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02-01-2007, 05:48 AM
How Do You Communicate?

By Gail Rodgers

Have you listened lately to the words you use when you speak to those nearest and dearest to you?

Sometimes in the hurried flurry of our day we simply overlook the way we are communicating. We excuse our hasty words and harsh tones because we are tired or stressed.

God’s Word reminds us that our words are very important. We need to take responsibility for what comes out of our mouths. Listen to these wise words…

“Reckless words pierce like a sword but the tongue of the wise brings healing” (Proverbs 12:18).

Our sharp words have the ability to cut the people around us. A wise woman will consider what her words are doing and will seek to communicate in a way that brings healing rather than hurt.

We know that our communication is made up of words, tone and body language.

Our words only make up about 7% of our communication.
Our tones make up 38%.
Our body language makes up the remaining 55%.

Take note today of what your communication sounds and looks like. It may surprise you. Ask the Holy Spirit to remind you to be wise in your speech and gentle in your tones and body language.

The world out there is filled with sharp words of sarcasm, criticism, negativity and worry. Go against the flow and ask God to help you bring a calm and gentle spirit to your home and workplace today through the way you communicate.

Hearts all around us are hurting. You have a unique opportunity to be a woman of wisdom in the way you communicate. With God’s help bring encouragement and healing through your words, tones and body language today.

Prayer: Heavenly Father, Forgive me for the many times words spring from my mouth that are unnecessary comments of gossip, hurt or criticism. Today I ask that Your Holy Spirit will be my guide in my communication. Nudge me when I am ready to speak piercing words. Fill me with Your gentleness and compassion and remind me that my tones and body language are communicating too. Help me to take responsibility for what comes out of my mouth. In Jesus’ name I pray, amen.

flickchic
02-02-2007, 08:51 AM
Prayer: Heavenly Father, Forgive me for the many times words spring from my mouth that are unnecessary comments of gossip, hurt or criticism. Today I ask that Your Holy Spirit will be my guide in my communication. Nudge me when I am ready to speak piercing words. Fill me with Your gentleness and compassion and remind me that my tones and body language are communicating too. Help me to take responsibility for what comes out of my mouth. In Jesus’ name I pray, amen.<!-- / message --><!-- sig -->:195: :195:

I had some difficulty holding my tone yesterday with the HR person at work, I had prayed and prayed before the meeting, mediatated for an inner calm and asked for strength to hold my tounge; I did not totally succeed; again there was outright denial of my truth and the attiudes I have recieved from this woman before and I made an effort to pack up and walk out because I knew I was becoming defencive and had a not so nice tone coming from between my lips. My rehab guy came to the rescue and asked me to stay and suggested that we did discuss my issues and accept the fact that this woman and I clash badly. He put it all out on the table and she even attempted to 'attack' him however he managed to pull her in to a better space. I was not very happy with myself for displaying my annoyance/grievances with her, however I too spoke out my truths of how I feel I have been dealt with thoughtlessly at times over the past year. I recieved an apology with denial, i.e I'm sorry you feel that way but....anyway I apologised for my tone and attitude, however not for feeling that i ws being denied my truth.

I am still not overly impressed with myself for allowing my emotions to spill into the discussion, but I guess I'm human and work in progress and not perfection.