Dishonesty

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PostPosted: 16 May 2005 09:54 am
I find that I lie when I have either done something that I do not feel good about or when I have not done something that I know that I am supposed to have done...in other words, when I lie, it always comes from a place of shame or guilt.

When do you lie?

Frankie
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PostPosted: 16 May 2005 10:32 am
Mostly my lies today are to save people from the truth that might upset them. I heard it said as white deceptions or omissions. Anyway you
put it its lying. Sad hug
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PostPosted: 16 May 2005 06:22 pm
Lies, wow, I think to when I was active, my life was a lie. It has taken a lot of sobriety to recognize truth. Lying and my alcoholism seemed to go hand and hand and they both made quite a mess of my life.
Today I do my best to avoid even the "white" lies. Today, for the first time, I'm in a relationship that's based on being open and honest. It's not only a wonderful feeling, it's also a relationship that grows stronger everyday because of the honesty, it seems to breed love.
Bry
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PostPosted: 27 May 2005 08:27 pm
I like to catch myself in the middle of a lie in front of everyone and pull my own covers that instant.....having to interrupt myself and say....excuse me I must apologize... what I just said was not entirely true.....and then proceed to tell the truth......In front of everyone.....usually does the trick to make me think twice next time.......

the embarrassment of telling the truth the first time....is so much better than the humiliation of being caught in a lie or pulling my own covers in front of everyone.......

it sure builds character.....and more often than not.....the person witnessing my cover pulling episode.....has usually thanked me for honoring them with the truth and living by example.

through this process i have learned to not outright lie anylonger....but I sure have had to find creatrive and softer ways of speaking my truth too.

I don't get to build my character at the expense of others feelings. I try to speak the truth in a way I would want to hear it.

Gail