Topic "We All Fall Short" 11/22/08-11/28/08

[sonia n]

Watching out for your character defects throughout your day, and taking responsibilities for the part you played in it?

[letgo]

Yep and I am responsible for my recovery.
The extent of how well I work my program each day affects my responses to the world; people, places and Things.
That's where and when I know if I am off center and if any character defects are getting the best of me. My nightly Step 10 allows me to reflect over the day and to see what I have learnt - and what I can change/do differently.

[sioux]

I get to work on building good character today and everyday. I believe six and seven are those steps that are most important to how I live my life on a daily basis. I do fall short often. That is why having a relationship with my Creator is so dang important. Forgiveness, and the ability to start at "it" again everyday. Having courage to know when I am not living up to those ideals and to do something about it. My Creator is not magic jeannie. We make a beginning and we keep on going forward.

This week I am praying for the awareness of when I am becoming impatient, and asking Creator for help to be more calm and collected. I am the author of my own story.

[admin]

How I start my day makes alot of difference for me in how my day goes. When I start my day in prayer connecting with God my day goes alot better. Once in a blue moon I may forget to pray in the beginning and I can tell the difference when I do - especially in how I act. Great thing that I can stop and start my day over anytime. I find being spiritually fit and keeping myself spiritually fit and keeping my foucs on God helps to reduce those character defects of mine. I work on keeping my side of the street clean making amends when and where necessary.

[janbear]

Yes, we all fall short. I definitely do. With the help of the 12-step program and God in my life i have been given tools in my recovery to deal with my defects. Step 10 daily, sometimes a spot-check during my day is necessary. When i dont take the steps honestly i suffer . Actually just a couple of days ago, i found myself going to a friend in recovery, in the spirit of taking step 10. I had much relief, owning up to my wrong to her, and God. I am grateful for the forgiving spirit of others and God. Thank God for the 12-steps of recovery that gave this alcoholic/addict freedom from addiction and a new chance to live.

[allaflutter]

Even tho I am a tall person I often fall short [lol]
What I need to remember is to use my connection with God and the steps to get back on track. I do not get to beat myself up over falling short..As a child of God I know He does not take too kindly to child abusers...therefore I must forgive myself and accept my humanness..and accept that I am a slow learner and allow that to be ok as I continue to strive to do my best and be grateful for progress and leave the strive for perfection outside the door.
Thank You for the topic

[rebosman_99]

I am not the person that I used to be and yet I am not the person I strive to be. The person I was would do anything from character assassinating to gossip to people pleasing to get recognition. All these defects helped me to boost my ego when the truth was I really felt inferior to everyone. Those defects plus many, many more were my defense mechanisms for me to survive in a world that had only showed me cruel intentions from the very start.
The person I believe I am today no longer need's the limelight of glory to be somebody. I am o.k. with being just me. Though I fall short in many aspects of my life, I am given the opportunity to take a look at my defects and see how they play out in my life. I still hurt people from time to time, I still find ways to find false pride, I still make mistakes but I don't do those as much as I used to. The best part is that I have a support group that is always ready to call me on my **** and a sponsor who I can share anything with. Through these select people in my life I manage to see my faults and work on change and 10th step amends.
True humility is the acceptance of myself as just who I am. This does not mean being o.k. with my defects, to me it means being o.k. with myself and always being ready for the next lesson of recovery to come my way (which is daily).
I don't go out of my way to try and know all my defects however as they arise, which we all know they do, I am ready to work through them and try to do the next right thing so as not to have to suffer the pain that defects bring us.....
SAM

[sonia n]

Good Morning,

Honestly I do not like the feelings I get when I fall short, because I know that I am a good person. There was a situation that I had to take a look at that I played in and made amends. I do not like to hurt anyone I am not like that. The one good thing I can say is that when I am honestly wrong I admit it. There is no if, buts or what about it!! If there is anything I have learned in this process is acceptance, willingness, open minded, change is one of the most important thingsg is changeing the person you brought into the halls...........

May GOD BLESS YOU all!!!

[allaflutter]

So true Sonia..

Change is inevitable and pain promotes growth and change
The suffering is optional