Crying

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Erika981:

There must be something strangely sacred in salt.
It is in our tears & in the sea.
– KAHLIL GIBRAN

Emotion plays around a person’s face, making it strained or relaxed. We say we can “read� someone else’s face. Few of us burst into spontaneous tears or laughter, but instead first show slight emotion on our faces or in the way we speak.

Laughter is instrumental to our well-being, but tears are also essential to our emotional survival. When we finally release the emotions we feel & the dams break loose, the tears are healing. They allow us to cleanse ourselves of pent-up angers, fears & frustrations.

I know crying is a human characteristic.
I will not be ashamed of my need to cry,
for tears are part of my human experience.
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Janbear:

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know crying is a human characteristic.
I will not be ashamed of my need to cry,
for tears are part of my human experience.


So true, thanks for sharing that.
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James55:

When my friend was murdered in 1996 I must have cried for a month straight but in the end it was a cleansing process for feelings and emotions that I had no idea how to handle. Thank God for the ability to cry. I just realized somthing this month also. March 8 was the anniversiry of the murder and for the first time since it happened the day came and went peacefully without my mind flipping out for awhile. Crying is also a healing process.
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bluidkiti:

I agree, crying is healing.

I also cry tears of joy. I've cried when I was happy. I have cried many tears of gratitude. nod
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prescott:

Good Morning Group, I saw this topic yesterday and avoided sharing
on it b/c I didn't want to go there inside myself. This AM I'm in a better place and feel I can share with out too much pain. I've been crying alot lately and it's so new to me that I get scared. I believe that the fear keeps me from feeling the benifits of crying. It just makes me feel like sh*t. Don't get me wrong I have no male hang ups on crying I am new to it and have yet to feel the relief everyone talks about. Just more pain. I've learned to tell it like it is and thats what I experience. The way I see it today is that I have to learn to go all the way through the experience which I believe the fear blocks the healing. I looking,reading and learning and feeling. This whole process which I see as natural for some is just something I've surppressed all my life.
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soberaddy:
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This whole process which I see as natural for some is just something I've surppressed all my life.


I know exactly where you coming from John. Just last night a tons of emotion came bursting out just before a meeting, and I could not stand the fact that others would see me cry, so I left and stuffed these feelings right back in. I thought to myself...Oh my goodness my fellow members will actually see that I have feelings and that I get very sad sometimes. So thanks for reminding me that I do have a lot of work to do on showing my true feelings and that I am not a rock (this is how I wanted others to see me before my sobriety). One day at a time I am willing to work on this.

Thank you for sharing everyone...this is exactly what I needed to read this morning! Very Happy ok

Love
Anne hug angel hug
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clarky:

you people all hit the nail . for the fisrt 36 yrs if there was seen a tear the emotional and physycal payment was alot worse for me than keeping it hidden ,so i thought, now for the last couple months the emotions are explosive. evry thing feels tottaly dif i go through both the sh*tty times and healling times .thanx for being here Smile
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alex e.:

Hello Everybody,

This a great topic, I remember when I went to my sisters funeral while I was still in prison, It the first time I let myself feel my emotions, I guess I just realy felt them and couldn't help myself. I cried like a baby that day, really surprised myself. But after that day I shut myself off again and did my best not to feel.
Today I am learning that is ok for me to feel my emotions and I am learning I am able to feel. At times I am on a emotional rollercoaster and I don't like it when I am feeling negative emotions, It is ok I can feel them and work through them. I still have a tendecy to try and not feel. But I feel I am growing and learning more about myself and my emotions, Which is a blessing to me today.

Alex

[shydawg]

this is an old post but could relate as I'm in early stages of my recovery & **** it feels like sometimes I'm always on the verge of tears , has others felt this way in their early stages also ??? I feel all these emotions now ...& sometimes they can be pretty overwheming..ranges about the stuff I did . to stuff I can relate to when watching Intervention & seeing the pain of other addicts & families suffer thru their addictions.sometimes I feel like I'm on an emotional rollercoaster like another addict shared b4 me . .. it does help to share .. I used to run from feeling mt emotions with using chemicals I do'nt do that today . I like feeling my emotions it lets me know I'm alive it's just ****... can be ..I think I feel like i need just 1 really good cry to about evry thing in past for some reason ...

[mags]

Shy - Yea, I've cried rivers lately, since beginning this journey. Plenty of AA meetings I've been on the verge of tears until this past Tuesday, could not stop the flow or read anymore. In here, learning how to share has brought tears. I've run all my life, always searching for a home. Booze and pot blanked things out for a while, but pain always came back. So, now I guess the tears are like washing the soul.....letting the stuff inside pour out in the form of tears? Last night I cried for the people that caused hurt....some couldn't help themselves. Maybe it's a way of letting stuff go....I can't really define this, but the serenity after a good cry is just so odd to feel.

[thereishope]

Hello shydawg,
Yes i have felt that way espically in the beginning, when i first got clean and i was crying all the time for so very many reasons. It had been years since i even knew what a real emotion was but as i got clean and worked through the things i needed too, i wept and cried out everything that had been so bottled up in me and it was a must to let it out, it was time....those were the tears of clensing and hope. Now today i still weep from time to time, i also cry for joy and happiness and i have learned and felt that its ok. I just watched a post dalin left ( one more shot, i think the name is) i cried of course, a guy got his first chip and it touched my heart in such a loving way. We do at times need a really good cry my friend and there is no shame in that, it is hope, healing, loving and learning.

[admin]

I notice that usually whenever I am going through what I would call a growing period in my life that there are tears. I cry for all different reasons. Growing pains my sponsor told me today.

[peajaye]

Yes indeed, I cried a lot when I was getting sober and then when I had 7 years and quit smoking, it started all over. Another time I cry is from sheer exhaustion. I spent years with a hard cold heart that wouldn't/couldn't/didn't cry for many years so when I began to try to recover from my hopeless state of body and mind, I got in touch with the heart of who I was which was that little innocent 4 year old that I remember was full of hope and anticipation for life to unfold. I fell in love with her and boy, did we cry. Cried for the loss of all that I hoped life would have been. Cried tears of gratitude that God was leading my on this journey of self discovery and it wasn't a bad trip. I keep a picture of me at that age on my dresser. That is still who I am. I've grown up and do grown up things, but I once again have her heart. Full of hope and anticipation for what life might hold for me next.

[admin]

There is a saying I have heard which is: The good news is that you get your emotions back. The bad news is you get your emotions back. But hang in there. This too shall pass. It does get better.

[shydawg]

Thanks everyone for sharing(I'm on a webtv& not on a pc so cant use all the neat icons & thank yous but most important thing i am here & can read & share tho not use all the gadgets lol) don't get me wrong i'm not complaining about the emoitions .like I said it lets me know I'm alive .. I'm actually feeling them is a good thing & not running from them & trying to numb them like in the past ..I just needed to know that what i'm going thru was "normal" lol as if anything we addicts & alcohlics do are normal lol ...thanks friends

[kaistevens]

I once read:
Tears of sadness, tears that come from sad feelings or emotions, have a different chemical composition than tears of laughter, or if you poke yourself in the eye or something.

That's why, if you have broke down and cried, and let out your sorrow, or sadness, or frustration, you are releasing the chemicals from your body that create those emotional responses in your brain.

So, tears ARE LITERALLY part of a healing process, the bodies way of flushing out those feelings. So, can you see how it can have such a negative effect on your emotional, or even physical, well-being when you don't allow your body to get rid of those 'toxic' chemicals?