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*dalin* · 02-20-2008, 02:50 AM

Imagine that you are on a hiking trip in the middle of the desert. You see a figure in the distance. It is an old man bearded and half naked, on hands and knees, with his fingers clawing at the sandy earth. You ask, "What are you doing?" "I'm digging for buried treasure," says the old man. "How long have you been at it?" you ask. "Weeks--months maybe. It is hard and slow work." You notice the old man's bloody fingers and his raw and calloused knuckles. You say, "Listen, man! Digging with your bare hands is a pretty inefficient method. That hole is only a couple of feet deep. Let me loan you my shovel." You reach into your backpack, pull out a light-weight, tempered-edge spade, and drive it into the ground. In less than five minutes you have demonstrated to the old fellow that more progress can be made in moments than he could make in a month of using his bare hands.
Then an amazing thing happens. The old man's eyes fill with hate and his face flushes angrily. He charges at you, grabs the shovel from your hands, and throws it away. "Get away from me with your new fangled contraptions," he says. "I've been digging this way all of my life and it works fine. Now you just get out of here and leave me alone. I'll be fine doing it my way."

Many people seeking revovery fom addictive disease are the same way that this old man is digging for treasure. They attempt to maintain their clean time without the tools of NA. If digging with your bare hands is the only way you know to get the job done, you do it that way. But it is slow and hard, and the chances of finding treasure in the form of long-term, comfortable, clean time are very slow.

Meetings are a tool for recovery much like a shovel is a tool in searching for teasure. A shovel gives you a better and more efficient way to dig. Having a shovel does not guarantee that you will find what you are looking for, but it sure does increase your chances and it makes the process of searching for it much easier and more enjoyable.

But let us go back to our old digger. Suppose he takes the shovel you offer him. But suppose that after awhile he comes to a rock that the shovel cannot penetrate. You offer him a pick ax and once again his goal becomes attainable. Working the steps of NA and attending NA meetings together provide the pick and shovel necessary for large numbers of people to reach the goal of remaining clean.

But still many people who have used their hands, used the shovel and the pick, and still have hit gigantic boulders that cannot be removed with the tools they have. Getting a trusted sponsor provides an air hammer--if you choose to use it.

Having the proper tools does not remove your responsibility to use your hands and dig in the right place. The right tools just let you get farther faster if you choose to work at it. It also does not guarantee that you will find long-term, comfortable recovery. But it does increase your chances.

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Kaya · 05-20-2008, 02:24 PM

Hello,im Kaya, 29 searching kind of desperate for a sponsor:

1)Which 12 step program are you a member of?
i am a member of N.A.

2)What is your date? 19-12-2006

3)How many times have you been through the steps?
never (desperate to get started!)

4)What is your favorit recovery slogan?
one is one too much and thousand never enough

5)In one paragraph,describe what you expect of
your sponsees? at least online cintact once a week, MSN or similar would be great for me because I find it easier to chat than to write mails, but not a must!

6)In one paragrapht tell us who you are?
im Kaya, 29 from Denmark, fighting my addiction of drugs, alcohol and lies. Changed my life 180 degrees the last 17 months, im married , got a little daughter aged 2 1/2.

7)How many meetings a week do you attend?
one RL meeting, 2-3 online meetings

*CD BUCKBERRY* · 05-23-2008, 04:32 PM

Welcome Kaya,Keep Coming Back,You should probably try and get to a couple more N.A. meetings .Raise your hand try and share.90 meetings in 90 days works but is not easy because your daily life might interfear.Try and get a woman sponsor,they help because you can let out you questions and feelings to them.Keep strong girl.

02-20-2008, 02:50 AM	#1
dalin Super Moderator Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Canada.One month a year either in Smyrna Ga,or Franklin louisiana Posts: 2,026	Free Tools Imagine that you are on a hiking trip in the middle of the desert. You see a figure in the distance. It is an old man bearded and half naked, on hands and knees, with his fingers clawing at the sandy earth. You ask, "What are you doing?" "I'm digging for buried treasure," says the old man. "How long have you been at it?" you ask. "Weeks--months maybe. It is hard and slow work." You notice the old man's bloody fingers and his raw and calloused knuckles. You say, "Listen, man! Digging with your bare hands is a pretty inefficient method. That hole is only a couple of feet deep. Let me loan you my shovel." You reach into your backpack, pull out a light-weight, tempered-edge spade, and drive it into the ground. In less than five minutes you have demonstrated to the old fellow that more progress can be made in moments than he could make in a month of using his bare hands. Then an amazing thing happens. The old man's eyes fill with hate and his face flushes angrily. He charges at you, grabs the shovel from your hands, and throws it away. "Get away from me with your new fangled contraptions," he says. "I've been digging this way all of my life and it works fine. Now you just get out of here and leave me alone. I'll be fine doing it my way." Many people seeking revovery fom addictive disease are the same way that this old man is digging for treasure. They attempt to maintain their clean time without the tools of NA. If digging with your bare hands is the only way you know to get the job done, you do it that way. But it is slow and hard, and the chances of finding treasure in the form of long-term, comfortable, clean time are very slow. Meetings are a tool for recovery much like a shovel is a tool in searching for teasure. A shovel gives you a better and more efficient way to dig. Having a shovel does not guarantee that you will find what you are looking for, but it sure does increase your chances and it makes the process of searching for it much easier and more enjoyable. But let us go back to our old digger. Suppose he takes the shovel you offer him. But suppose that after awhile he comes to a rock that the shovel cannot penetrate. You offer him a pick ax and once again his goal becomes attainable. Working the steps of NA and attending NA meetings together provide the pick and shovel necessary for large numbers of people to reach the goal of remaining clean. But still many people who have used their hands, used the shovel and the pick, and still have hit gigantic boulders that cannot be removed with the tools they have. Getting a trusted sponsor provides an air hammer--if you choose to use it. Having the proper tools does not remove your responsibility to use your hands and dig in the right place. The right tools just let you get farther faster if you choose to work at it. It also does not guarantee that you will find long-term, comfortable recovery. But it does increase your chances. _________________ __________________ If I am not the problem.... then there is no solution...

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05-20-2008, 02:24 PM	#2
Kaya fighter Join Date: May 2008 Location: denmark Posts: 16	Hello,im Kaya, 29 searching kind of desperate for a sponsor: 1)Which 12 step program are you a member of? i am a member of N.A. 2)What is your date? 19-12-2006 3)How many times have you been through the steps? never (desperate to get started!) 4)What is your favorit recovery slogan? one is one too much and thousand never enough 5)In one paragraph,describe what you expect of your sponsees? at least online cintact once a week, MSN or similar would be great for me because I find it easier to chat than to write mails, but not a must! 6)In one paragrapht tell us who you are? im Kaya, 29 from Denmark, fighting my addiction of drugs, alcohol and lies. Changed my life 180 degrees the last 17 months, im married , got a little daughter aged 2 1/2. 7)How many meetings a week do you attend? one RL meeting, 2-3 online meetings

05-23-2008, 04:32 PM	#3
CD BUCKBERRY Community Greeter Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 578	Welcome Kaya,Keep Coming Back,You should probably try and get to a couple more N.A. meetings .Raise your hand try and share.90 meetings in 90 days works but is not easy because your daily life might interfear.Try and get a woman sponsor,they help because you can let out you questions and feelings to them.Keep strong girl.