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*clean42day* · 06-23-2006, 11:58 AM

Letting Go of Old Beliefs 23 June

Try harder. Do better. Be perfect.

These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how
hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us
and keeps us unhappy with the good we've done.

Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their
goal. We cannot feel good about ourselves or what we have done while
these messages are driving us. We will never be good enough until we
change the messages and tell ourselves we are good enough now.

We can start approving of and accepting ourselves. Who we are is good
enough. Our best yesterday was good enough; our best today is plenty
good too.

We can be who we are, and do it the way we do it, today. That is the
essence of avoiding perfection. ...M.B.

__________________________________________________ _

Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing
can be changed until it is faced.

ligha and love

Gail

flickchic · 06-23-2006, 07:56 PM

thank's Gail

fibiray · 06-27-2006, 01:47 AM

This is also pertinent to me but also when it comes to my expectations of others. My son came home from school with his report card and we have always said to him that so long as he tries thats all that matters. He won't be the top kid of the class but with the good things he has done we have given him a pat on the back and highlighted the many things that he can do with an average mark. My expectations of myself and everyone is has always been too high which causes me grief so i need acceptance of the things that I cannot change. thats me

06-23-2006, 11:58 AM	#1
clean42day Moderator Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Lancaster CA Posts: 1,770	Letting go of old Beliefs...Melody Beattie Letting Go of Old Beliefs 23 June Try harder. Do better. Be perfect. These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us and keeps us unhappy with the good we've done. Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their goal. We cannot feel good about ourselves or what we have done while these messages are driving us. We will never be good enough until we change the messages and tell ourselves we are good enough now. We can start approving of and accepting ourselves. Who we are is good enough. Our best yesterday was good enough; our best today is plenty good too. We can be who we are, and do it the way we do it, today. That is the essence of avoiding perfection. ...M.B. __________________________________________________ _ Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced. ligha and love Gail __________________ Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, we can all start from today and make a brand new ending. ~Carl Bard~ "Live today fully, expressing gratitude for all you have been, all you are right now, and all you are becoming." Melodie Beattie

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06-23-2006, 07:56 PM	#2
flickchic Registerd User Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: central wheatbelt, western australia Posts: 1,157	thank's Gail

06-27-2006, 01:47 AM	#3
fibiray fibiray Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: central coast nsw australia Posts: 875	This is also pertinent to me but also when it comes to my expectations of others. My son came home from school with his report card and we have always said to him that so long as he tries thats all that matters. He won't be the top kid of the class but with the good things he has done we have given him a pat on the back and highlighted the many things that he can do with an average mark. My expectations of myself and everyone is has always been too high which causes me grief so i need acceptance of the things that I cannot change. thats me