When it all gets too much / Slipped again

[arthur.g]

When it all gets too much and you want to say F**k it and get wasted cant get to a meeting cant get anyone on the phone can you give me some positive thoughts I know what I am gratefull for but at times even that doesnt matter. Help!!!!!

[annalittlebit]

[alcoholrehabcoach]

Originally Posted by arthur.g

When it all gets too much and you want to say F**k it and get wasted cant get to a meeting cant get anyone on the phone can you give me some positive thoughts I know what I am gratefull for but at times even that doesnt matter. Help!!!!!

Arthur,

First, I want you to think about something good, because I'm about to ask you about some things that are bad.

So think of one good thing that you know in your heart to be true, and just for a moment, fully associate to that one good feeling. While you're at it, go ahead and smile just for practice...

Now over the next couple of messages, if you can remember that one good feeling, then I'll give you some personal, sure-fire tips to help you when you are feeling down.

So to begin, tell me about one good thing in your life, and how does that make you feel?


Mike

[annalittlebit]

I have many good things in my life but the first thing that popped into my mind is that I am Cancer Free----That was not so in my recent past-----I am Eternally Grateful!!!!!!

[Craig A.]

First you can pray, pick up the phone, do some reading, talk with someone close and always remember where that drug/drink has lead you, we may be powerless over alcohol/drugs but we're not hopeless! This is a program of action not a program of thinking or feeling, I say this cause I remember that when I have those times, my sponsor told me just because I sobered up doesn't mean that everything was going to go my way but that i am free of drugs/alcohol and life will throw obsticles in my path. Today I can have bad moments/times and be grateful for them cause I don't have to pick-up because of it. This tells me you are living life and accepting life in the hard times. There is nothing that a drink/drug can solve it can only make the problem worse. Hope this helps, take care and God Bless!!!

[arthur.g]

Originally Posted by alcoholrehabcoach

Arthur,

First, I want you to think about something good, because I'm about to ask you about some things that are bad.

So think of one good thing that you know in your heart to be true, and just for a moment, fully associate to that one good feeling. While you're at it, go ahead and smile just for practice...

Now over the next couple of messages, if you can remember that one good feeling, then I'll give you some personal, sure-fire tips to help you when you are feeling down.

So to begin, tell me about one good thing in your life, and how does that make you feel?


Mike

Today and for the last 8 years the one greatest most beautiful thing in my life is my daughter I am fighting for me and her
God Bless Arthur

[alcoholrehabcoach]

Originally Posted by alcoholrehabcoach

Arthur,

...First, I want you to think about something good, because I'm about to ask you about some things that are bad.

Originally Posted by arthur.g

...the one greatest most beautiful thing in my life is my daughter.

Outstanding.

Now let's look a little closer.

I totally agree and feel for you when you say that sometimes even knowing what you are grateful for doesn't help. That's because at those times there is something that you deeply want or need that you are not fully aware of yet. And no, it's not a drink you really want, it's a particular feeling that drinking gives you.

Do you see how that makes sense?

Now I know this is tough Arthur, but sticking with me on this will give you some powerful ammunition when fighting for yourself and for your daughter. I'll be right here with you to help you figure this out.

Next, describe in detail, two different examples of times when "it all gets too much" and then I will help you see some deeply ingrained patterns that are contributing to the problem.



Mike

[arthur.g]

I have built up a huge resentment against my partners(who has left me at this moment) ex the way he treats her and his kids this caused a lot of friction with my and my partner.

When I am on my own I get very lonely and down and my mind runs riot.
I had a slip a couple of weeks ago and I have let myself and my family down one slip and my partner took some verbal abuse from me on the phone she didnt deserve it but said she has had enough that is really hurting.

[annalittlebit]

[alcoholrehabcoach]

Originally Posted by arthur.g

I have built up a huge resentment against my partners(who has left me at this moment) ex the way he treats her and his kids this caused a lot of friction with my and my partner.

When I am on my own I get very lonely and down and my mind runs riot.
I had a slip a couple of weeks ago and I have let myself and my family down one slip and my partner took some verbal abuse from me on the phone she didnt deserve it but said she has had enough that is really hurting.

What I am hearing you say is that the times when "it all gets to be too much" are:

1) When you have huge feelings of resentment building up
2) When you don't like the way you are treating your partner and your kids
3) The feelings you get when you are alone
4) When your mind runs riot
5) When you have feelings of hurt and loss
6) When you feel out of control

Is that accurate, am I hearing you correctly, or is there anything else you want to add before we go any further?


Mike
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