janbear
10-20-2006, 10:24 AM
Limitations
“You cannot help men permanently by doing for them
what they could and should do for themselves.”
Abraham Lincoln
I love the idea of helping people. Seeing the other person shine after my input gives me a great feeling. The flipside of this peak experience is the sadness and bleakness I feel when the person I am helping does not succeed. Yes, when it is all about me, I have to accept responsibility for everything ~ the good and the bad.
Thank You, God, that it is not really me who is the source of all help -- it is You. I can point the way and make suggestions, but I cannot make someone change for the better. What causes people to change is something for which no person can take credit. It is simply Divine!
The real question is whether or not the person I want to help will turn to his or her Higher Power and use the help that is offered. I cannot actually take these steps for others. I can pretend to do that, and perhaps offer some temporary relief, but lasting recovery will come only to those who make a quality decision to take the necessary steps on their own.
One day at a time...
I will realize the limitations of my help. I will not try to do for others what only they can and should do for themselves.
~ Q
“You cannot help men permanently by doing for them
what they could and should do for themselves.”
Abraham Lincoln
I love the idea of helping people. Seeing the other person shine after my input gives me a great feeling. The flipside of this peak experience is the sadness and bleakness I feel when the person I am helping does not succeed. Yes, when it is all about me, I have to accept responsibility for everything ~ the good and the bad.
Thank You, God, that it is not really me who is the source of all help -- it is You. I can point the way and make suggestions, but I cannot make someone change for the better. What causes people to change is something for which no person can take credit. It is simply Divine!
The real question is whether or not the person I want to help will turn to his or her Higher Power and use the help that is offered. I cannot actually take these steps for others. I can pretend to do that, and perhaps offer some temporary relief, but lasting recovery will come only to those who make a quality decision to take the necessary steps on their own.
One day at a time...
I will realize the limitations of my help. I will not try to do for others what only they can and should do for themselves.
~ Q