order to take care yourself, to learn about your significant other's disesase, and to give you support from other's who are in similar situations.
Also, you may want to check out some of the information about alcoholism on this website. Come back and keep sharing!
Take care,
Frannie

[Doraine]

I was married to a drug and alcohol abuser for 13 years. I went to Alanon for support and decided to get a divorce. Alanon can help you learn about the problem and how you need to take care of yourself. Good luck.