Easiest Veiw of the Steps

[dalin]

Softer Way

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An Easier & Softer Way..for the Newcomer

Step 1: I had an "Old Clunker" parked in the driveway.
I had just about given up on it, but decided to make a
whole hearted attempt to restore it.

Step 2: I couldn't fix it, but I came to believe someone could.

Step 3: I turned the car over to a mechanic.

Step 4: I took an inventory of all that was wrong with the "Old Clunker."

Step 5: I shared the inventory with the mechanic.

Step 6: I helped take off the old parts.

Step 7: I let the mechanic handle the rest.

Step 8: We made a list of all the parts that were needed,
and got together and went over them.

Step 9: I admitted I hadn't checked the oil and fluids properly,
or fixed the other things that were going wrong. It was my
responsibility to take care of the car, and I had not. I wanted
to help, but being unfamiliar with the process, I allowed the
mechanic to fix things. The car turned out beautifully!

Step 10: I checked the oil, fluids, tires etc. more regularly, and
when I didn't the engine didn't hummmmm.

Step 11: I called on the mechanic whenever there was trouble,
asking him to fix the car.

Step 12: That mechanic and I had become such close friends...
we decided to take a trip across the country, and stopped to help
all that needed it along the way.

[Montauktammy]

How did you know I like old cars??

Becoming a sponsor is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself in recovery. The relationship between sponsor and sponsee is a very structured one, one where you can work on your own relationship skills without the complications of romance, family ties or work. Some of the skills you will develop as a sponsor are acceptance, being emotionally present for someone else, listening, and letting go of the results.
Many of us have great difficulty giving love and support without either trying to control the situation or becoming a doormat. Sponsorship can provide a safe space to experience giving loving, caring support within a structured CoDA framework. In addition to developing your own relationship skills, being a sponsor will help you to a better understanding of the CoDA twelve step recovery program. For example, although you may have thought you really understood what it means to accept your powerlessness over others, explaining the concept to someone else may reveal new meanings to you. You may find that in order to answer a sponsee's questions, you have to spend some time studying CoDA literature for the answers, and this can only help you in your own program.
But mostly, sponsoring someone will make you feel great.
Giving back that which you have been given feels great.
Building a relationship on mutual trust feels great.
Helping someone who is trying to change his or her life and, if it happens, seeing that person change feels great!

[janbear]

I like that dalin, Thanks