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Clean42day
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Posted: Fri Apr 28, 2006 12:38 am Post subject: Anger at Family Members........
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Anger at Family Members 28 Apr
Many of us have anger toward certain members of our family. Some of us
have much anger and rage, anger that seems to go on year after year.
For many of us, anger was the only way to break an unhealthy bondage or
connection between a family member and ourselves. It was the force that
kept us from being held captive, mentally, emotionally, and sometimes
spiritually, by certain family members.
It is important to allow ourselves to feel, to accept, our anger toward
family members without casting guilt or shame on ourselves. It is also
important to examine our guilty feelings concerning family members as
anger and guilt are often intertwined.
We can accept, even thank, our anger for protecting us. But we can also
set another goal: taking our freedom.
Once we do, we will not need our anger. Once we do, we can achieve
forgiveness.
Think loving thoughts, think healing thoughts toward family members. But
let ourselves be as angry as we need to be.
At some point, strive to be done with the anger. But we need to be
gentle with ourselves if the feelings surface from time to time.
Thank God for the feelings. Feel them. Release them. Ask God to bless
and care for our families. Ask God to help us take freedom and take care
of ourselves.
Let the golden light of healing shine upon all we love and upon all with
whom we feel anger. Let the golden light of healing shine on us.
Trust that a healing is taking place, now.
..............M.B.
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fibiray
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Posted: Fri Apr 28, 2006 6:30 pm Post subject:
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"thinking loving thoughts, think healing thoughts towards our family"
Yep I have had to put this into application for the sake of my sanity. I have a brother who was quite violent and vicious, a mother who wanted me dead, and a sister who used and abused. It was at one point in time very hard to forgive or see anything positive in the situation. I then came to understand that they are survivors just like me and they know no better. They too are hurting but have never learnt how to deal with that hurt. I found that the best thing I can do is to leave them well out of my life and think positive thoughts for them. I use to philosophically think "that karma will get them back," but use to get a perverse pleasure at the potential for harm against them. I found that this only makes my situation worse. Now I wish them well and mean it for this is the only way for me to be free from them. thats me.
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Clean42day
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Posted: Fri Apr 28, 2006 12:38 am Post subject: Anger at Family Members........
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Anger at Family Members 28 Apr
Many of us have anger toward certain members of our family. Some of us
have much anger and rage, anger that seems to go on year after year.
For many of us, anger was the only way to break an unhealthy bondage or
connection between a family member and ourselves. It was the force that
kept us from being held captive, mentally, emotionally, and sometimes
spiritually, by certain family members.
It is important to allow ourselves to feel, to accept, our anger toward
family members without casting guilt or shame on ourselves. It is also
important to examine our guilty feelings concerning family members as
anger and guilt are often intertwined.
We can accept, even thank, our anger for protecting us. But we can also
set another goal: taking our freedom.
Once we do, we will not need our anger. Once we do, we can achieve
forgiveness.
Think loving thoughts, think healing thoughts toward family members. But
let ourselves be as angry as we need to be.
At some point, strive to be done with the anger. But we need to be
gentle with ourselves if the feelings surface from time to time.
Thank God for the feelings. Feel them. Release them. Ask God to bless
and care for our families. Ask God to help us take freedom and take care
of ourselves.
Let the golden light of healing shine upon all we love and upon all with
whom we feel anger. Let the golden light of healing shine on us.
Trust that a healing is taking place, now.
..............M.B.
_________________
"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, we can all start from now and make a brand new ending"
~Carl Bard
fibiray
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Age: 41
Joined: 09 Dec 2005
Posts: 370
Location: Central Coast, NSW
Posted: Fri Apr 28, 2006 6:30 pm Post subject:
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"thinking loving thoughts, think healing thoughts towards our family"
Yep I have had to put this into application for the sake of my sanity. I have a brother who was quite violent and vicious, a mother who wanted me dead, and a sister who used and abused. It was at one point in time very hard to forgive or see anything positive in the situation. I then came to understand that they are survivors just like me and they know no better. They too are hurting but have never learnt how to deal with that hurt. I found that the best thing I can do is to leave them well out of my life and think positive thoughts for them. I use to philosophically think "that karma will get them back," but use to get a perverse pleasure at the potential for harm against them. I found that this only makes my situation worse. Now I wish them well and mean it for this is the only way for me to be free from them. thats me.
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