A really cool tool I learned in therapy

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A really cool tool I learned in therapy
Clean42day - Sat 14 Jan, 2006 7:12 pm
Post subject: A really cool tool I learned in therapy I was taught this many many years ago and just wanted to share it with you all....because it is powerful and is still working today..........

I had entered therapy for inner child healing and would, on more than one occasion, ask my therapist what to do ?

any good therapist knows not to just give us the answers to our questions but that they are there to guide us to our own answers that are already within us.

she told me to imagine that I had a daughter my age in my situation.....

and to imagine that she came to me with the same question............

She told me to write that "daughter" a letter and give her the best advice or suggestions I could concerning the issue.

Most of the time I would get about halfway through the letter and find my own answer.......

Many times if we just step outside of our self long enough to become objective....and follow our own advice....we become empowered do the right thing.

I have new sponsee who told me she was involved with a married man. He smokes pot, lives with his wife and two children 4 houses away from where she will be living when she leaves treatment.
she asked me what to do?

So I told her what my therapist told me to do.......

imagine she had a daughter in the same situation (starting recovery and changing her life)

Write her a letter and tell her what you think she should do.......

needless to say....by the end of her letter....she called him up and broke it off.

sometimes we just need to find our own answers........... Idea



love and light

gail bunnydance

p.s. has anyone else tried this and had success with it?



flickchic - Mon 23 Jan, 2006 4:44 am
Post subject: hello,

not yet, however it sounds very worthwhile trying.

thankyou felicity



fibiray - Mon 23 Jan, 2006 5:58 am
Post subject: Louise Hays has always said a similar thing about forgiveness. Whenever it comes to a struggle forgiving a parent ( in my case my mother) she says to visualise my parent as a small child and apply the same understand to them as you would a wounded child. This I found quite an effective thing.